[Ask a Girl] Married women

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  1. Curiositykilled

    Curiositykilled New Member

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    I am now in my early 30's married, had several sex partners prior to marriage and always just assumed I was straight. I am now finding myself attracted to beautiful women as well. Not for a relationship, and the thought of going down on one kind uninterests me, but I have been having fantasies lately of going at it with a girl. I just think it is weird I am just having these feelings now. Anyone had this revelation later in life?
     
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    I know a couple of people that this has happened to. One went through a process of finding themselves. The other was just experimenting. Its difficult in the framework of marriage and trust that you have with your spouse. You probably need to first check on the health of your relationship with hubby.
     
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    Honestly, he wouldn't be okay with it, and I would be worried that I would enjoy it. I love my husband and we have kids so I can't go down that road, but I just thought it was strange that I never recognized these feelings before. I have plenty of friends that are gay/bi-sexual. I think mine at this point are mere curiosity/boredom.
     
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    It is something you should probably address with hubby. If you are experiencing boredom, you should try to fix it. My wife and I started with boredom and it can really damage your sex life. You need to work through it together.
     
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    Thank you, yes, I am actually partly on this site to look up ideas for spicing things up. I live in a fantasy world these days involving every scenario except the one I have. This site seems pretty cool, very honest people, without the creepy vibe so far.
     
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    It is a good place for getting ideas. Good luck. I know how important it is in marriage to keep things fresh. my advice is to do it together. Communication is very important.
     
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    It is my opinion that 75%, or maybe more, of women are BI under the right circumstances, just my opinion.
    My wife is BI am I'm quite happy about that fact.
     
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    I know how you feel Curiosity...I had the same situation while I was married. My husband and I even talked about having a threesome but never did. We have since divorced (not because of these thoughts I might add) and I have had the amazing opportunity to explore this side of my sexuality.

    There is nothing wrong with fantasy/curiosity. Maybe you could look at some FF porn to see if it turns you on? Just a thought.
     
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    Hi curiosity !!!!! I havnt been on here in so long , many know me here and know my story which isdocumented in all my posts. To get to the point, I NEVER had any attraction toward woman, even during those "college days" but when my awakening happened, things moved quite fast and I found by trial and error that I can be very sexually attracted toward a woman.
    We live an open lifestyle and the majority of people we hang with are swingers, like any chemistry situation, there are select few woman that I want to play with.

    The road my husband and I traveled to get to the point we are at now was LONG and 100% packed with communication.

    message me if you like.
     
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    No, I have never felt any attraction to a female, unless she was so Tom boyish I didn't know she was a female:lol Do you think your husband would be mad? My husband has said he rather me leave him for a man instead of a woman ( if I ever left him)