hi all, > challenge - making her orgasm any possible way. > problem #1 - she is not a communicator. she's timid and all I have been able to gather is she can have multiple orgasms with a vibrator (never fingers). Dismissed my question if she ever came with anyone...(I don't think so) and in general is not talkative about sex. > problem #2 - she is not allowing me to go down on her!!! ( I know this sounds ridiculous) Yet, - she SHAVES!! (in my mind this doesn't match up...) She's told me she was never hurt there, and at some point "let" others go down on her (-doubt it - as why would one stop?), but she starts resisting and pushing me away, and only recently I got some "temporary access", only after I told her that I really wanted to -for "myself", but she was extremely tense and in a two minutes I got: "ok, enough" -(...now one could doubt my ability - but she will not let me even try it once, so it's not "me" - what I feel is she cannot ...relax, - get into that "sex zone" somehow... one time she told me - "but what would I do, when you down there?!" -!!!! ) > problem #3 - she seems to have some concentration issues she closes her eyes when we have intercourse. seeing as far as i understand distracts her. it rather upsets me, as through out the years I've learned to satisfy a woman first, and couldn't even come first couple of days, until she told me i had to (!)... any advice/ suggestions? - of course there is more, - I'm just trying to piece some signs / details together in my head to see if there is something else I can do... thanks all!