Male masturbation: A bad habit?

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  1. Sammael

    Sammael New Member

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    I don't know if there's a God or if there is not. To me at least is irrelevant.

    Masturbation will hardly affect you physically, but psychologically will really affect you. It won't be nothing dramatic, but days will become weeks, and weeks months, and months years.

    The reason because it will affect your mind is that masturbation leads to porn, and porn leads to masturbation, and that cycle will worsen with the time. Your sexual psychology will depend on porn to be aroused. In other words, you will rely on fantasy to get aroused. Your penis will get used to your hand, to the grip of it.

    Without knowing you are digging your own grave. Because your sexual mind will demand something different. At first you will get aroused by a woman havinf sex with a man. Then that will just not be enough. Then you will look for lesbic action, then threesome, then orgies, then 30 guys cumming on a girl's mouth.

    But what happens when you have girlfriend? Wife? Lover? You will have sexas usual. But one day you will start having performance issues. Maybe stamina, maybe erection problems. You won't care that much until it happens twice, maybe three or ten times. Then your confidence will start to fall, and you go for the easy fix. "I am only 25, I can't posibly have erection problems". And you buy some pils, Viagra, Cialis, you name it. It will restore your confidence, and it will actually work for a few weeks, but after that you will notice that the problems are still there.

    Guess what? You fucked up your mind. It is not your body. your body is perfectly fine, but not your mind. Your mind is broken. Your body is so used to masturbation, to porn, that a normal woman will just... not be enough.

    The psychologycal part of sex is the most important aspect of sexuality. While the physycal part is only 5% of it.

    My advice? Leave porn for good. That is a fantasy that provides you with a deformed reality. Stop masturbating and have sex. And don't forget that you have programmed your body to react to certain things for 10, 20 or maybe more years.

    Can it be reverted? Maybe. Just start programming your sexual mind with the right input. Meditate a lot, workout. Learn how to live a life without stress even when the world that surrounds you is full with it.

    Save you form yourself. Unlike women, guys need to get it up if you want to have fun. The hand does not care if you have a weak erection. You will get off anyway, but while doing that you will be fucking up your life.
     
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    Are you a compulsive masterbater that has trouble meeting women and feels a need to find a boogey-man to blame for it, and masterbation fits the bill? Because that's what it sounds like. After all, the underlying premise for believing the house of cards above is that people are 1-dimensional.

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    Porn leads to masterbation?
    My take-away from sex ed (one of them) was that it was important to keep your penis clean. That's actually what lead to my first masterbation. Later I'd start off with images of women in swimsuits and lingerie ads from Self magazine. I made tapes with loops of Janet Jackson from "when I think of you" to listen to while jerking off to pictures.

    Your mind is broken?
    Part of growing up is getting the ability to distinguish fantasy from reality. In fact, it's a skill that's essential to an enduring relationship because quite frankly, the attraction described as love at first sight is fantasy. Fantasy has a role, it's significant in initial attraction. The real fact is that fantasy without reality is just as bad as reality without fantasy.

    And I think you'll find that no amount of masterbation makes you prefer it to a real woman.
     
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    I do feel sorry for the younger generation when it comes to porn. When I was young there were girly magazines and some Danish porn, mostly picture books of stills taken during the filming of those early 8mm porn loops. It was mostly straight heterosxual, with kinky being limited to anal sex and shaved women (even then). But it was new ground and no rules, so some of those magazines also had beastiality and under-age sex.

    I bought a VCR in the early 80s, mostly to record Formula One Grand Prix late at night to watch the next day, and of course I bought some porn video casettes as well. These would have been filmed in the late seventies, and always had a plot which tied the sex scenes together, and the sex scenes were fairly straight heterosexual sex, group sex and some lesbianism.

    These days the world is churning out porn clips and DVDs by the thousand and millions, and there are only so many varioations of heterosexual intercourse or even group sex. So we have soul-less gonzo films and other things not really worth watching, and having no relationship with what normal people do. Indeed the coldness, the hardness and the abuse of the women truly turns my stomach.

    I have my original video casettes now copied to DVD, I have some newer films which are proper films with hardcord sex, especially a couple of marvellous French porn films which are very stylish, and where everyone not only is sexually satisified, they all look like they're having a great time as well. Et Je parle le Fran├žaise aussi, so what could be better, ne'est pas?

