Long time sex, couldn't get off with the pretty girl.

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  1. gfireboy22

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    I sometimes get bored and just have casual sex with chubby girls. Masturbation is easier, cheaper, and tighter. No offense to the big girls, but I have had a few that is like throwing a sausage down a hallway. A plus for effort though. So I hook up with a woman I knew in Jr High which was many many years ago. We form an attraction that was incredible. We decided that I should fly out and see her. The chemistry was insane and I hugged her twice and our eyes locked. I kissed her lots and we went for dinner. A bit of wine and come back to her house. I purposely had a bit more wine to make she she was guilted into letting me stay over. She almost attacked me and asked me to come " make out" in her bed. Within a minute, clothes off and I am down on her until she orgasmed, or a well done fake one. First time isn't usually successful. Anyways, no return oral, and not even a welcome aboard little handjob and the usual female guide inside her. Missionary, reverse spoon, her on bottom again. I was mentally totally attracted to her and wanted this so I thought. She lay there letting me toss her around to change positions, but she was a boring lay. She was tight too which was a bonus. I went to go from doggy and finish this because it was a long lay. Something was a mental roadblock and I couldn't come. I just had to quit. The chemistry was huge, and attraction unbelievable, but I couldn't get off. Was it her lack of participation, what? We aren't seeing each other again by the way because I stayed at her place the next night but really wasn't in the mood for sex so I drank a ton of her stored booze instead. I still kissed her, and cuddled on the couch but for some reason the sex didn't seem worth the effort. I flew home and apparently my drinking binge wasn't super cool on our first meeting. I do care a bit, but was it me who has sex problems with low sex drive? I thought she was gorgeous, and my drive is pretty good. I still love internet porn and masturbation, but have I screwed too many casuals that I am getting lazy? Is it the fact that I am used to one night stands where you get blowjobs, hand jobs, and dirty sex? Honestly it was cold, calculating and routine just like my ex wife and that was the FIRST time. Why couldn't I get off with this beautiful woman?
     
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    I think you answered yourself...it was cold and routine like your ex.
     
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    Too much alcohol in your system.
     
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    The wine in me from dinner was long gone. It was the next night I chose to drink instead of trying sex again. The first night was a tiresome effort that felt like work. I think I did answer my own question, and that is that is was exactly like boring old times with my ex wife. I am curious to know if anyone one else had troubles getting off with the hot girl? Girls as a result of too loose, or the guilt sets in and I think about where I am sure, but an attractive woman who could have lead into something? It was almost like some part of my brain knew this was going to turn into number two relationship exactly the failure of my ex wife. The mind knew something and told my penis that is for sure.
     
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    She left you hanging..... Awesome story however.
     
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    I might be misunderstanding, but I wasn't hanging. The erection was great, no issues. I just couldn't get to a happy place where i could get off and she was plenty tight. She was super hot and a definite spark, but in the sack she was a dead lay. I think all that quality time down on her and not so much as even a good nut grab set the tone for failure. I didn't lose interest, but I have just had some dirty sex since divorce and even though she is the pretty girl I have been waiting for, the chubby girls set the bar pretty high for fun times. Somebody wrote something about relationship sex is supposed to suck(well they called it different, but.......) Anyways, I am supposed to cherish the crappy in a loving sexual encounter? My ex wife is an ex for ten different reasons, but dead lay is still one of the ten.
     
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    This reminds me of my first sex fantasy come true, that went very wrong, and became a lesson that some sex fantasies need to stay just that...a fantasy.

    I was leaving a nite club one nite after listening to music for a few hours and heading to the exit when I heard my name being called. I turned around and recognized no one at the bar. I turned around again to leave, and heard my name a second time. Again, I turn around, and a lady at the bar says my name and tells me she's Debbie from my high school. I immiedialy recognised her as being the best friend of my high scholl GF. Debbie used to hang out with us- my GF and I. I always had a major crush on her as she was sweet, cute, and most important had C or D cup boobies in hi school. I had countless JO sessions thinking about screwing Debbie. In fact, one of the things that broke my GF and I apart was that I tried to talk my GF into having a 3-way with Debbie.

