looking for male masturbation advice

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  1. reprezent

    reprezent New Member

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    My problem ---> I have difficulty feeling an orgasm when I masturbate, though I am able to get hard and ejaculate with absolutely no problem.

    Analysis ---> I have explored various options, been to hospitals, clinics, and counseling, and I am fairly convinced at this point that it has to do with my technique. Apparently nothing is wrong with me that medical doctors can detect, and mental/emotional therapists all have differing and not very helpful ideas. I know what an orgasm feels like because I used to be able to have orgasms through intercourse. But I have never had an orgasm through masturbation, even though I can ejaculate with no problem.

    My old technique ---> I have always preferred slow and hard/tight rubbing as opposed to soft and quick. This has had varying levels of success at producing pleasure during the masturbation itself, from pretty depressing all the way to stellar, but it has had no success at providing the feeling of orgasm during ejaculation. Ejaculation experiences have been everything from painful to slightly uncomfortable to absolutely no feeling (good or bad). Once or twice I have had shimmers of a promise of an orgasm, but nothing more.

    My new technique ---> Now I am focusing mainly on soft and quick "pumping," but interspersing some slow and slightly tight rubbing here and there for accents. It seems to be working. I "feel" closer and closer to orgasm, though I still have yet to actually achieve one. During masturbation, the sensation focus seems to be less on the skin and more in the inner root of the penis, as if something awesome is gearing up to happen deep inside. The sensations I feel at the point of ejaculation with this technique vary from absolutely no feeling at all to slightly pleasurable (at least there is no pain or discomfort, no matter what). And, with this technique, I generally feel a sort of afterglow that is pretty much how I felt when I used to have orgasms through sex in the past. So that is nice.

    ANYHOW, to those guys successfully masturabating and orgasming, how do you do it?
     
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    masturbating

    I'm a pro at it.
    Have you tried lubricating your penis with soap, lots of soap, especially when your in the shower, and slowly stroke your penis being sure to increase the pressure on the down stroke as your hand slides over the head.
    Secondly, try covering your penis with a silky panty while masturbating, that is always a sure thing. Try both wet and dry.
    Thridly, when you get to a point of ejaulation, slow down or stop as not to ejaulate, and when the feeling disapears, continue the process several times.
    It may take practice but it should work.
    I'm supprised a Uroligist can't help you.
    Good luck.
     
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    thanx for the advice! The last point about bringing it almost to the point of ejaculation several times seems especially promising.

    I was also very surprised that the uroligists I have seen couldn't help... i still suspect that they just don't know what they are talking about. I kept getting told that the country I live in is behind in terms of urology and sexual therapy... Maybe they will catch up to me when I'm an old man and give me a few good years of wrinkly fun!! Until then, I'll keep trying!

    Other guys out there: want to chime in?
     
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    Hi R, we're all different up to a point, but your problem sounds very
    unusual indeed!

    It would be nice to know your age and how long you've been having
    successful orgasm from intercourse?

    I imagine your case would be very interesting to many urologists and
    that at least one of them would want to write a paper on your problem!

    I suggest that you try harder to get someone to listen, you may or may
    not have made history.
     
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    I agree Elvis,
    Age may have a lot to do with it.
    Maybe your problem isn't physical, therefore perhaps a "sexual healer" might be your answer.
     
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    I've never had a problem. I've always gently gripped the skin and inch or 2 below the head and moved it up and down about an inch or 2. It sounds sort of close to your new technique not sure.
     
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    i do the same thing.. bring it close, then stop, and repeat until the urge is too strong, maybe even then hold it a few more times.. but when you do finnish it'll be good, hopefully
     
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    I know this is a thread for guys, but if I may chime in just a bit...I know a guy that used soap in the shower to masturbate, and it gave him a urinary tract infection. Just thought you might consider that.
     
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    Just grease the pole , and pretend your hand in the female pole dancer...

    Or as Micheal jackson may have said

    Just whack it.
     
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    Good point! I actually tried soap a few times, but it resulted in a sore tip/hole afterwards, and sometimes sorness along the shaft. Not good! Not very pleasant during the masturbation, either. I have found that facial soap used with a condom on is GREAT, though.
     
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    dove soap or non scented hand cream may be good as well :)

    Just do not use what i was once dared to do before roflmao...
    vapo rub is not a good option although it does warm you up greatly hehehe
     
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    Ok, actually, I am not having successful orgasms from intercourse anymore. Which is part of the problem, but I am now taking a step back and returning to the masturbation phase to see what I can learn there. Oh, I am 32 as I write this now.

    The history of this weird problem is as follows:

    1) Never had an orgasm from masturbation.
    2) Used to masturbate by rubbing up against the bed. BAD!! I stoped in college.
    3) Had my first sexual experience at about 20 or so. No problem with anything in sex.
    4) Stoped having orgasms in sex at about 22 or so. Some things that stand out in my mind as being possible influences to this:

    a) My most intense break up ever left me emotionally wounded for a long time.

    b) The cause of the break up was, apparently, my girl friend being sexually abused as a child by a family member as well as memories of teenage date rape encounters. The flash backs begun when I made her say my name during sex --- which probably strengthened my already forming "penis=bad" identification.

    Interestingly enough, at about that time, I developed allergies to coffee, black tea, and green tea in that order.

    5) Went to various doctors for help, starting at around 28 or so.
    6) One doctor prescribed paxil. Upon taking it, I had an almost-orgasm while masturbating once. That very same day, the allergy to coffees and teas went away. I had been testing it over the years...
    7) The near orgasmic experiences started to fade after that, and eventually I stoped taking the medicine.


    I appreciate all the advice and sympathy!! I hope this outlines my situation in enough detail but is not too long or boring... I also think that someone out there should be interested in writing research based on my problem (hopefully curing me in the process!!), since I have been through tons and tons of books and websites without seeing much reference to lack of orgasmic experience in males... It seems to me to be mental/emotional, but whatever the cause it should interest some medical researcher out there!!
     
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    Interesting!


    Dove facial soap with a condom and a little bowl of water on the side seems to provide just the right consistancy for me. I like to let it get dry and thicken up a little, and then go back and add water and let it get a little thinner and sudsy, and then wait till it thickens up a little again... the variation is nice.
     
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    :) Sounds like a plan to me, anything wit hhand cream ( as long as it has no perfume in it would be a viable option :)

    Or as one female did to me before ...poured corn oil over my penis ....extremly slippery rofl
     
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    I'm no doctor, so I cannot advise.
    Your problem sounds like a cross between something psychological and physical, but possibly more physical.
    Very unusual!

    I would try very hard to find a urologist who is interested in this condition before blue balls sets in!
     
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    Hi wat i do is put on my fav kind of porn girl on girl get my lube & toys out lay back on my bed then i lube my anal toys up & my cock & off i go as i bum fuck myself wit my anal toys i play wit my cock i give myself about 3 or 4 anal orgasms befor i make my cock cum there is no other orgasm like this now befor you say or even think it this is only for gay men & doesnt make you gay so trust me you must try it you will love it once you know how to do it
     
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    Out of interest from no stimulation to a vibrator up your bum - how long does it take to get to orgasm with no penile stimulation
     
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    Yes you are right I have tried it and felt good but the soap got in my pee hole and when I had to pee it burned like hell .It took the rest of the day before the burning stoped.