Let's be honest about bodies

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by FlirtyChick, Aug 3, 2008.

  1. FlirtyChick

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    Ok, Gentlemen. I want honest answers, k?

    I am small but have a few extra pounds. I have baby belly, which is that soft little tummy that we all get eventually. My butt is not as high as it used to be, and my legs are strong, yet cushy. Do y'all care about all that, or is the passion and performance the important part?
     
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    I wonder this myself?
    Although there really isnt anything small about me..lol :) Im a bigger girl!
     
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    Definitely the passion and performance. Looks and physical appearance is all secondary to the person inside. People that choose SO's purely on looks may be missing out on some really meaningful relationships and sex. When I watch porn I go right for the MILF,s .:dgrin
     
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    Im with Bucky...MILF's rule....:D
    Theres just nothing like a woman of experience.....
    I find mummy tummies so sexy too...:brow
     
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    I love you guys for so many reasons, but mainly because you are MEN!! Hot, Hot, Hot!
     
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    Flirty it's like this (and I've said this to my own wife):

    If a man is attracted to you then your, um, imperfections? are of no consequence. He simply won't care. Your passion and performance will tell him he was right to be attracted to you.

    Do I find Ken and Barbie attractive? Sure, Barbie has a great ass and Ken bought her some really nice boobs but when you talk to her you find out she's as deep as a saucer of milk! (Oh, and they don't have kids and she has nothing better to do than workout - Sorry! Am I going off??? :lol)

    Coming back to the point :eyes, MY honest answer is this (and I've tried repeatedly to explain it to my wife so I don't know if I can condense it to a couple of sentences...) when I'm drawn to a woman, then I'm drawn to her. Period. Not much about her body is likely to change that. (There are couple of things, I can't lie :eek:)

    p.s. FC, I assume that's you in your avatar and I'm attracted :brow
     
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    From a physical standpoint, I have a pretty wide range of what I find sexually attractive. It spans from girls my age or a little younger to women my parents' age, from thin to average (or a few more pounds than average), any race, any hair color, etc. I find obesity unhealthy and disgusting, but I'm not really attracted to girls with DDs and six-pack abs, either.

    I think what it comes down to is that I'm really attracted to femininity in a pure and natural form. Part of that, for me, is soft, natural curves. Both extremes (lean or overweight) can ruin those curves.

    So, to answer your question... from your description, I think you're just fine.
     
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    Yes, that is me. Did I tell you lately that I love you?
     
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    I like a tight hot bod for great visuals, but nobody keeps that as they age naturally, so no, I'm fine with whatever you have as long as it is apparent that you try to take care of yourself. Ain't none of us gonna be 25 again... well, us aged members of SF anyway. I consider my wife pretty hot for a 50 year-old. But she has shifted around a bit. Actually most of me is still tight, but that's because, as you saw in my beach pictures, I'm skinny as a rail. :)
     
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    Suite, that is so well said...I can't think of a better way to put it. I'm attracted to the whole package, not just the looks alone. A great ass doesn't make the woman...the woman makes the great ass (for instance). You can show me the physically prettiest woman I've ever seen, and if she has the personality of a dead fish, then I simply am not attracted to her.

    Looks figure into it, personality figures into it, how hot and uninhibited of a lover they are figures into it (and I've finally figured out that I'm very attracted to women with high libido's, even before I know they have high libido's...I don't know how I know it, but I seem to).

    Bravo on the post!

    BD
     
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    FC, I don't exactly have the body I had 30 years ago either, so I should be more understanding, but a woman's appearance does make a difference to me. It's not nearly as important as her other attributes, and extra weight only becomes an issue when it becomes extreme, but it does matter.

    I was telling my wife last week how much I love her body, and I summed it up something like this. I love her caring mind and spirit and wonderful sense of humor. She makes me laugh and feel good, and the soft touch of her hand takes me to places I've never been. I would love her if she was fat and ugly. But her beautiful body is truly a bonus and I appreciate it and am thankful for it. At 52 she won't be appearing on the runway modeling lingerie, since, as you say, her butt's not as high as it used to be, and neither are other parts, but to me she has a perfect body. It's a wonderful bonus, and I thanked her for keeping it that way.

    I didn't tell her this, but if "passion and performance" came bundled with a little extra weight, I'd order up about 20 pounds worth. ;)
     
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    flirty my beauty from what i have seen of your pics you are still a smokin hot chic!!!!
     
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    Awww. I think you are the hottie! Kisses!
     
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    Yup! Guys may well be initially attracted to the outward appearance of a gal but for anything meaningful, it's what's inside that counts!:bow
     
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    I would say passion and performance but will take it one step further. What is she like before and after the bedroom? She could f#@k my brains out, but if she tells me I am a worthless husband and father that kind of kills it for me.

    I agree with the MILF's are hot.
     
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    Absolutely agreed! Respect and kindness for each other is the most important thing, IMHO. If that's there, then everything else will usually fall out of that.

    BD
     
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    Efforts count!

    Passion, sincerity, humilty, genuiness, love, affection, tenderness are all huge turn ons for me! And about the flesh body, I feel we should all make an effort. And if it's a sincere and honest effort that should be enough. Both for the guy and the girl.

    At my age I jog, lift weights, and try to look OK within reason. And I think it's reasonable that my girl do likewise. Just the fact that she tries touches my heart.

    The sad case is when people just "let themselves go", and just throw in the towel and blub out!
     
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    At the risk of stepping on some toes. Yes appearance matters ... But at the same time, many of the male persuasion are also very stimulated by the person!

    A brainy person is not necessarily hot.

    A hot person is however (to me at least) going to be brainy.

    So the brains are a conditional part of being hot, but they are not the sole or sufficient condition for being hot. (of course these opinions are mine alone and used as an example)

    It's a case of personal preference in all cases as the subject matter is radically subjective.

    In other news:
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    I will echo Joe and JuicyB to a degree. I admire women of all shapes, I have a naturally curvy African wife who has had two children and she is very beautiful. But a woman who has let herself go beyond reasonable is a turn-off to me, more for the lack of effort to look nice than anything else. I feel that women should think the same of men who don't look after themselves too.

    We can should eat well and do a bit of exercise, and that's all it takes for any man and any woman to remain attractively desirable.
     
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    I've been a health freak since I was 17 or so... and because of that when I was younger (teens, early 20s), I was really only attracted to athletic, physically fit women.

    However, here and there I would be attracted to a a girl who didn't fit my ideal image of what I looked for in a woman.

    When I met my g/f she was in to cardio kickboxing and working out, etc.

    Then as I discussed in other threads her father had a stroke and she stopped working out and gained weight... her once tight ass was not so tight anymore... her flat tummy got a pooch.. etc. until she was about 20 lbs over weight.

    I still found her extremely desirable and the changes in her body didnt change how I saw her.

    When you are in love you don't see the flaws, just the person you gave your heart to.

    The weight only became a problem for me when she started to get sick all of the time, when she threw her clothes on right after sex, and she lost interest in sex because she didn't feel good about herself - eventhough I kept telling her how beautiful she was.