Married couples-did you have sex before marriage?

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Married couples-did you have sex before marriage?(Multiple answers OK)

  1. No sex before marriage.

    4 vote(s)
    4.6%
  2. Vaginal intercourse.

    68 vote(s)
    78.2%
  3. Anal intercourse.

    21 vote(s)
    24.1%
  4. Oral sex.

    64 vote(s)
    73.6%
  5. Mutual masturbation

    44 vote(s)
    50.6%
  6. Prostate massage.

    9 vote(s)
    10.3%
  7. Sex toys

    27 vote(s)
    31.0%
  8. All of the above sex acts.

    12 vote(s)
    13.8%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. oldkinky

    oldkinky Active Member

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    DW and I fucked on the second date and continued regularly until marriage.
     
  2. Puss_in_boots

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    I have corrected your post for you, Oldkinky. :p
    (I can't answer your survey because I'm not married yet)
     
  3. vickisam

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    Yes to all of the above. Sam and I did it also on our second date and never looked back. If fact, I do some of these now while he watches. I am SO lucky! I love him so much. :)

    V

    PS like the new avatar? ;)
     
  4. suite91

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    All of the above.

    My wife and I have been together nineteen years, our wedding was five years ago September twentieth. We were each others firsts for many of the items on the list.
     
  5. heelfetish

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    All of the above. We were much more active in the bedroom before the wedding vows. We had a lot of fun. :)
     
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    I would have to say yes but only on three of the above counts! They were vaginal, oral, and mutual masturbation! Wow that was a long time ago and we have def indulged in the other counts since we have been married!
     
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    Yes to all the above, my ex and I were extremely sexual active before marriage, and stayed that way threw out our marriage. It only got hottier while we were married.
     
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    Some "manual manipulation" but that was all.
     
  9. stu73

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    To answer the question: With my first wife, we had intercourse before marriage. With my second (current) wife, we did all the above and a few things not listed. And it's been as hot or hotter since we were married.

    I do have rather strong feelings on this subject. I firmly believe not having sex before marriage is a mistake! I also believe that a good and healthy sex life is critical for quality of life, and therefor quality of a marriage. I can't imagine spending the rest of my life with someone I'm not sexually compatible with. I don't think it is something that can be worked out to mutual satisfaction in every case. I see far too much suffering and sacrifice between couples that are not sexually compatible even though they are happy in most other ways. Perhaps the sex life you want is something you're willing to sacrifice for a special someone, but it's best to know what will go into a marriage before it starts.

    I also believe it is a mistake to marry the only person you've ever had sex with. I made this mistake the first time around; but then again, we were young, and I don't think either of us knew what we wanted. Unfortunately, as we grew we grew different goals and desires, in sex as well as many other aspects of our way of life. Fortunately we parted on good terms, both realizing we wanted different things from life. If I had it to do over, would I do it again, I don't know. I have no regrets, but I can learn from my mistakes. Not knowing what I wanted sexually, as well as other tings, be it from ignorance and lack of experience, made that marriage destine to end. It was good while it lasted, though.

    What I have now is better in so many ways!

    Some will disagree with my point of view, for various personal, social, or religious reasons. I understand that, this is my opinion and belief, not trying to start an argument.
     
  10. Dreama

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    We had sex before we got married. There was no reason not to.
     
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    Yes we sure did have sex before we married.......in fact we had sex the first night we met. And being married 9yrs. hasnt changed anything , we have sex as often and regularly as we did before.
     
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    Had vaginal intercourse before marriage.

    Married 21 years and still working on the rest of the list.
     
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    We had oral, intercourse, and mutual masturbation on our 3-4 date, and haven't stopped since. Married 12 years now, and we've had some slow periods, but I'd say in the last year or two, our sex life has really heated up...definitely hotter than it was when we first met, in fact. I'm hoping we can keep the ball rolling.

    I would agree with one poster...if sex is important to both of you, then yes you should have sex before you are married. If sex isn't that important to either of you, then wait. (Of course, those people probably aren't on this forum, are they?) If it's important to one but not the other, then I don't know.

    BD
     
  14. FlirtyChick

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    I guess I don't need to answer now....
     
  15. HardRocker

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    We dated for 5 or 6 months before having sex, and continue to do so.
     
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    As your poll shows, those who NEVER has sex b4 marriage is 0!
     
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    I think my wife and I hold the record for length of abstinence before caving to our impulses, at least so far in this thread. We had become fast friends and wanted to make sure that wasn't ruined by moving too quickly.

    Up until I met her, I always tried to get into their pants starting with "Hi, my name is..." Sometimes it worked, sometimes not.
     
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    Made my poor habby wait 3months before we'd sleep together (after our first date) just had to make sure he was right...i don't just sleep with anyone (and now i'm turning into a swinger ROFL..hmmm...)
    I never gave him oral (he went down on me though) or done anal with him until after we were married.
     
  19. Thorn

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    Rose and I planed to wait 'til marriage. About two weeks before the wedding things got a little too hot and as we were making out I slipped my hand down the front of her pants and after a short time I started fingering her. To our surprise she began to orgasm in about 5 minutes. After which we took our clothes off and she gave me my first blowjob of my life and swallowed.
     
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    Now that is just H*O*T. :dgrin Spontaneous is good...

    BD