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  1. HuntersPrey

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    Question is: Do I really have a "problem"?
    Im 24 I stay horny it seems like but my bf and I dont have sex but like once a week. On the other days that we dont have sex I masterbate he says I have a problem. Says I want to have sex too much. I dont think a couple times a week is too much and once a week is FAR from too much. I dont really think its a problem but Ive been known to be wrong a time or two so I just figured Id ask.
     
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    Tell the bf to stuff it. If ya wanna masturbate, do it, girl. God, if masturbating more than once a week concerned my husband, he'd have dumped me long ago. I average about 4-5 times a week, 2-3 times a day, depending on my mood.

    Really, your bf has no right to judge you or make you question yourself like you are.
     
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    Thanks I didnt think I had a problem either but really wasnt sure. It hasnt been but like a year when I finally figured out how to get off by myself and now he wants to condemn me for it. And I hate having to question myself for everything I do.
     
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    Ha, If I were your man I'd encourage it and watch any chance I got. :)
     
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    Um, my SO loves that I masturbate and that I'm comfortable enough with him to tell him that I do and every once in a while to do it in front of him. Does your bf masturbate? If so tell him to drop the double standard. :)
     
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    he's not giving you enough "special attention" and usually that doesn't end to well in a relationship.
     
  7. Dreama

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    Girl, any man who tells you masturbating is a problem has a problem of their own...It's called denial. He probably masturbates more than you do, and doesn't want to admit it.
     
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    Love can make room!

    Difference in sex drive is not strange in a couple. Just because once a week is all he handle doesn't make him a bad guy. And that need need it everyday does not make you a bad girl either!

    Guys naturally tend to get defensive when the girls wants more sex than he does. Help him see the positive aspects of it! And learn that you just have to accept each other. Offer to do yourself in front of him while he sits back, relaxes, and enjoys the show. Any guy would like that!
     
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    seems to me that he's the one with a problem .. once a week? too little!
     
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    Yeah - if that didn't get him going, I don't know what would :phat
     
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    There are some men out there who are very uncomfortable with female sexuality. My ex boyfriend was one of them and told me that the thought of me masturbating "disgusted" him. He didn't want me doing anything sexual in which he couldn't participate. Anyway, I think he might have been a closeted homosexual.

    But honey, most guys love it. If the sight of you masturbating doesn't turn your boyfriend on then I'd check his pulse to see if he's alive.
     
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    Well I've tried to get him to watch but he doesnt. He lays beside me and watches tv and will never touch me or talk to me at all in the process. I guess the thought of me doesnt turn him on??? :ugh
    On the other hand, he can sit on the puter for hours and watch porn... girls masturbating girls on girls people fucking. And this is not every once in a while thing this is every day or at least every other day.
     
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    I'd say he is not worth your sexy hotness:p But i think if he doesnt get turned on than and he does with porn he has issues for himself, but i hope it works out for you good luck!!!!
     
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    I think it's time to free yourself from "the cage".
     
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    You sound perfectly normal HP:female......as for your SO.....I think there is something seriously wrong with him :coocoo
     
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    Ya, he sounds quite messed up. Especially if you guys are in your 20's. 1 time a week might be okay for an older couple, but not a couple such as you guys.
     
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    I agree with Cowboy Lover. As a guy, there are times I do it multiple times a day. Right now it's usually every morning and every evening. That is unless I can get my wife to jack me off or fuck me. Depends on how tired she is after all day with the kids.

    There have been days where I've done nothing or where I will go as many times as I can. Some times, I'll just work myself up looking at some pictures or porn and then stop before I cum. Then after I've calmed down, I'll do it again. Taking myself to the limit over and over and over again. It usually results in only one orgasm for the day, but damn, when it happens it's great and that sexual tension I carry all day just ignites me.
     
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    Hmmmm. I think you are most certainly healthy sexually. Get it how you can, girl. I masturbate alone, with hubby, etc. If he cannot handle it too bad. Once a week is odd in your early twenties. Sounds like he needs to mature sexually.....Maybe you could introduce some toys and ask him to help you. If that does not get him going I dunno what will!
     
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    I have brought in a toy and he got mad and said that 1 was enuff cause he didnt want me to want that more than I want him and it cant be bigger than him and blah blah blah. And when I play with that he still gets aggravated so Im lost with him.
     
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    This just doesn't sound right to me. Isn't Cockslinger your b/f, and didn't you both post pictures here? I don't understand how someone that is that kinky has an issue with masturbation or sex toys.