Hello. The first thing I should point out is that I have always been sexually conservative, in fact, I'm a little bit embarrassed just to be posting here as I notice that there are many things transpiring on these forums with which I do not necessarily agree. However, I imagine that these forums will be a good source of advice for the issue I seem to be having, so I decided to bite the bullet and create this topic. Though sexually conservative, I used to be sexually active on a pretty regular basis, and my sex drive might have qualified as, "Average." This has not been the case for about three years now. My sex drive barely registers. My erections and a feeling of sexual desire or yearning are both rare and spontaneous. When I do experience sexual desire, it is a very strong urge, unfortunately, the impulse control goes on the backburner and I tend to resolve that desire, "Solo," so to speak. I guess the problem is that I am married and my wife has an insane sex drive, however, we've had sex twice last year and three times this year, thus far. I'm hoping to double last year's output, but it may not happen. We've reached the point in our sex life where any attempt towards having sex is somewhat awkward. Neither of us have any tendency to make the first move. I don't make the first move because I feel awkward (that has not always been the case) and she doesn't make the first move because being touched causes me to, "Freeze up," and I am largely not responsive...which has also not always been the case. My idea of foreplay, at this point, is simply to directly ask whether or not she wants to have sex. She usually says no because such an approach is not, "Sexy," and because she feels that I am only offering to have sex to, "Shut her up about it." Unfortunately, she's pretty much right about that. My theory is that if I offer to have sex and she declines, then I'm pretty much off the hook for that day. I offered, right? I'm not entirely against having sex, necessarily. I believe everything downstairs is in working order. I masturbate, I would say, on a weekly basis. I don't always come to a full erection when I masturbate, but I would say that I achieve orgasm about 90% of the time and come to a full erection...maybe half of the time. I'm not sure why I do it, I think just to make sure it is working more than anything. I don't really get turned on by much of anything. I believe my wife might have more success if she were willing to perform oral sex on me, but she is currently withholding that as she is not pleased with the irregularity with which we have sex. We might end up getting a divorce, which I don't want, mostly due to our lack of intimacy. The problem is that I don't really feel any intimacy towards anyone. I think that I may actually be asexual, though that wouldn't make sense, because it was not always the case. I used to have an average sex drive. I've never had an attraction to males, and I do not have an attraction to males. I used to be regularly attracted to females, but that's no longer the case. I'm a reasonably attractive male, perhaps slightly better than average, but women flirting with me tends to repulse me. The stronger the flirting, the more repulsed I am. Provocative clothing and, "Slutty," women also tend to repulse me. I'd like to rectify this situation, so I'm willing to answer any questions anyone here might need me to answer honestly and candidly, if anyone believes that he/she could help. I believe rectifying this situation may be vital to my marriage, or I wouldn't be posting here. I have disseminated all information that I think could be even remotely relevant, but again, I may have missed something. I thank anyone who responds in advance for his/her response. Please do not respond unless you have time to do so and responding is not taking you away from anything else, remember, my problems are not your problem...and I feel as though I am putting people out and am embarrassed by asking for help. Thank you, and I apologize. -Anonymous.