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  1. bigballs69

    bigballs69 New Member

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    not that i cum really fast but i still want to be able to go for like 30 - 40 minutes before cumming. any ideas?... or even better! a way to control when i cum. ????
     
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    Hmm... I might not be the best person to give advice about this (since I don't have a penis), but I've heard that you can last a lot longer if you jack off beforehand (or have her do it for you). And I've also heard that cock rings can prolong the time before you orgasm.
     
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    Pour quoi? Seriously, if I lasted 30 or 40 minutes, my wife would stop having sex with me. We've experimented a few different time scales, and about ten minutes is her favourite time. Beyond ten minutes she gets (a) bored and (b) sore so that she can't have sex again for a few days. I've had sex with a fair number of women and I've discussed duration with some, and while some like intercourse to last longish no-one put up their hand for longer than twenty minutes. During these discussions, it was revealed that many guys seem to come quicker than five minutes. It was also revealed that many guys would do well to master oral sex, as this was one skill that was lacking in some of my former partners former partners. Indeed, some of those women expressed delighted surprise when I got them off orally.
     
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    I've got to agree; my boyfriend usually lasts for 40+ minutes and it's nice, but TIRING. Usually we both end up getting worn out and I finish him off orally (it's easier for him to cum that way).
     
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    Switching to different positions usually gives me a start-over with each one. Just switch before you get close to cumming.

    Caution: If you go for too long you'll wear out your welcome. Women get sore and numb after so long, and after a certain point you'll get sorta numb too, and then you won't be able to orgasm. Good sex involves a lot more than just intercourse, so spend more time with foreplay and oral if you want sex to last longer. I'd suggest you set your goal for more like 15-20 minutes and do it twice as often. Chances are, if you can last that long, you can last as long as your endurance (and hers) will let you.
     
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    Lasting a long time is another one of those things (along with big penis) that guys think women want, but the idea of lasting longer is a lot more pleasant than the reality. Ten minutes is about the average amount of time it takes for my boyfriend to finish, and that's more than sufficient for me.
     
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    I have to agree with the 10 minute time frame...

    I used to last an hour or more.. and would go numb sometimes... and it makes it harder to cum...

    My g/f finally had enough and told me I need to come faster.. because I was making her too sore.

    She thinks 10-15 mins is perfect.
     
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    God, I'll KILL for 10 minutes! That's about 9 minutes 50 seconds longer than I'm used to. :ugh
     
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    Hehe...my first long term boyfriend was also a ten-second wonder..:lol My second long term boyfriend was the opposite,...he was the friggin energizer bunny, and kept going and going and going and going, etc., long after I was ready to stop.

    My current SO aka The Swede is like the porridge Goldilocks chose...just right. :)
     
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    Actually, the best way to learn is to ask! It's amazing what women will tell us men about their sexual preferences when we ask.
     
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    I have said this before,but I have scene a lot of people have sex at swingers clubs hardly anybody goes 30 or 40 minutes they might go fast and hard for awhile but then they tire or cum.I am more on the average time but I can cum a few times in one night,especially at a swingers club when I am all horned up from the sights and sounds.
     
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    I like 20-40 minutes total with a ten minute respit thrown in there. I guess I am oddball. It is actually fun for my partner and I to do doggy for 20-30 minutes at a time. She can be on the bed doing work from her laptop and can have an orgasm every few minutes. I just stand and enjoy. You can also rotate through many different positions. She likes to spend a good 10-20 minutes on top. I like to do a few missionary variations and usually a modified doggy too. I am enjoying myself to much to just do it for a few minutes then stop. I can go hard maybe 10-20 minutes, but then I do tire and hence the need for a break or a change in position. Lately, I tried using a bit more cialis than normal, mainly b/c I was having trouble staying hard for long enough. Surprisingly, I lasted a lot longer. So basically harder erections keep me going longer. The other main thing that helps me is frequent orgasms and lower overall shaft sensitivity than most men.
     
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    30-40 minutes counting the foreplay is about right. But just straight fucking for 30-40 minutes. Thats too much. Ive done it that way a few times but my girl was complaining the next day that she was sore. It's easier for me to last a whole lot longer if I have had a few drinks...
     
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    I agree with others I'd shoot for 10-15 minutes of quality not quantity ;)

    As far as lasting longer have you tried all the old favorites people mention like jerking off prior, condoms, kegel exercises? In the end aging and more experience usually do the trick.
     
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    my bf use to go longer when we were younger. we would have sex for 40 + min. now we are doing good to make it 10 min. if oral is involved wich is almost every time we have sex, he can last for 30 min during oral and like 5 for sex. so the aging worked backwards on him.
     
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    3 ideas!

    Nº 1 Bang away like a maniac. Cum like an atomic bomb without worrying about time. Then catch your breathe and go for a 2nd round.

    Nº2 Recite the last 10 letters of the alphabet backwards in your mind silently. It helps slow things down.

    Nº 3 Are you sure your girl wants a marathon? I've had several girls tell me flat out that they DON'T like them! Some girls prefer a shorter stint, but more personal attention here and there, more awareness of them, maybe a change of position, and some mutual feed back!
     
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    hmm what is considered a long time?...because the first 2 times and there have only been 2 times so far my VERY first was 15 min and my seconds was around 30 min maybe slightly longer.

    I dont have any advice really though i guess. But i find that im usually not FULLY erect...like its erect and i can do what i need to do...but i think thats why masturbating before hand is said to work because odds are you wont be FULLY erect which i guess for some reason allows you to last longer.