kink suggestions

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  1. mikele

    mikele New Member

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    Hy all, question. What would be a good inventory of kink tools to have. I want to get crazy and have some fun with the wife. Let me know, and BTW I'm looking for all kinds of suggestions that are for her and me. Thanks
     
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    Nice post I would like to Know some suggestions too
     
  3. Essene

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    Well this is VERY broad. Kinks vastly range the sexual (and non-sexual) spectrum. A lot of people see a "kink" and objects associated with a "kink" as purely sexual when it isn't. I'm not anthropomorphic (aka, a furry/fur) by any means; but I find it interesting that there's a dissociative quality to their lives that doesn't include sex. A leash around one of their necks with a collar can evoke a sense of loyalty or pride. It can also evoke sexual submission. This type of fetish can obviously branch into BDSM; and that's another ball park. They can act on the same level of dichotomy. Not all of it is centered around sex. Much like if I go to work to get paid- there isn't anything consciously associated with that (of course other people may feel differently). It's very odd... I think that even sex itself can be detached from the psychosexual apparatus. Sex can become a punishment, a reward, a chore, etc; and while (obviously) sex is the underlying attribute of "it," it can also dually act as "going to work," or "cutting one's finger nails." I haven't experienced that; but it does interest me.

    That aside, what interests you. If you want to get crazy, that suggests an extreme (to me). ut yo may already be an extreme person. What is crazy to you may be deadly to others. Likewise, what you may find crazy may be tame to some. I'm not a fan of this for myself; but you may want to look into knife/fire/electricity play. Now I warn you, the people I know who engage in such methods of sexual endeavor are extremely... EXTREMELY careful. They do their research. I'd say that they assume, but they argue that they KNOW their limitations. In a safe environment it can yield a great sexual venture. But I SERIOUSLY WARN against going into something like that half assed. You don't want to cut too deep, or use the wrong catalyst for fire, or use too much "juice" concerning electricity. Moderation is key.

    Even in sex you have to be careful. So take that same amount of care and amplify it in those instances.
     
  4. mikele

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    Essence,
    Maybe I need to approach this with a little bit of what I am, you know, to give a little background.
    My wife is 36 I am 42 both fit and look good, we have a great sex life (though sometimes infrequent) and are looking for ways to spice things up.
    I realize that not all kink based on sexuality, but this being a sexual forum and me being new; I thought kinda might be a given... I'm getting to understand just what kind of place this is, and I do like it.

    That being said,I am interested in finding out about different things. I guess when I say "get crazy" I should be more specific about what get crazy means. So you could say my wife and I aren't too over the top but have done some experimenting.
    So I hope that gave a little more insight as to what I am looking for.
     
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    Hm... Well, I don't know much about what is a normal kink, really. I can't tell you what most people will enjoy, I only know what I enjoy! I guess I can tell you about my kinks though =p.

    Generally I very much enjoy being sort of animalized ( I see Essene touch on this in his post). I'm a bit of a furry, but PLEASE do not mistake that for beastiality, I have absolutely no desire to have sex with animals, I think thats just as disgusting as you do! Generally I'll let myself submit by wearing a collar and leash, and some sort of animal 'accessory'. My favorite is pony ear and a fluffy tail, but we frequently do other animals as well!When I wear the collar I feel very attached to the person at the other end of the leash. I'm not sure how to explain that, but I do really apreciate the control my partner has over me in such a situation! We like to go out wearing the leash and ears/tail, and most people don't react too much. They think it's kind of amusing and strange, but generally I suspect most people jsut think it's some kind of joke or two young people having a bit of fun X3.

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    For inside play we usually go a bit further. I'm into something that's called Ponyplay. I don't know if you've heard about that, but it requires some space so if you don't have any large rooms in your house there may be a problem. There's a whole bunch of info-sites on the subject online if you google around a bit. For many, ponyplay barely has any sexual aspect at all. For me it very much does, we are more into this kind of play for the high levels of submission involved on my part (the pony) to the trainer. A pony wears a lot of restraints, and puts on an animal-like behavior. I won't get too far into detail on one, there's a lot of info online and so so many ways of doing it.

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    I generally like to do a lot of roleplay and dressing up, as you may have noticed from what's written above. My closet is filled with various items suitable for this, I guess you could call it a fetish? =p My favorite still involves a bit of anthropomorphic action, so it's extremely common for us to wear simple thing such as ears, tails, hoofboots (really awesome!) and whatever else. We also have a few strapon toys molded on animals that go with the ears and tail we wear...I think for a lot this can get a bit freaky, I know many of my friends look wide-eyed at me when I explain to them what I like, and what I do in the bedroom! For general toys though, that I can recommend anyone have in their closet...

