[Ask a Girl] Masturbating in front of your spouse

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  1. Shotspot

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    How many wives/girlfriends feel comfortable masturbating in front of their significant other? Fingers, toys, whatever...
    My wife loves it if I jack off on her tits, but is reluctant to touch herself other than rub her nipples while being fucked...any advice?
     
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    SO always happy to Jill off in front of me; she knows then not too long before it gets me hot and horny ;)
    She often asks me to lick her nipples as she attacks her clit and pussy with her favourite LELO vibrator.
    Sometimes she will suck me whilst masturbating :)
     
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    "Jill Off" I like it Bushy!! :D
     
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    I recently just experienced this while my hubby is away. I'm not quite comfortable with it yet, in time I am sure I will. I have a hard time getting off on my own :(

    He still enjoys it, which is what really matters to me and helps me enjoy it too.
     
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    Most of us have an exhibitionist streak? Watching your significant other enjoying you "jill" off does enhance the ensuing lovemaking! Love that term ibushwalker!
     
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    If I'm licking her or rubbing her and then I bring her fingers down with me, She kicks it into another gear!
     
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    I know how to use my toys if I want to cum hard. Guy from work used to fuck my ass. After he came I'd still be horny. I grabbed my wand and started fucking myself until I squirted. He loved it.
    Diesel wants to please me himself, not as big as having me finish myself, but I can start.

    As far as getting your wife to let you watch, encourage her, tell her how it turns you on, how sexy it is. Give her "permission" (not dom/sub but in an it's ok/ease way) to do it. Make her feel comfortable, that it's ok to have fun. Take the shame out of it.
     
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    my man luvs when i hold my pussy and ass open for him
     
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    Total turn on. She lays in front of me on the bed rubbing her clit and I stand in front of her doing a slow sensual stroke while looking in her eyes and letting my gaze move towards her ample DD's . Then I have to put my cock in......
     
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    This is something E really likes to watch, gets his blood flowing real nice, if you know what I mean :)
     
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    How many wives/girlfriends feel comfortable masturbating in front of their significant other? I do.

    My wife loves it if I jack off on her tits, but is reluctant to touch herself other than rub her nipples while being fucked...any advice? A reluctance has a background. We don't know the background.
     
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    Recently have experienced that I am much more comfortable when he tells me what he likes and what to do. Really helps bring down the nerves and enjoy the act of pleasing him.
     
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    When I am out of town for work we do it with each other on our tablets. It is actually a big turn on for us.
     
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    I encourage my wife to do it but she is not comfortable with me watching like that. I let her know how hot i think it is and try to make her feel comfortable as much as possible. I do understand though , if she just sat there and watched me and didn't say or do anything I would feel weird.
     
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    I love watching a woman pleasure herself toborgasm. My wife will do it for me either with or without my help. She also enjoys watch me stroke myself until I am ready to expload.
     
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    I have no problem doing it but my boyfriend generally won't masterbate in front of me. For instance if I was giving him oral sex he wouldn't 'take over' and cum over me (which would be quite good!). I have to do all the work!

    But it's not the biggest problem. :)
     
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    Have you tried asking him to? If I was asked I would do that in a heartbeat!!
     
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    It's just something he is not comfortable with. He does at climax but I have to get him to that point, he would not masterbate for an extended period in front of me. He says it is embarrassing.
     
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    It was for me the first few times but when I discovered what a turn on it was to watch her masturbate it made it that much easier for me.
     
  20. Shotspot

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    thanks for all the advice, tips, etc...we're getting there! LOL she will rub her clit for me once in a while now, but the idea of a vibrator is still no for her , unless I am handling it for her.