So, I have been a long time reader - first time poster. Hope I don't jump into this too quick but I have a problem that has been pestering me for a while. My wife and I used to have a great sex life - that is, until our children came along ( I guess a byproduct of a good sex life huh?). I love my children more than anything and would not give them up for anything so don't misread my post. Problem is, our sex life is basically non-existent now. We still have sex but it seems so routine and rushed. I am always the pursuer never the pursuee. I have tried many different ways to spice it up but to no avail. Examples: 1) Told or Texted her what was on my mind and ideas for that night 2) Instead of just outright asking, I told or texted her that I thought she was beautiful, sexy, and irresistable hoping to spike her interest. 3) Have blatently asked for her to take a nice relaxing bath (really important for working mother of two), wear lingerie, drink wine and see where it goes. 4) We love to watch movies so I found movies that are more erotic hoping to enhance things - still nothing. 5) Backed off and didn't say a word about it. Went two months without sex or even touching. 6) Try to let her know how I feel about her every chance I get. 7) I have even acted like a child and acted upset about it. Changed for a night - next day. . . .same old same!! I am at an ends here - don't know what to do. So my question is to those of you that have children or not but preferably around our age. But have you and your wife (or husband) been in this situation? Was it more them than you? What did you do to get out of the slump or am I in for the long haul? Thanks in advance for all of the suggestions!!