Masturbate before sex session?

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    EnigmaticSpirit New Member

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    I have posted a few times on here, I have problems cumming too quickly and have also had problems not getting hard. I was told that too much masturbation can cause the problems not getting hard and that I should not avoid masturbating for a while. But isn't it true that if you haven't cummed in a while, you will cum more quickly? There have been a couple times where I literally came right as I entered the girl's pussy. I am planning on having sex within the next few days and I am wondering if it would be a good idea to masturbate in that time or to save it?
     
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    It's much more likely to be related to performance anxiety. The performance anxiety might be related to frequent masturbation and attitudes towards sex that are more based on observations from porn. I would say I may have had that issue when I met my wife.

    What you will find is that if it is performance anxiety, then changing masturbation patterns probably won't make a difference.
     
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    Are you saying that you were told that if you stop masturbating that this can cause problems?
     
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    Oh that is hot though, especially if he can get hard again right after and fuck my creampied pussy.

    You should masturbate regularly, it will help improve your endurance. Alternatively you could just have lots of sex. A lot of guys get excited real fast so I just have sex with them a lot to build up their endurance levels. Or i tell them to jack off more, and it works. One of my exes cummed every time i looked at him, and it got real annoying for him because he had to do a lot of laundry. He never masturbated and didn't even know how to, so I had to teach him, and I also raped him countless times during the day, and in no time, he was lasting hours before cumming. But as soon as he would go away for a week, he would be back to exploding in his pants every time I even touched him. At least I knew he wasn't cheating on me ROTFL.

    Oh but as for not getting hard that's probably due to anxieties, worries, stress, ect. Just relax and have a good time ;)
     
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    More regular sex with your partner and practicing techniques to last longer.
     
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    I jack off plenty and I guarantee you I'd be gone in 60 seconds (or less). I've always been that way. The only things I last at are getting head, and girl on top. Anything else and it's *pump pump pump pump pump pump pump pump spl0rt* :-/
     
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    I agree that it seems more like an anxiety issue. Lots of guys climax quickly, but not being able to get hard can be because you have some type of fear, not attracted to your partner, and probably some other issues.

    Try to spend less time worrying about yourself and more time getting your partner excited and bringing her to climax. If you just enter her and come and it's over, that is selfish and will not make you a good lover or partner. Focus on your partner.

    Of course, practice makes perfect.
     
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    What may help you budding is "peaking".

    You can do this alone or with a partner, firstly made sure your comfortable and not going to be disturbed & DONT WATCH PORN WHILST DOING THIS>

    Once ready make yourself erect then start slowly playing with yourself, slow movements gradually getting faster (should be the same as you do with sex) once you feel yourself about to cum STOP. wait 20-30 seconds for it to pass then start again.

    If you do this long enough (each time I do it for 15min) you will gradually improve personaly stamina.

    Another tip is to do the kiegel excercises, they are designed for women who have had children strengthen their pelvic wall, what you do is have a wee but keep stopping yourself.

    Both these tips work, I used to be a pump pump oh fuck then I read some sex therapy books whilst working away and now my misses is always satisfied.