    So here we were. Reunited years later, and both unencumbered by BF's or GF's.

    Debbie told me that she lived a few blocks away and that I should follow her home and we could catch up on our lives since we saw each other last. I followed her car for the few blocks with a boner in my pants realizing that I would finally have my first fantast cum true. Namely to screw her, which I had done in countless masturbation sessions.

    To make the story shorter, we were naked and going at it, and she was laying there like a dead fish. I was thinking to myself that she was a much better fantasy to screw in my mind than in the real life that I was experiencing at that moment.

    Sometimes its just as simple as that.
     
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    That is a perfect reason why I like this forum. It isn't perverted or full of freaks. The man tells a good story, and if we have a sex issue we are open about it.

    This woman was only a grade 10 crush though and I was born in love with everybody. She was one of four crushes in the same year. I fall in love quick, and out of love just the same. I never jerked off to her, but I was hoping the sex was going to be better than it was. She came on so strong too, right up until she was naked in the dark. Then pretty boring. My friends always bug me because I am the perfect bar wing man. I will always let them have the pretty thing while I go for the mediocre friend, even chunky. They think I am lazy, or just being nice, but I know exactly who is going to have a dirty porn style lay and who isn't. Silly friends of mine have no idea who is laughing last.
     
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    Maybe you are more attracted to Big women and just haven't admitted it to yourself yet.
     
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    Ok, I will come out of the closet and admit to chubby and large breasted, but I am trying to find the next Mrs. I know it is vain, but I had the hot wife, and I want to take another pretty girl to the family Christmas dinner and not have the herd wondering what the hell happened to my standards. Vain, I know, but just the way it is going to be.

    I am tired, so tired of casual sex. The hookers in Thailand can be a good time, thin, and they go away when told to. Not a pretty crowd though. Are you allowed to start a Thailand hooker thread on here? I would love to compare traveler notes with the brothers.
     
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    So basically you're saying that larger women can't be hot only skinny women are. You need some serious therapy before you even get into another relationship or have sex again for that matter.
     
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    Your priorities are all a big mess if you ask me. You want a pretty girl to show off? How about a more meaningful relationship? You go to Thailand to hang with the hookers? Think a bit about what you're doing here. I'm not even saying that "sleeping with hookers is a sin" or anything like that. I have done so myself. But if you find yourself a call girl in Canada, she's much less likely to feel forced to do what she does. Even though many Asian countries are booming, Thailand still has serious poverty and many of the girls might be doing it out of desperation. If you had a serious love for Asian girls that might be one thing, but you don't even seem to like them that much. And no, I don't think this is the best place for a Thailand hooker thread.
     
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    I have to disagree about the chubby woman. I would never give a large woman the love or respect she deserves in a relationship.I could just never look at her in the eyes and be overly in love. The woman I started this thread for, yes, I could honestly say I could love her. People tend to be attracted to other people in their circle. There is no sin for not finding big woman attractive. I was carrying a few extra pounds after my divorce and the dating wasn't great. I got off the pity train, got ripped up, and the dating has been fantastic, and frankly turning some decent woman away in search of better. Was that a coincidence or was I rejected for my looks? It was the looks,and I guarantee it. It is a fact of life and nothing I can do about it. As for Thailand, I found I met two Americans out of 50 friends mostly British. A topic best not discussed with anyone who has never been. You can't even compare a crack whore hooker with all the opportunity in the world to get her life right in a western country with the poor farmers daughter of Isan Thailand. The prostitution is a win win for everyone. The tourism remains high, the girls are happy, and the families get money sent to them. Why do you think the government ignores it? It has created a happy balance for the island tourism and sustains families in the north. If you haven't been and immersed yourself in the culture like I have, please refrain from persecution. By the way, I was there to scuba dive so I would appreciate not being judged as if this was even part of the reason I was there a few months. It was a weekend hobby, and believe me that any male young or old who didn't have a tie down, was having some Thai fun, including my two American friends from California, Parker and Andrew.
     
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    Yea I doubt that chubby women being non attractive to you is a problem considering you are having sex with chubby women. How can you have sex with someone if you're not attracted to them? But seriously you need to see a counselor.

