[Ask a Guy] Kinky sex

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    Ok I have a question for the guys. My boyfriend recently told me that he wants to watch me have sex with another guy. I'm just wondering if thats a fantasy that a lot of guys have. Because to me it's a little weird.
     
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    I've heard a lot of guys say that, but it's definately not one of mine. I have no idea why a guy would want to watch his wife or GF get fucked by another guy....totally beyond me.
     
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    while it person holds no interest to me..I think it's safe to say it is a somewhat common fetish. I would think long and hard before making any decisions.
    obviously communication between the 2 of you is a key.

    Good luck
     
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    How is it any more weird than a woman wanting to experiment with another woman while being watched? (i'm not just addressing the OP but at society as a whole lol)

    I suspect it's more common than we think. Maybe i'm making generalizations based on superficial observation but i've always gotten teh vibe that within general western society, a lot of guys are inhibited about making such statements for fear as being labeled gay either because they are closeted or don't wanna be labeled something they are not when human sexuality not black and white. Maybe i'm being general, no one bats and eye and perhaps even expects female-on-female experimentation up to full on oral sex without any labels, but wtih guys....they're perceived as gay or bi if he even thinks about kissing another guy. So be happy :) your man is really comfortable with you to share such a fantasy and wants you to watch. But do him a favor, be as frank and open as he is with you. Do you want to watch him? Is he doing it cause he hopes it'll please you...or does he like the idea of being watched? I've got the reverse lol, my wife wants to see me with another guy lol. Not too excited by the idea, but it's her fantasy so i'd do it if she finds someone to bring back to make her toes curl in excitment
     
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    He doesn't want to be with the guy he wants me to be with the guy.
     
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    Misread that (so embarassing!). Theres an old term i'm not sure if it's still in use, a cuckold. A guy who wants to watch it. So it's been round long enough and with frequency to have a name. Some guys just like to watch i guess, to see their girls pleased by someone else. Of all the kinks out there, tha'ts kinda mild but up to you how you feel about it. Do you want to go through with it?

    He might insecure about his ability to give you a wild time, so he wants you to have one with someone else. Or perhaps it's like watching your girl with another chick.....only he'd rather see her fucked...agh i'm rambling, need to see if a mod can clip my earlier post lol
     
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    Lol. No biggie Kermit. I'm not sure if I would do it or not. On one hand I want to because I think it would be fun (he said he would join maybe for a DP) but on the other hand I think I would feel like I was cheating or something. And I also don't want him to have a 3some with another girl, so how can I have one if I won't let him have one. That's not fair.
     
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    You're a good woman :) fairness is part of any relationship :). But yeah if it's gonna make you feel bad like that, tell him. He might be disappointed, but if he's a good man he will feel respected and honored by your loyalty :)
     
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    I have a close friend of mine who is into this. I asked him about it because it just didn't make sense to me. He told me if she can get a different type of pleasure from someone else that he can't give her than he's 100% happy with it. He also said by watching two or three things happen: he might learn some new way to pleasure his wife, its a real life porn going on in front of him, and he joins in after a bit.
     
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    Probably the best explanation we're gonna see :)
     
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    Well I did tell him that I would feel like I was cheating and he said it's not cheating if he tells me I can do it. I guess I just need to have a serious convo with him about it. Find out exactly why he wants it.
     
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    Yeah you'll get a lot better info out of him than us as we're just guessin, he's knowin.

    Well on the one hand he does have a point, he did give permission but ti only leads to a grey area cause it's the same thing without teh sneaking around, but on the other hand he should respect your definition and your feelings
     
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    At the risk of being severely abused; I have often had these fantasies.

    For me it was mainly about seeing my sweetheart in the throws of passion from a distance - and a video didn't quite satiate that. I want to see it live, be able to change angle and focus at any time, smell the smells, hear the sounds authentically, watch the muscles contract and release under the skin in original visual quality, feel the heat emanating from their bodies...

    Of course, I'd never ask.
     
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    Yea I'm really confused about it. Guess I'll just talk to him about it seriously.
     
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    Why wouldn't you ask?
     
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    No risk of abuse, we're all very open, accepting, and understanding here. And fi we're not of the third qualification we'd just ask lol
     
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    I've had a habit of picking the most incredibly reserved fish in the sea - I would know the answer before I'd ask it and decided not to rock the boat by asking anyway.

    I might ask this one, just because I get a kick out of making those very reserved little cheeks blush.
     
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    Hes a voyeur. I'm not so this would never happen for me
     
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    Definetly not a fantasy of mine. I want to be part of the action, not just watch it.
    And if the girl was a girlfriend of mine I'd feel cheated on I think.
     
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    Well he did he say he would want to join after a little while. But yea I think I would feel like I was cheating on him. I just don't know