married but need a guy

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  1. ericasex3

    ericasex3 New Member

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    I need a man because my husband has got fat on me 5,10 180 pounds to 290 is this wrong?
    I feel so bad but i need a guy that is not fat and slow fucking in bed that can keep his cock hard more then few min! he is 37 years old and im 27 im still young and have needs he smells and i cant stand him he always wants me to give him bj's all the time what should i do:ugh
     
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    Have you discussed this with him?
     
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    180....290.....what have you been feeding him?
    Why did you marry him in the first place?
    tell him to have a bath and shape up.....or.....ship out!!
    And I'd cut the bj's unless he's prepared to return the favor.....

    Oh'......and welcome to SF:welcome
     
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    I cant tell him i feel sorry for him but i have been wanting other guys.
    yes he was 180 and was in gym all the time now he got up to 290 and I CANT STAND him and married to him.he likes for me to call him names and call him fat he thinks its a game it turns him on.
    he thinks its a game but when i tell him this stuff i mean it.
    his fat has made his dick shrink i never thought that could happen? he yells at me if i dont give him bj's.
    i am 5'2 97 pounds b cups tits and i work out all the time!
     
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    The weight gain might be medically related (ie...hypothyroid, depression)--he needs to see a doctor.
    But if you think it'd be better to find another guy to fulfill you, instead rather than talk to him, it sounds like you guys have some real problems communicating.
    Do you think the weight gain might be a passive-aggressive way of driving you away?
     
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    Sad to say this but i cant help it he had a heart attack.I know this is bad for him but i have needs.but he loves me to call him names and say he sucks in bed. I would like to ask how did his dick shrink?
     
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    With that kind of weight gain, it's going to look smaller proportionally, and he might have developed a fat pad at the base of his penis--so when he's not hard, it's going to retreat into the fat fad, making it look smaller.
    After a heart attack, there is a tendency towards depression, and he might have feaqrs about working out.
    Also, it sounds like he's filled with self-loathing, which is why he delights in you belittling him. Might be,too, he's got some submissive qualities he wants to explore.
    Have threatened to see other guys to his face?
     
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    he has filmed me sucking other guys in are car and he loves it! why do you think he likes it so much.
    i tell him that im doing it for him and that i dont like the guys but in my mind i love sucking on them omg this sounds so bad.
    yes he has got a fat pad if thats what its called he smell like pee when he has me suck him like he he has pee on his balls or something.
     
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    The plot thickens .......
    If he obviously gets excited by seeing you giving bj's to others...and I hope your having "safe" sex girl....
    How would he feel about you having sex with them?

    Have you spoken to him about his personal hygiene?
     
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    should i tell him i want other guys?
     
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    Yes...be honest with him.....tell him how you feel, not just what he wants to hear you know....:)
    Another thing you may want to consider.....
    Are you genuinely in love with him?
    Or....are you staying around because you feel sorry for him after his medical dramas?
    You have found friends and support here.....;)
     
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    mmmm i have friends?
     
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    sorry im being a lil flirt and i dont even know you lol
     
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    :D that's right.....but in due course, we can rectify that:lol

    Now....about your existing problem????:uhyeah
     
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    Wow, you don't even sound like you're serious. But if you are, looks like it's time for a divorce.
     
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    I need a guy like i said im very horny he cant do me right but i dont want to leave him.he is always half hard i need a guy to have a nice hard one lol!
     
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    how do i post a pic of me?
     
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    You cannot post any sort of nude or adult photographs of yourself on these boards, and you haven't been around long enough to look in the adult/multimedia category.
     
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    I was not going to buy into this one but frankly something awfully wrong is going on and I cannot begin to work out from which side.
    IMHO do something positive or get the hell out pronto.
    Your suggestion of seeking other guys whilst staying with big boy really sucks and coming from me (as others might know) that is a notion at odds.
     
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    From what I gather, the last thing you need is another guy. You need, for starters, a kickass dildo and vibrator. Secondly, you need some help in learning to communicate. I've always found that joining forums like this to be very educational. If you look around in this forum, you will find some very helpful advice.

    Right now, for instance, I think you should check out this thread:


    http://www.sexualforums.com/9570-i-loathe-him-i-really-3.html

    See? I was just like you 3 years ago!

    This is something I wrote just today...

    http://www.sexualforums.com/25861-sexless-marriages.html#post250754

    I have a feeling you will find some valuable information there.

    Thirdly, I think you need a hug and a welcome to SF community. Keep posting, it will be better for you than you think. :)