    And quite honestly there are very few women who are prostitutes that are actually happy with doing that on a daily basis. No prostitute is going to be honest in telling you how they really feel in regards to selling their bodies to men that they do not choose to be with. They told you they were happy because they probably had to tell you that.
     
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    I don't care if you went for scuba diving or the girls, I am just asking you to keep something in mind here. I am probably less judgmental about this than most people would be. By the way, I have no idea why you're talking about Americans all the time here. I think we both live in Canada, no? I'm originally from Norway. Speaking of which, in Norway prostitution has now become completely illegal. If you ask me, the reason why this happened (apart from general hysteria) was mostly because many of the customers often behaved like a bunch of troglodytes. There were girls who kept a relatively low profile, putting ads in magazines, meeting clients at their apartment, and being careful in general. If the woman in question had all the choices in the world, and she chose to be a call-girl, then great. I was expecting to pay a little more for it, and that was worth it. In Norway, back when it was legal, I found it relatively easy to find the girls who were into it (one was even doing a Master's in sexology). There were also cheaper options, mostly foreign girls, often attached to aggressive mafia-like pimps. Sadly, many guys didn't care to distinguish between the two, so the politicians decided to get rid of all prostitution in one sweeping law reform. But Thailand? Who knows what's going on there? I don't know much about Thailand, but I bet the second (cheap) option is much more common than the first. Prostitution seems to be suspiciously common in Thailand, and your version of it seems a bit too rosy. Being a prostitute just isn't for everyone, and I'm not going to pretend that it is. Still, if you are able to find the Thai girls who have some sort of control over their situation, then it is all good with me. Pay them well.
     
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    As I mentioned, please don't discuss Thailand having never gone. You have no clue what you are talking about. In Thailand the girls are from the North in a territory called Isan. Most of them use prostitution as a hope to have farongs(foreigners) fall in love with them and save them. Go visit, stay out of the resorts and immerse yourself for a few months. Once you have done that and are educated on the culture, you can share your opinions. I dated a chubby girl for two years and bottom line was I let her meet my father, but she was not meeting my extended family. I come from a wealthy background where status means a lot. Casual sex with commoners is fine, but I have to stay within the education acceptance of the family as well as keeping our family status in the current structure. I have normal friends who used to think the whole thing was screwed until they came to a nieces birthday at one of my uncle's properties. Now they know what I go through.
     
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    By the way I can have an opinion on anything I damn well please. Everyone is entitled to an opinion. I may not have lived there but I highly doubt that every single woman in Thailand wants to sell their body.

    I'm not even going to say anything about the whole "status" thing.

    Like I said you need your head checked and that's all I'm going to say.

    And by the way I'm married and weigh 120lbs and have a wonderful husband. I wasn't attacking you. Sorry if you didn't understand what I was saying. Your way of thinking that attractiveness means that you have to be skinny. It's much more than that. It's about personality, morals, values etc. Just because you look good on the outside doesn't mean that you're pretty inside.

    Also I don't work because the economy sucks and I can't find a job even though I actively look every single day so don't think I'm lazy simply because I do not have a job. I'm also quite comfortable in my sexuality so nothing you say about me will hurt me.


    Have a nice night:)
     
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    This chubby girl, whose family history is detailed through Burkes Peerage, and is related to the Queen - within recent generations - wouldn't touch you with a bargepole. Do you even know the meaning of the word 'commoner'?
     
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    Gfireboy from my perspective you are a cold heartless selfish individual who uses people and thinks he can buy whatever he wants.
    Dude you are never going to find true love because it is not for sale and you would not recognise it in the first place anyway!
    And yeah I have been with Asian prostitutes but always treated them with respect and gratitude.
     
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    So did I. Where did I say I treated them otherwise. This conversation has lost context and I am ending my part in it. To the madame in London, please note I am an Abbott and English myself. I need not go further as I am well aware of commoner in traditional sense, as well as modern terminology. I was in fact referring to woman without the seal from which only my parents can give. In this sense commoner will mean anyone without an education, or bloodline approval. This is not England, but I still have rules to follow. Good day.