Girls and guys, please help. *** I know its long. The bottom is an example of a conversation so you can see firsthand what Im doing. Thanks for reading*** I seem to always misread signals when it comes to girls. I cant figure out why. Please help. I have had GF's in the past but none recently. My game (especially with girls I don't know) is.... well non existent and it is killing me. I know how to flirt but thats it. I cant tell if girls are being friendly or coming one to me. I usually think that girls are flirting with me but I cant tell. I think they see me just as a friend and they are being friendly with me. I honestly don't know why but i think it is because I will push them away before I can get pushed away. The lack of self confidence is not helping and is dwindling more and more. If I am friends with the girls (or know them) then I am more comfortable talking with them, I can flirt real easy and simply be my sarcastic, corky self. However, I don't know if they are responding to me as a friend or flirting. I am 20, a Sr. in college and a virgin. Being a virgin bothers me a little. But I am not looking just to go fuck somebody. I cant pinpoint it, but I think its because I just feel alone and unwanted. I think its a reason that I am loosing confidence. Im not worried about what girls think about me being a virgin because I go for the type of girls (not slutty) that usually don't care about that. - I will add, I am not looking the "the right girl" or anything like that, it just hasn't happened yet because I haven't dated lately. The girls I dated in hs, were good girls why were not ready for sex. It didn't bother me. (I was a lote bloomer) Im not asking how to get laid, that will come in due time, I just want to make that clear - I am asking for your input on how to read a girl signals so I can at least have a chance. So I can gain some of that lost confidence, go on some dates. (its hard to put into words) When i do get numbers and start talking to girls... It fizzles quickly. When I ask if they want to go out with me on a date or to a party or something, I will start to see a decrease in interest and contact all together. I know it had a lot to do with confidence. If anyone can give me tips on things to look for or whatever please help. This is an expiation of what happened last night. This is a girl I have known since kindergarden (we lost contact). I have always thought she is hot and honestly out of my league. I summarized my conversation I had with her, throwing in some details so to show why I thought she was hitting on me and how I was getting mixed signals all night. . If you see something I don't see. Point it out. Thanks for reading. I was on FB last night and I see She is on. I have not talked to her in about 1 year and before that it was a few years. She lives down the street from me and I would see her all the time. I started out just chatting, not intending on flirting o hitting on her at first. We started to catch up talking about school and family. She told me she likes a guy but said its really not going anywhere. She also said its my fault we never hung out when we were younger because she said, she is a lady. Lady's are not supposed to ask. But then she threw me a curveball and asked if i was gay.... I was confused. She claimed it was a serious question but she didn't think or expect me to say yes. "It just seems that people you don't expect are coming out today" Then told me to ask her if she was a lesbian, which she answered, "no Hahahaha" (idk). She called herself cute an I agreed. But then she said im Jk, I don't want you to think that Im full of myself. I made a comeback of, oh its cool im pretty full of myself too, probably a little more than you due to me being taller. She laughed at that. (Laughing at a lame joke...) She even went as far as telling me she doesn't do drugs, like sluts, bitches or cheaters. I responded with holy! Im the exact same way! She asked my sign. I responded with I don't know, told her my bday and she told me what I was (I forgot) and said. Well thats unfortunate, we can never be together. Then I said, Oh, then thats not my birthday! She laughed hard at this. I think she wanted me to ask her for her number or ask her out or something because she said something I didn't understand, then - Your a smart guy, im sure you will figure it out. Goodnight im going to wash my face (idk). I typed "last thing", but she signed off. I messaged her, "you got off right as I was going to ask for you didgets... but noooo go was your face... ill talk to you later". Then immediately, I got a message back with her number and " Now hush. and don't call them digets. I'm a lady." I waited about 10 minutes and sent her a text, "You are correct. You are a lady. Thanks for sending me your number." She replied with -Through out this conversation I was getting mixed signals. But overall I fell like she was hitting on me. At least thats how I perceived it. But I don't no how act on it with out it turing into all the rest. I hope this made since to you. I am open for and suggestions you have.