[Ask a Girl] Masturbation before sex

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Masturbating before sex

  1. Yes, I'm ok with it

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  2. No, I don't like that he does

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  1. anotherguy

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    So i was reading another thread and some of you ladies said you can tell if your partner has masturbated / wanked before having sex with you.

    What are your thoughts on this, does it bother you? Do you know what he is jerking off to and does it make a difference?
     
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    I'm ok if he does it, AS LONG AS he can get it up again later. I'm assuming you're talking about my thread.... He watches porn to get off when he's by himself, usually porn we don't watch together. We do watch porn together, but we both have our own interests as well, and i am not one for toon porn (anime). If he spanks it, and then can't perform later, then yes, i have a problem with it. luckily that doesnt happen too often.
     
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    You need a third option...but I voted Pro-mastaurbation. Especially since it would be hypocritical for me to say it bothers me/or disliked if he did.

    I don't mind that he does it, but I do mind it when he knows I am horny and more than willing to play...and he still chooses to jerk it.

    Another is that during sex, I feel complete knowing that he and I both got off, not just me. It kinda makes feel like I didn't do my part well enough to get him to cum...it's obivious he had jerked it earlier in the day when this happens...

    I'd have to say that the only partial benefit I see for me is that he lasts longer.
     
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    This would bug me too.


    YES! I hate that I get off, and when/if he doesn't, i feel like i didn't do my part. Its frustrating, and probably 'silly', but that's how i feel. it takes some of the glow away to know he didn't get off.
     
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    I often don't cum at the same time as my partner...or at all and she will probably cum a couple of times before I unload, sometimes it's because I've had a wank earlier in the day, sometimes it isnt, personally havent notice it make a major difference apart from that I will last longer.
     
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    I'll masturbate the day before since it does effect how long I last if it has been 2 er 3 days since I came

    But I'd never do it the day of sex. Might last TOO long. Plus....why lol
     
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    Well my SO can last only about 5-10 mins if he hasn't rubbed one out that day. When he does jerk it, he will last to at least 30mins or longer, usually he will not be able to cum for me....no matter how much effort I try to get him to.

    So in this case I'd much rather have two rounds of sex, one to get him off, the second round will last longer and this I'd could have multiple orgasms.

    RG: it really pissed me off when he did that to me....I was so damn horny that morning and he just went about his own way of things.
     
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    Normally my partner can't tell if I have masturbated earlier that day or not...only if she sees how much I cum then she will find out, like when she is finishing me off with a blowjob...does slightly piss off her, although I dont understand why...I still fulfil her needs
     
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    Well in my case he knowingly rubbed one out during his shower, while I clawed him all night and morning for him to make love to me...that pissed me off lol I knew he rubbed one off becuase he teased me in the morning (after his shower) and so I just straddled him and tried to intiate on to the next level (mind you he is getting ready for work) he simply said "I don't have enough time babe." When my response is "we only need 5 mins...please"

    ..."No cause I already rubbed one out"....

    :mad

    So my point being, I don't mind it at all as long as it does not interfere with my playtime or if he doesn't get off :D
     
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  11. rileyjane

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    I would prefer he save it for me.. But if he does it before having sex he will always make sure i am satisfied. But then i feel like i am not satisfying him like i would like to.. I would really rather he didnt before sex then we can last longer and have much more fun ;-)
     
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    I like knowing that he's masturbated. It's even a turn-on for me. He's a sexual person and he has urges.

    We don't live together, and sometimes we don't know if we'll be able to see each other, so sometimes he does it when he thinks we aren't going to get together, but then it turns out we can.

    Sometimes I get him to tell me what he masturbated to. It's usually something we did that he especially liked, so no, it doesn't bother me.