    - A good vibrator is never wrong. It's one of the first sexual item I ever bought =3.

    - Bit gag! It makes you drool a whole lot <3

    - Arm/foot restraints. We use these quite a bit, especially the ones for arms that is always in use for ponyplay (ponies dont have arms!).

    I can't really recommend much more for general fun and enjoyment... It comes down to what you enjoy =3. Some have some pretty deep and strange sexual desires, others are perfectly happy with the sex kind of sex they learned about in school! The important bit is for everyone involved to enjoy themselves =3.
     
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    Who is usually the most dominant and most passive in your relationship, sexual affairs, etc?
     
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    If I was you mike, I'd do whatever you fantasize about. When you're alone masturbating what do you think about? Or find out what she masturbates to. If and when you view porn, what do you tend to gravitate towards? Other than that here are my suggestions...

    • Make her cum in a movie theater or restaurant.
    • Have her suck you off in a men’s bathroom.
    • If she wants to dominate you, let her.
    • If she has daddy fantasies, punish her for being a bad girl by making you hard for her.
    • If she likes females let her experiment with one.
    • If she wants to be your fuck toy then have your way with her.
    • Hot wax can be fun if you like a little pain/pleasure.
    • Leave her dirty notes telling her how you’re going to make love/violate her later and then follow through.

    If you're wanting toys there are always the standards that the porn industry has bombarded us with. :]
     
  8. RideNaked2

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    No matter what kind of kink you get involved in...there needs to be lots of research so that you play SAFELY. Choose safe words.

    Some things that we do: Rope ties, flogging, sensual spanking, massage
    (some of these don't sound like kink but can be quite kinky).
     
  9. Essene

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    A female's point of view.
     
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    Slipikins has it right. You need to talk with your wife and find out what she is secretly wanting. A big part of what makes kink so exciting is doing things that are on the edge of your comfort zone. If you dont know what her boundries are, you wont even know where to begin.

    If you two are just starting out, test the waters with some light spanking, blindfolds.. or even pinning her down during sex. If these things excite her ( as well as you) then you know what direction to head.

    In the end, it's all about communication. Let us know how it works out!
     
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    Going to agree with everyone... Talking with her = good. Tell her what you like/want, hear from her what she might like/want. Coming charging in with something really kinky without any warning may not be a great idea if you don't know she'll enjoy that X3.

    Good point.

    We chose a safe word when we play, and we also have safety "stamp", which you can do with feet or arms (or even head if desperate! X3). Stamping 3 times means timeout. This because my partner tends to gag me and that makes it rather hard to say anything at all!
     
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    I really like the advice that you gave him...if it makes a person horny, then explore it more...common sense?
     
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    I am pretty much into adoration of females and their organs...body fluids...discharge, cum, pee & squirt...I will be happy to elaborate if this interests you.....:D
     
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    Gray matter and bile are delicious.
     
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    My girlfriend was very vanilla prior to me, despite a variety of partners in college. When I started showing her "kink" it was more her saying do whatever you want, and telling me her limits. I'm into pretty much everything other than sharing her. I won't touch guys cum, a guy in any manner at all, and no urine or feces. I'm fine with rimming, but she is completely disgusted by the idea. I have swung before, done a gang bang, mmf, ffm, etc. but all prior to my girlfriend. She's not interested in it, and I didn't find it that much better than our regular sex.

    I like to tie her up. She likes to he hit, dominated, etc. I like fisting her once in a while. She was surprised that she likes it, so we use a dildo/vibrator while I fuck her. We recently bought a double ended dildo and are experimenting with it. I like to use a bullet on her clit while she rides me - gives her a vaginal and clitoral orgasm at the same time. She likes to be face fucked, to have me slap her face with my dick. She likes hair pulling, choking, spanking, etc. After sex, I'll tie her up and play with her clit. She orgasms really easy from this and I'll squeeze her nipples while I lick her clit and use a vibe on it at the same time. I sometimes put a braces rubber band on her clit, this keeps blood in her clit and makes the nerves extra sensitive to the point that touching her clit at all makes her orgasm. She'll use anal beads and butt plugs, but won't let me do anal because I'm quite thick.

    We do public sex. On the hood of her car, mutual masturbation in movie theaters, sex at her parents house with the bedroom door left open, she jerked me off under the table at the restaurant the first time she met my family.
     
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    I'm not sure yet. I mean we have been married almost ten yrs and are just getting more comfortable with eachother sexually
     
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    Sure does excite me except for lee. My wife is a squirter and I love that but prolly not most other body fluids
     
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    You all have some great information. It's really nice to know that some of my freakiness is not so freaky.