Long term relationship

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  1. travis beck

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    Are you happy? We have been married almost 20 years. Two kids and a lot of activity in between. We recently opened up and had a couple of threesomes. She has also had a thing without me.

    We don't know where to go, but I don't like this path.

    Advice?
     
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    Sorry no experience alike, but what I can say is that you should always be honest and truthful. If you don't like this "path" I suppose talking about it would work best. My 2 cents.
     
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    We have been married 22 years and the best advice I can give it to be honest with each other to be sure you are on the same page. ...otherwise it will most likely end in disaster and disappointment.

    And yes, we are happy. :)
     
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    Very happy and still learning new things about each other.
     
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    As long as you communicate and respect each other's boundaries, just go with it.
     
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    Are you saying that you are unhappy?
     
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    No, I'm not happy. I regret going down this path, but don't know how to stop it.
     
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    Why not? Just talk to her and stop it.
     
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    So you don't recommend this to other couples?
     
  10. travis beck

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    It is more complicated than I thought.
     
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    I'm sure it is.
     
  12. travis beck

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    Have you thought about it?
     
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    Every married couple probably has, don't you think??
     
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    Probably, but we have. Have you?
     
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    Im not any type of guru and don't profess to be!. ".The more complicated then you thought thing" ,Should have been thought of before either of you done this !! ,When you have only Horny thoughts and not the whole picture it can lead to both of you going your separate ways.The emotions that your feeling are now is that your worried, She may find someone else now that you have done this ,She now feels sure that she has freedom to do this again ,At her request!! .Im also sure any couples on here that have done this talked extensively before they done it.When your married you are breaking a vow to your partner "To be Faithful" This goes for both parties!...Once this vow is broken I'm sure its very emotional for both parties. I'm sure members here may agree with me and 'Im sure some wont, It takes a special couple to keep doing this and have faith in each other and not worry .I would think also many relationships have gone wrong because of the distrust and distress for each other after you have done this. Please remember,I'm a small town girl with one man values and this is strictly my opinion, I myself would never share my man and nobody will share me as long as I'm married to him .Good luck with dealing with this xo
     
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    Thank you Candela. You have great points and we got so tied up in the thrill of it that we missed some things. I think we will be ok, but she does like the freedom. I don't know what to do now. I regret what we have done.
     
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    Only in fantasy...
     
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    So you're saying she wants to continue down this road, but you don't? You need to express that to her.
     
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    No, I don't want to continue, but I don't know how to stop it. She had a great experience and a bad one. She wants to erase the bad one by meeting another guy. What do I do?
     
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    Married 27 yrs and no that has never crossed our minds. EVER. If you're right for that person, there is no reason or desire to stray. And we too have two kids, one just graduated, and have been involved in everything, from hockey to orchestra.
     
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