Ladies/guys: riding on top

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  1. MordsithLove

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    Ladies:
    Do/Did you ever feel uncomfortable or unconfident while on top?
    What did you do to feel better about it?
    How do you do it to get off/most pleasure?
    What is your tip to knock his socks off?
    Those who are rock stars on top, tell me your secrets!!!!

    Guys:
    What's your experience with women on top?
    Could you tell she felt uncomfortable? Have you ever had a bad/boring experience?
    What is your advice/tips to make the ride better?

    I have always felt uncomfortable on top. I feel like I'm not pleasing him even though he says it is amazing. I'm not confident in my riding abilities and I'm in need of some tips on how to get my groove. Another thing is that I can never get off while riding him, I may get a little pleasure from it but that's it. Until he grabs my hips/ass and fucks me. :p


    HELP!
     
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    You just need to try different angles ie:lean foward, sit straight up, lean back, ect. My wife feels uncomfortable as well. But she likes to lean back while I tease her clit with my thumb.

    As far as riding. I really can't give insight bc I'm not female...my wife doesn't do this very often for the same reasons as you mentioned. But my ex was a champ at it. She would lean over on me, I would wrap my arm around her back and she would grind/twerk (before twerking was a thing). She liked it and it was amazing. So maybe that helps? Doubt it honestly but some insight on a males perspective
     
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    I don't like it either. I feel exposed (my stomach) I think he might like it bc he doesn't have to work as much.
     
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    I understand the self-consciousness about it. But it feels really good to us. These the position that we get the deepest in you guys.....being that your confortable......I can put your feet to your head and put in in sa far that it feels like it's going to tickle ur throat, but that can't be real comfortable for u guys
     
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    SO loves this position for the freedom it offers her.
    She can do and go at whatever speed, depth, angle, rhythm, rotate, front or back anyway she wants.
    She strides, canters and gallops at will and I just lie there with a stupid grin enjoying the show.
    Having my dick sort of bent, it is physically not greatly arousing for me but the visual makes up for it :)
    I love seeing her intense multiple orgasms and the look of lost pain/pleasure as she climaxes.
     
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    "Guys:
    What's your experience with women on top?
    Could you tell she felt uncomfortable? Have you ever had a bad/boring experience?
    What is your advice/tips to make the ride better
    ?"

    All I can say about you being on top is that for me a woman on top is a turn on, it's sexy as hell, and a treat especially if my hands can roam all over a woman's body, and pulling down on her hips. Also if that woman on top makes herself feel good using my penis, I LOVE IT! I pay attention so I can replicate the same movement as best as I can when I go on top.
    What I feel can make it better if you don't know if you can orgasm on top yet, is to include a lot of exploration on you - actually inside :)
    I have learned SO MUCH using my hands and felt blessed, lucky that way. It helped me discover where, what, how to please my partner.
    This knowledge is good to use for knowing how to place and aim inside to give more pleasure.
    Like I said, a woman giving herself pleasure using my erection is such a huge turn on and a pleasure, a compliment and blessing.
    One friend from years ago used to do this a lot and looking in her eyes, seeing the look of pleasure on her, touching her,
    paying attention to how she used my penis, what more could I ask for? Actually, she loved making me cum this way and so did I.
    To the point it took her a few times together for her to let me be on top to pleasure her.

    What is boring is someone going through the motions, looking like she wants to finish it, not liking it. It ruins it.
    I rather hear honesty that she doesn't like it. I am extremely lucky my friend love it on top, me on top, from behind,
    oral and hands on each other, I get to orgasm from any of those ways.
     
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  7. whybother

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    My wife likes it because it allows her to find just the spot that she can grind her clit into my pubic bone. She also gets off on me sucking her tits while she rides me.

    There was a time when she was self conscious about her weight and didn't like cowgirl but we limited then to reverse missionary because it still gave her the control to make sure she was getting that clitiral stimulation to make her cum.
     
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    Wow thanks for some insight guys. It helps a lot to know who may also please him while I try to find my thrill in it.

    I also tend to have a hard time keeping my stamina up in it. I must say the men put in hard work on us ladies. I don't know how they can keep up the momentum!
     
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    It's friggin great, have him tell you to rub yourself while he tweaks your hard nipples....you control the rhythm !!
     
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    Don't worry about getting tired. My wife liked to go slow. She really enjoyed grinding rather than pounding up and down. In my younger days I also did plenty of the work from the bottom. She referred to as riding the bronco.
     
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    Women, don't worry, at that moment no guy is going to think, her belly is a little pudgy, her boobs are lop sided.

    My wife likes to grind and at our age we are not into the up and down porn style. I want her to have fun, if not I want her to tell me so we can switch it up.
     
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    I have felt uncomfortable or self conscious while on top, but it's because I feel awkward and clumsy. The first time he asked me to get on top I felt like I was going to break him or hurt him somehow. I'm over that fear. I still feel uncomfortable riding him on a bed, but it's because I sink and I'm pretty much just sitting on him. We've solved this by me riding him while he's laying on the floor instead of the bed. The bed is too soft for me to have much of a range of motion. Also, the only time me being on top feels really good is when I'm drunk. Sober, it feels okay but it's more me doing it for him. When I'm drunk, it's better for both of us-- I'm more into it and I end up cumming from it. I've found that rocking and grinding feel better for me than bouncing on him. I think this is just because bouncing takes too much effort and balance, lol. Leaning forward on him and rocking is great, usually while kissing or he's giving the tits some attention.
     
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    I've had girls get on top before and it was fine. My last girlfriend liked to get on top but would stop moving as soon as I was in her. If I tried to move she's say, "Let me do it," but then she wouldn't do anything. It was frustrating and finally I would start to go soft. It was like she was trying to control me and she didn't want me to get any stimulation, just stay motionless. Looking back she just wanted to control me in many ways. While I like to cooperate and give pleasure to my partner, I'm a poor candidate for a sub. Other than that she was great.
     
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    love the woman on top. I love reverse cowgirl with a mirror so i can still see her face
     
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    I do love getting riddin however I do understand how a woman can feel uncomfortable. I have certainly been on top myself and for whatever reason it looks like she isn't having a good time so I start feeling like I am doing something wrong or just stink at it.
    Also , I have been started getting riddin and lost my erection. It always feels good however there are times where I want sex but I am dog tired so being on my back just isn't good, I Ike I could go to sleep right then. I am sure that has made them feel uncomfortable.
    All I can do is reassure that everything feels great and they are doing a great job and look fantastic. I happens , people get self concious.
    In fact ,me being worried that I would accidentally make someone feel self concious has caused me to worry enough to lose an erection wich in no way is going to help anyone's confidence. ..snow ball effect...it sucks