massage concerns

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  1. johnbear123

    johnbear123 New Member

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    hey guys,

    i went to a sensual massage last night and had a handjob with lube and no condom
    is there any chance ive contracted HIV or some other STD

    at the time i was horny and just went there but now
    Im really starting to worry about this,

    has anyone else been to one of these and do i have anything to be worried about?

    any help is appreciated
     
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    Don't think you've got anything to worry about.....never heard of somebody getting anything from a handjob:ugh
    Unless she had really dirty hands that is....:D

    Oh, and welcome to the forums:sf :welcome
     
  3. Tanya

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    I don't think you have any worries, but a visit to the Doctor might put your mind at ease
     
  4. jxmetal

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    no worries at all.
     
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    123imax New Member

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    i've never heard of anyone contracting anything from a handjob, other then soreness if its done badley lol, but i tried a few searches on the internet and it seems like as long as it was just a handjob and nothing more you should be fine
     
  6. johnbear123

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    so theres nothing to worry about?

    i guess my biggest concern would be if anything managed to work its way into the penis hole and down the shaft whilst getting rubbed. I know that the hole does open up a little from time to time when masterbating or getting a hand job.

    see i dont know what she was doing before i got there and if there was any cum on her hands from the last guy etc. is this totally unwarranted? i will goto the doc but seing its the weekend im having a little trouble sleeping.

    another question, do the lubes they use have any antibacterial or std killer in them, ie: nonoxonyl 9 etc

    any more tips.,
     
  7. Brad

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    I very much doubt that the lubes used have any std killers in them.

    Did the girl appear to have washed her hands before doing you? Did her hands appear dry and clean prior to her doing you? Was the place generally clean and tidy?

    Regardless, I think your mind is working overtime, and I'd say you have not a single jot to worry about. As others have said, get tested if that is necessary to put your mind at rest.
     
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    It cant happen, Anything going in the shaft would have to be
    forced, As it a one way deal, And is closed unless you are pissing.
    And the act of ejaculation or pissing would flush it out.

    But just to be on the safe side, Give a hand job to yourself
    and save the money.

    Hiker
     
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    If this is true why do they do the swab test during STD tests? I'm not trying to be confrontational, I promise.
     
  10. Brad

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    I agree with your point Mel.

    If infected material is smeared over the penis head, or rubbed on it via a hand job, there's always going to be a theoretical risk of infection.

    I think the concern here with this guy is whether the girl had infection on her hands.

    Thus my question about how she appeared generally before the act.

    It remains my view that he has nothing to worry about.

    I guess if the girl had given numerous hand jobs in a short time leaving her hands sticky with the ejaculates, then there is technically a risk of shared infection. And of course only in the event that a previous client had any infection.

    But then any one engaged with giving such services would surely want to wash their hands as soon as the client had left?
     
  11. johnbear123

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    well the place looked clean and tidy i guess,
    the lights were dimmed etc though/

    with regards to her well she wasnt dripping from the hands when i got there as she gave me change etc, i didnt really look at her hands but yea.

    so u think im stressing over nothing guys?
     
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    Definitely stressing over nothing.
     
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    DEFINETLY

    If I ever get that worried about a simple hand job I will give up sex.

    Hiker
     
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    If there was previous ejaculate from someone else on the girl's hand, it cannot harm you because it had already been released outside. Since it was not immediately applied on you, all the theoretically microscopic bacteria and viruses would have dissipated into nothing.
     
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    Yeah well, I think you just worry for nothing dude..that is..

    Never heard of someone who's caught something bad with a simple handjob. When you think about it people even usually say it's safer to have sex with your hands to stay safe :p
     
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    thanks guys,
    you have definately helped put my mind at ease.

    i might see the doc too but hopefully all is well.

    i guess ive learned a valuable lesson here
     
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    the chances of that happening are slim to none.
    BUT if you think her hands were used on another guy before you and are worried she didn't wash them...i would get checked!
    but just relax! :)
     
  18. johnbear123

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    guys,

    i saw the doc today and ended up taking the full blood test etc but wont have results for a few days, today was hell and i think it will be until i get the results.

    i think the thing that makes it worse is the fact that my partner was overseas and i did it.
    i dont know if i should tell her or not,
    over the past week ive realized just how much she means to me and i now know that i want to ask her to marry me, but what do i do about this,

    do i tell her about it all or do i not mention it,
    see the thing is if i have an std she will catch it from me if i dont say anything,

    i dont know what it would do to us but it woulnt be good as shes very insecure anyways.
    what do i do guys? any tips here, i cant lose her,

    please help
     
  19. Brad

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    John Buddy,

    You have totally tortured yourself over the massage thing and clearly only the results of your tests today, will put your mind at rest.

    You have emotionally given yourself a beating. And that is enough.

    Once you get the all clear, and you will, there is no way that you should tell your partner about this thing.

    You should breath a sigh of well earned relief (no pun intended) and put the matter behind you. Confine it to the history books of life's learning curve.

    If your guilt complex makes you tell your partner, I can almost guarantee you that you will be back here shortly with a big problem.... losing a loyal partner.

    Your visit to that massage parlour has punished you enough already.

    Trust me mate, put it to bed and move forward.

    You have no need to further punish yourself.
     
  20. johnbear123

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    thanks again for all the tips guys,

    sorry to be such a pain, and yes i certainly have given myself a beating over this but i reckon i deserve it seeing what i have done to my partner.

    my last concern is if the test comes back negative will i then become worried about the 3 month results and thus not want to be active with her in the mean time,