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  1. ratmfan

    ratmfan New Member

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    Hello all,

    I am looking to experience anal sex with a partner for the first time. I have always been an anal-erotic male; frequently masturbating using a butt-plug and toys. However, it has never been the most clean experience.

    Allow me to explain my hygiene routine and then express my concern.

    Before playing with myself, I either go to the bathroom and then use an anal douche or just simply douche to induce a bowel movment. I use a pretty standard CVS bought plastic douche bottle that I fill with water, and fill it up and repeat until I'm significantly clean and pressure is relieved (sometimes it only takes about 3 fillings, others it can be up to 10.) Pretty much immediately after this, I will insert my butt-plug (medium sized, about 6 in. circumference at the widest) and get myself warmed up. I use a standard ID Brand water based lube.

    For about the first 2 minutes, I expect a little messiness, so there is usually a little bit of fluid or anal mucus that will escape when I remove the plug (nothing too disgusting, just like yellow to brownish mucus and water). This is fine, and after a little bit, I clean up and it seems to subside for the most part, and I begin playing.

    Here is my problem though: this mucus will periodically escape again throughout my session, depending upon the angle of my body (standing vs. doggy, etc.), no matter how clean I seem to be, even on my best days.

    My question then is this: does any experienced reciever of anal know what I'm talking about, and is there a way to minimize this substance leakage? It would be pretty embarrasing to have this happen with a partner. I'm an otherwise good bottom, very relaxed and willing.

    What are people's routines for anal preparation? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you.
     
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    Well, mind you, I am not a receiver of anal (except when my wife occasionally sticks her finger in me when doing a hand job), however, I did work in a hospital in patient care a number of years ago and have kept up with developments in the medical and health field (not a medical expert, mind you). Anyway, I am aware that when some people are being prepared for medical examinations or procedures in the anal area or colon, they are sometimes placed on low residue diets. We used to use a mild shampoo like soap in enemas ("called soap suds enemas") and gave them until the water came out clear. There is this stuff called "X-Prep" which will make you defecate your brain, but I doubt that you want to go that far! No doubt others will comment here too. Good luck!
     
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    Love, don't do the enemas directly before you play. Give yourself a little time between the cleaning and the playing. The problem is, the enemas induce contractions which make you have a bowel movement, and those contractions don't subside immediately. By you sticking something else in your bum, you're simply exacerbating the contractions. Give yourself a little rest between. As long as you don't cleanse, then eat a huge meal, then play, the cleansing will have the same effect, with less mess during.
     
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    1.) try eating a high fiber diet, zero fast food so you have those good, non-sticky, regular bowel movements. only let yourself poo in the am and your body will get used to going only in the am. then when you play at night you'll be a long time from defecating and relatively free of stool around the anus.
    2.) you can still freshen up before sex, but be so careful with the enemas. you can seriously off set your electrolytes, a delicate balance, and give yourself a heart attack.
    3.) i can't see any anal activity that is going to be completely clean. condoms should always be used. i'm not just preaching about STI's here, those bacteria do not belong in the urinary tract and cause raging infections. although honestly, i tell my bf this but since we don't use them with vag IC, he doesn't want to use them in the bum. but whatver that's on him.
     
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    I love anal and have been doing it for years, giving and receiving.

    I've found that douching is not very effective. Unless I've had diarreah, there's no reason to clean out more than 5 or 6 inches up my ass. However, cleanliness is still extremely important. But the reason I dislike douching is because of the leftover liquid that is always going to be up there no matter how hard you push. It actually makes things messier if anything in my experience.

    What I do is go to the bathroom, then in the shower, if I think there is anything left, I finger myself and try to clean everything out. After that, I use a little bit of soap (too much will cause irritation and act as a laxative) and finger again. This also helps to loosen up your asshole so you enjoy penetration more.

    Lastly, I wash very well around the hole and then dry off. Works every time!

    You seem to be making it more complicated than it needs to be, but to each his/her own.

    Hope this helps!

    -Emt
     
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    Check out GAY NET DOT COM! It's a huge web site and you'll find a zillion testimonies about what you are looking for.
     
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    Thanks for all the responses.

    Just to clarify, I don't use enema fluid, whatever that may be, just plain water. There's really no contractions or anything; and I only hold them for like 10 seconds, sometimes less.

    It's interesting to hear other people's routines. Personally though, for some reason I store a good amout of fecal matter in the anus. I know I've read that "the anus is not for storing fecal matter, only it's passage, etc. etc." This really doesn't apply for me. Very rarely have I just been able to have a bowel movement and then have a clean anus after.

    Has anyone had experience with this yellowish mucus though?
     
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    IF you put a fluid into your ass, there are contractions..... but hey.... do your own thing, baby.
     
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    What is Gay Net Dot Com, JuicyBrucey? I can't find it. =[
     
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    it's called, Gay.com! he mis-printed it! you can also go to justusboys.com! mind you it is a gay fourm and porn site in one site. So you may want to visit in a non public area.
     
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    But, In my area, considering me to be a gay man, your going to face a little bit of everything. no mater HOW! clean it is. It's better to just take a dump sometime mid day and eat things like fruits and vegies and shakes. Things that don't really create a lot of fecal matter, such as a hamburger, or chicken.

    about an hour before anal play, rinse out like you ar doing with the water, but only do it about 3-4 times and dispell. After words, Take a warm shower and wash te exterior of the anal area. after words, take another 30 min till anal paly actually occurs.
     
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