Male virgin

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Catch55, Oct 28, 2010.

  1. Catch55

    Catch55 New Member

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    Hi everyone.

    As you can see I am new here, so if this post is in the wrong section, I apologize.

    As you can see by the title, I am a virgin male. I don't really feel any peer pressure to have sex, but Id like to at least fool around with a girl. I have a few questions, any and all feedback would be appreciated.

    Some of these questions may seem obvious, so I apologize fore my ignorance.

    -When I go to parties and bars, I am fine chatting up girls, and getting them to laugh etc, but how do I get them back to my place? I seem to hit a roadblock at this point.
    -When hooking up with a girl, and I cum during foreplay/blowjob, is that a turnoff? How do I get hard again, what do I do after?
    -How soon will I cum? 30 seconds?
    -Do I shave my balls? Can I just trim them?
    -Where do I cum? If Im receiving a BJ, Im probably not going to last long, so do I cum in her mouth? Face? Tits? Do I ask? If Im F****** her, do I cum in the condom?
    -Im going to be nervous as hell, right?

    -Should my first hookup be with someone special? I suppose this is a personal question, but the reason I ask, is because I know a girl who has told me she'd F*** me. Im wondering whether I should take her offer (she isn't that attractive, and isn't someone I admire as a person) and just get it over with, or should I wait for someone who I at least respect/admire? Again, its a decision I have to make for myself, but any advice would help.


    Thank you very much. Any other advice/suggestions would be appreciated.
     
  2. Meee

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    Hi. Welcome. Most of your questions are based on the assumption that you're going to lose your virginity to a girl who is almost a stranger. Instead of "getting her back to your place," get to know her. Ask her out on a date. Make getting comfortable your goal, not getting laid.

    Instead of asking us what might be a turn-off, get to know her well enough to communicate with her about what she likes. It's the same for asking us about where to cum. Communicate with her. If you're both comfortable enough, she'll let you know.

    You'll be nervous in direct relation to how much of a stranger she is to you. The more you know her, the more you communicate with her, the more comfortable you get with her as a person, the less nervous you'll be.
     
  3. Z_Hunter

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    I agree with Meee, the better you know a girl and the more you let her know about you the closer you will get to her, and the more the nervousness will dissipate.

    On the other hand the guy in me tells me that you should just go bang this first one out with whoever is willing just to get it out of your system. Losing your virginity as a guy sucks, its hard to please a women when you don't have much self control. Its best just to get it out of the way in my opinion. Now, if you do decide to go this route just be up front about what you want with this girl so you don't end up hurting her. You never know maybe this girl likes taking guys virginity.

    Whatever you decide just remember communication is the key to getting good at sex.
     
  4. HardRocker

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    Every young guy wants to fuck and get fucked REALLY badly, but there are many ways to make it a great experience instead of a 5 minute letdown, and then the realization that one of the major milestones of your life was squandered. You aren't going to get it back. A lot of replies will say the losing-virginity thing is over hyped and meaningless. And that's fine too, but just because it's that way for them doesn't mean it is for you and many others. That's something you should consider before you choose your path to learning to have sex.

    Sex is about coupling and pleasing each other. I'll briefly diverge and say, if a girl really really wants to give you a non-reciprocated blowjob - whip it out and have at it(I'll draw some fire for that). It'll feel great. But that's a shallow sample of what it's all about.

    If you meet someone who you like and respect, and she feels the same way, then you can turn it into cautious exploration and finding out about each other, and all those questions will answer themselves. And when they do, you will probably find that what you do does not resemble entertainment-porn.

    Others here are very eloquent at giving pointed advice, so I'll turn it over to them now.

    EDIT: I see Z got in with a decent reply while I was writing. So take what we all say, consider some and toss the rest, and let us know how it goes.
     
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    The best form of sex is with your wife, so I advise you be patient, for patience is one of the great virtues. If you cannot then it is understandable but do not have intercourse with someone, you're better off wacking it than committing a greater sin.

    Young men are often very horny, almost like animals, I was once too, but love with a wife is the best kind of love making.
     
  6. SWGirl

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    I have a younger brother who is getting to this age/milestone, so I'm going to try and advise you as I would advise him. Treat losing your virginity as you would treat your overall goal in relationships. If your goal is to fall in love with a women, woo her, marry her, and spend your life together, then by all means wait for her. She'll love and appreciate every bit of you for it.
    If your approach is to spend a few years "finding yourself" and what you like, while casually dating different girls over the course of a decade or so, then go ask a girl on a date and wait until the relationship progresses to that point to have sex. You'll probably have a few partners until you find one to really commit to.
    If your approach is to be "a player" and sleep with every girl you can find to do you, then that is your prerogative, and you should probably get the first experience out of the way ASAP.

    Do you know the cool thing about all three of these attitudes though? The fact that you're a virgin scarcely matters in any of them. Don't be ashamed of it or think it's some festering imperfection that needs to be lopped off. It's not. It's just something else about you. "I've never eaten Rattlesnake, snorted peanut butter, danced on the beach, or made love to a woman." There's no shame in that. Just pick what's right for you.
     
  7. Barbwire

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    Catch, if you do a search here either under the tags list or just type in the terms yourself, you will see that all of your questions have been discussed here many, many times. By doing a search you will find lots of helpful information, I am quite sure.
     
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    I lost mine to my math tutor which, I was a freshman and she was a senior in High School. Yes I wished I would have saved it for the special person, because she turned it into nightmare for me. She told everybody and little to my knowledge she was the town whore. After that It was very hard for me to date in that town. Also I read a article in A Maxim Magazine that couples who give their viginity to each other have a better chance of staying together in the long run. I guess no dark storyies to hide right.
     
  9. too_thick

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    Best idea is to learn how to have multiple orgasms/ejaculations


    My personal best in 45mins was 4 orgasms and 2 ejaculations , all while mantaining a erection.


    If you want to see if your PC muscle is strong enough try cutting off you piss flow while taking a piss.
     
  10. Z_Hunter

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    Thats kinda irrelevant to this conversation.:ugh
     
  11. too_thick

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    well he wants to last longer?
     
  12. NewHere

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    Going by a few of your questions, it seems like you are relating your first experience to what you see in porn. In real life, most of those acts don't "just happen". Having sex or making love to someone for the first time doesn't usually involve the question "Where do you want me to cum?".

    I was nervous as hell the first time I was with someone. Of course, I thought they were "the one". To me it was a very meaningful experience. While they weren't "the one", it was still something I will never regret because I knew it was what I wanted on the terms I wanted. If you want it to be a meaningful event in your life, then please listen to what Meee and Z_hunter said.

    If you just want to get it out of the way, just be careful about who you decide to do that with. Be sure you know the person enough to be safe about it. Losing your virginity is a one time thing. An STD is forever....