I don't know how I can explain all this without it coming out to read like a novel, but I need a sounding board, so please bear with me. I have a friend has has been a very close "horse buddy" for a number of years. She is part of the core group of women that I go horsecamping with. We all tend to plan our trips so we can be parked next to one another and we save each other stalls for our horses. It goes beyond that, but in general, we are buds and we stick close to one another. Now, this friend confessed to me a few weeks ago that she's been having affairs on her husband. I understand her situation, and never passed judgement on her. We all have needs, right? Then, a week ago, my friend calls me and says she's planning a get away with one of her lovers and wants me to back up her story in case anyone asks. I felt weird about it, but let it pass. On our last camping trip, she did a lot of things to make it obvious she was screwing around and used me and another close friend as pawns to try to deny it when people started to ask her questions about where she was. She showed up a day and a half late at camp and we waited around for her. We fielded questions from other people that are not in our inner circle about our friend's whereabouts. She showed up at camp and started acting obnoxious and pissed a lot of peole off. We, her friends, covered for her again and tried to keep the peace. There's a lot more to the story of that camping trip, but I'll suffice it to say I was left feeling like I'd been used and treated like shit just so my friend could have some dick. Now, just today, we were discussing our next trip and my friend is bringing her lover. It was kind of the last straw hearing that from her, so I told her I thought she was being indescreet and that she really ought to think about what she was doing BEFORE her husband found out. She sent me an email saying she never wanted to hear from me again and that I'd overstepped my bounds. I wrote back to her and told her that was fine because I didn't want to be a part of her deception any more. Now, I feel just sick about the situation. I can't believe I've lost a friend over this. I should have kept my mouth shut, but I just couldn't take it any more. Was I wrong in saying what I did?