    We all masturbated, and it's great training for sex if we take our time and do it properly. All men are fascinated by the visual, so porn has been around since pictures were first taken, and prior to that in stories and in bawdy art. It's the current crop of porn I have a problem with, particulalry the near-abuse of women, but if we look we can find good, stylish and healthy porn, even today. But if you can't find healthy porn, then I agree with the OP that it's better to do without! Masturbation is fine, it doesn't lead to ED, but a lot of porn could be psychologically damaging.
     
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    Well, this is something that happened to me at some point of my life. I am just sharing my experience.

    Answering your questions, I am not a compulsive masturbator.

    If you read my post carefully, you will notice that I do not think people are unidimensional. I said that human sexuality has its physical part as well as its psychologycal side. Perhaps you did not understand what I was trying to say, or it was I who is a little bit confused with your comment up there. Anyhow...

    I don't argue that every person is sexually diverse. You for example started masturbating to keep you penis clean. And then used different materials to practice masturbation.

    My belief is that, with the technology at hand, these days most men masturbate with porn, for two reasons: It's easy and free. Based on that premise, in my opinion, 99% of sex content shown on the Internet is staged, and shows a false image of what sex really is. It generates a lot of confusion in many people.

    I agree with you with what you said about fantasy and the role it plays in love. What I was trying to say when I referred to fantasy in regards to porn, is that it shows all these misguiding images of how sex should be like, or how a man or a woman should be like, sexually.

    Examples:

    "If my penis is not 20 cm or bigger, I won't be able to be a good lover"

    "If I can't make my girlfriend/wife/lover scream and have plenty of orgasms that means that I am a lesser man"

    "Every girl's dream is that her man cums on her face"

    I am not saying that people actually believe those things. But it does affect your psychology at some degree.

    Oh, by the way, I do have a girlfriend and we are a normal couple. At some point of my life I did have some problem with porn. Nothing too dramatic, but it was something that I realised it needed to be changed. And I did. Just sharing some experiences.

    Good night
     
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    on my point of view that if a parson is healthy he will do masturbation
    it is normal even it will be live bad effect on his body mantling or physically which coming time will teach hem
     
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    I think that some men have had angst about penis size, but I think the current obsession about size does come mostly from porn. Apart from the actors being generally bigger than average they also use some tricks, mostly wide-angle lenses used very close up, which makes things look bigger than they are! I have compared some porn actors penis sizes to women's hands and fingers, and they typically long-ish but not that long, and they aren't very thick at all.

    I have had sex with, literally, more than 100 women and only 2 or 3 had screaming orgasms! But most of them did come at least once, if not a few times. And I've never, ever come on a woman's face, although once with a woman who was as hot as all hell, we finished a session of anal sex by me coming all over her stomach. It suited the moment. That's once with how many partners, and how many thousands of times of sex?

    Fortunately my sexual blueprint was written before porn became a big thing, so I recognise fantasy from reality.
     
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    Yes, porn is unrealistic, baseless, warped, disrespectful, extortionist, and to top it all off, boring. And yes, too much of it can mess up your sex life. Masturbation? That, my friends is a healthy, normal, fun, exciting, and one might go so far as to say necessary part of any complete sex life. I masturbate. So does my girlfriend. Probably close to as many times as we have some kind of sex. It's not twisted, harmful, hurtful, or even in poor taste. We'll talk about it. We'll ask each other questions about it. We'll discover stuff about ourselves that we can then share with each other and use in our couple's love-life. On occasion (when she's reaaaally turned on) watching each other has even been a component of sex.

    Masturbation is only a problem if it gets unalterably tied to the prerequisite of porn, and if it hurts your regular life and sex life. It's like everything else natural: healthy in moderation.
     
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    Bollocks. I'm a 20 year old, who let's just say has not had the best luck with the ladies haha, so I've watched quite a bit of it. (Who doesn't in their teens?). Despite that, I've never been affected by it, when I watch it, I can clearly see the it's faked and unrealistic and if I ever treated anyone like they treat the girls in porn, I'd get a punch in the face, not a BJ lol. Any time I've had a girlfriend, I've never once treated them like a cumbucket like the girls in porn are, or had any sort of performance issues. Total bs.