I'm just tired of this on going battle between hubby and I. Its just getting irritating. Our sex life is basically nonexsistant ant. The same scenarios play out all the time. I want to have sex and he doesnt, he never initiates sex, there isnt any affection. Its just so....empty. When we were dating thats all it was sex sex sex sex and more sex, when ever we could get a moment alone when ever our time together was short we still made time. Within the past 4-5 years he's changed. He's not interested he's not turned on. He's even told me that he cant control himself, so if he's horny he might not get hard or keep it up. Then on top of all of this when we do have sex is short lived very short lived. I cant do this any more I'm tired of getting turned down and not feeling wanted. I try and make it about us but if i just leave it up to him to make a move when he's ready it will never happen because he doesnt think about being with me he doesnt think about sex on a regular basis so with him it never happens. I cant keep going and just waiting for the nothingness of him coming to me. He should want me, he should need me. I know it all sound selfish but come on 5 years??? How long am I supposed to wait for him to get out of his rut? How long should I wait for his libido to catch up with mine again? HOW LONG? I've been very supportive about this and offered up anything I can do to help him through it. Its just seems he has a lack of intrest. I know that him possibly going through a phase or what have you takes time but what am I supposed to do when I just want to be wanted and acknowledged? It just seems the harder I try to help him the less he wants anything to do with me. He's not the same person as he was 2 years into our relationship. He's only 27 and has his issues already. Whats going to happen when he's 40? I'm just tired of this what ever it is. I'm really just venting because I have no one else in my life that would understand where I'm coming from then you wonderful people.