Kissing

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by Essene, Dec 29, 2011.

  1. Essene

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    I see a lot of threads about this sexual activity, heavy petting, analingus, cunnilingus, fellatio, or that activity; but not many (or any) about kissing.

    With my girlfriend, kissing is, by far, the second most essential part to foreplay. There is a strong bond and it seems to be the only thing that unifies (or strengthens) that bond. The rest, to me, is instinctual and based mostly off of my libido.

    And by "kissing" I mean oral kissing and kissing on erogenous zones (but not sucking).
     
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    But of course! Kissing, supposedly, creates a trust between two people, and releases chemicals into your brain, and therefore causes the happiness.

    Its a good thing you have someone that loves you like that. Be happy.
     
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    Kissing for me is the single most important part of foreplay and sex. If there is no 'spark' when I kiss someone, then it's pretty much game over.

    For me, a good kiss should leave me breathless and wanting oh so much more..........
     
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    Splendid, you took the words right out of my mouth :)
     
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    Agreed, even just soft kisses all over are oh so arousing, but the heavy tongue down the throat kisses are nice too with the right person.

    This may sound funny but I could more easily have sex with a random woman than just kiss a random woman
     
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    Trust, I agree. And kissing and allowing time builds trust--lots of kissing :)
     
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    Unfortunately I have not explored kissing in lips too details till now. I love when my BF kisses my genitals ...we rarely kiss in lips.
     
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    Cutegirl...can I ask if there is any reason why you and your BF rarely kiss on the lips? I ony ask as it intrigues me (given how important kissing is to me).
     
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    I am just guessing that Cutegirl doesn't kiss her BF because his tongue is always in traction or at least wrapped in a splint. Given the workouts she say's he endures the guy must have a tongue that could jack up the average car! :lol
     
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    I agree! kissing is a very important part of sex. A guy has no chance with me if hes a bad kisser. I think a kiss can tell you a lot about how someone feels about you. When my boo kisses me no one else exists, it lights a fire in me and makes me want to stay in that moment forever.
     
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    Same for me, kissing is almost the most intense sensation and absolutely a requisite for sex to happen.
    That is the reason I find sex with a prostitute so lacking as most won't allow it.
     
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    I couldn't imagine having sex without kissing. Kissing is all part of the passion as well as part of the emotional connect.
     
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    Normally during sex, at the beginning, he started kissing me from my legs (often he is also handcuffed, for some roleplay session). Then when he reaches my genitals, then he kisses me over panty and also licks it over panty, till I started getting wet. So, once he licks me over panty he gets my juices in his mouth and lips. I do not prefer to kiss him in lips after that. It is totally my personal like/dislike. Once I am wet enough and after removing my panty and grinding on his face I had my climax on his mouth, then again there is no question to kiss him in his lips (which is filled will my cum juices) from my side, unless he washes his face and mouth. But, he tells that he likes the smell of my climax juices in his mouth and face as long as possible. So, normally these is no lip to lip kissing happens during sex in our case.
     
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    Unfortunately, I may have not been as clear as I anticipated.

    Kissing, for me is the second most important thing during sex, but the most important physical aspect in a relationship outside of sex (besides hugging). I LOVE a deep and passionate hug with my girlfriend. With sex, there is something else that is the most important. It's not sex or, really, anything sexual at all. It's hearing her voice. For me, her saying words, or making sounds (even whilst kissing) is the most important. She feels differently. She agrees, as most of the females here have tended to do, that kissing is.

    The trust aspect is VERY important. From what I know, females who "get around" some times have things they'd rather keep to themselves- such as no anal, no oral sex performed on them, no kissing, etc. For many, no kissing is the primary "no, no". Kissing is a great way to tell someone you trust them. But there is a difference between having a snog on a dance floor with a bird or bloke one barely knows to actually kissing-with-passion (passion is not always sexual).
     
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    My rule of thumb is that kissing is a very good indicator of how good a woman will be during during your first-time sex together, and I suspect the same applies to men too. I have never yet had a woman who was a passionate, dominant, confident kisser who wasn't passionate, dominant and confident at sex, and the contrary applies with a woman who is relatively passive and timid with kissing will be relatively passive and timid at sex too (my wife for example). My girlfriend is a mid-range kisser, and not surprisingly sex with her is mid-range too (but rather nice nonetheless).

    Beyond that, I could not imagine sex without lots of hugging and kissing to start, unless something kinky is planned like role-play, bdsm and so on.

    I'm not so sure about a woman not wanting to be kissed, even prostitutes kiss. One night stands kiss, wives during threesomes kiss me while their husbands watch us. Kissing gets the juices flowing, the heart beats faster, the arousal ratchets up, anticipation is replaced by action, and we both know where that kiss is going to lead. Maybe I've only known women who are confident in themselves, and most likely I've been the one to initiate kissing in any case.
     
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    Onsie- I completely agree.

    Twosie- Not sure? Kissing is very important to some people. So much that it's . I mean psychologists who have commented on prostitutes or porn stars have said that, for various reasons, they don't feel worthy enough to work in normal society (work force wise) so they center their current lives around whatever atrocity occurred earlier in their lives. Self worth, for a lot of them, is quite often fleeting and relatively non-existent.
     
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    While I have known prostitutes on a personal level as well as a client, I wouldn't be surprised about self-esteem issues. They mask it well, but even when you're not a client you do wonder. I had one exception to that, a middle-aged lady who is in the business for the sex, and clearly didn't have any self-esteem issues at all. She was far and away the best kisser I have come across, and it goes without saying the best sex I ever had did follow.

    I wouldn't be surprised that some or many of the one-night-stand women, and almost certainly the wives wanting to be seduced by me, also had self-esteem issues. I had self-esteem issues during the younger period of my life, which is why I had so many casual sexual relationships.

    Nonetheless, regardless of whether I paid for sex, was invited to have sex because of my penis size, met a girl at a bar, or had a friend who I used to share sex with, kissing was always part of what we did together. Possibly I first make the move to kiss, and it followed from there.
     
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    For once dissagree. Prostitutes mostly won't kiss.
    They tend to keep that for their own intimates.
     
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    Well they did with me, but I have only been with up-market women. I was also told, and I don't mean offense, that with some women, kissing (and other things) depends on the client. As far as other things, well, it's surprising how far they sometimes will go.
     
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  20. Essene

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    If I hired a prostitute, I doubt I ever would, I would not want to kiss them. I would wear a condom and pray that it's a sting operation.