Sex is a broad concept. It can be all physical, or perhaps all emotional, but usually a combination of both. When having sex with a partner we care about, it is an interesting exchange where we derive our pleasure from giving pleasure to the partner. It can be all "giving" or all "getting" depending on how you experience the encounter. For you, is sex all about your feeling good, all about making your partner feel good, or somewhere in between? How much of your sex is about feeling the love flowing between your two bodies as you experience an oneness with your partner, vs how much is about your physical satisfaction and release? Do you seek sex to fulfill your own physical/emotional needs or as a bonding with your partner. How selfish or unselfish do you feel when having sex with your partner? How do you think your partner might answer these questions? Would you discuss how you feel the experience of sex applies to you?