Love, and orgasm

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  1. valadia77

    valadia77 New Member

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    I am very much in love with my boyfriend of over 2 years. However I never have had an orgasm from intercourse. I have had numerous orgasm forced out through prelonged exposure to a toy or two. He thinks that I am not attracted to him (he is very handsome and sexy). He thinks I don't enjoys it (actually I do enjoy it and I have fun in bed). My main problem is relaxing and concentrating on what I am feeling. SHould I get a sex therapist?
     
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    Most female orgasms start with the clitoris or the g-spot. Intercourse is bad for stimulating either, which is why the majority of women don't orgasm through intercourse the majority of the time.

    But of course there are lots of other ways, oral before is my preferred option. Another is you or your partner to stimulate your clit during intercourse if you pick a best position wher you can do this. Rubbing a partner's clit is possible in many positions, especially rear entry positions like doggy style or cuissade. A woman rubbing herself is also possible in many positions, and can be hot for a man to watch.
     
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    Cbmale brought the G spot up, Well it is my experience
    that the G spot can be stimulated by intercourse. But it takes some
    effort by the man, I have concentrated on it a few times by fucking
    from an angle that will allow maximum pressure on the G spot
    And I try to do it very shallow and make sure that the head
    rubs against on each stroke, But that generally involves
    complete withdrawal every stroke and that creates a problem
    of forcing air into Her which can be unpleasant for Her or distracting
    when it comes out
    Also oral sex is what I think most Men do to make sure that the
    Woman gets a orgasm, I personally like to make sure She gets
    at least 3 orgasms from oral.

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    I suggest continue masturbating, but do it alone, and spend time experiencing the different sensations that you achieve. As you learn your body, and it's 'pleasure spots', you can take that knowledge to bed with you. I have found that 'cowgirl' position is very good for a woman to control exactly where she needs to be stimulated, and also the pressure, etc. You can stimulate your clitoris by positioning his pelvic bone to rub you.

    It takes time for a woman to feel free enough to totally let go of all inhibitions and ALLOW herself to orgasm. He needs to be patient with you... and you need to be patient with you, as well. In the meantime, it's important that your partner understand that a woman CAN fully enjoy sexual intercourse, without achieving an orgasm.
     
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    I agree with others practice masturbation, oral sex and g-spot.
     
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    A Woman must allow herself the joy of orgasm

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    Statistically, about (or more than) 70% of women never or rarely orgasm through intercourse, which is something I should have mentioned in my first post. This may put some perspective on my suggestion about your boyfriend mastering oral sex.