looking for your thoughts here...my ex has made it clear that she needs my kids to hate my gf. my ex cant take responsibility for our break up. she and i are the reason we're not together. not anyone else. But she has to blame somebody...... anyway she puts our kids in this bad situation where my kids really like my gf. especially my daughter.who likes doing crafts and painting with her...But when they go home, they have to tell their mom that they hate my gf...and that they just "dont talk to her" when i have them...i want to tell my ex to stop being a child, but my kids have asked me not to because they have to live with her and they cant take the guilt that my ex lays on them for wanting to be with me or actually liking my gf. my son told his mom that he liked being with me and wanted to spend more time with me and she actually accused him of "turning on her" and "how could you do that" My daughter asked me to bring my gf to her softball game, but asked me not to tell her mom that she wants her there...this sorta thing is causing all sorts of problems here, my poor gf that has to be kept in the shadows because my kids dont want their mom to know they actually like her... Any of you have any advice for how to deal with this without hurting the kids further?