keeping it up

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  1. Mr.Tongue

    Mr.Tongue New Member

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    with all the lack of our sex lives, I have always wondered if I was doing enough.

    we try to change things up a little here and there, but I will usually get her off once or twice orally and we'll fuck, I'll only last a minute or two til I blow. but then I am done in that dept. for the night(limp). should I be able to get or keep a hard on for another round in a few minutes.
    is this what the little blue pill is for, or is that just if you can't get it up at all.

    how many round do most of you'se go
     
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    the most times i have gone is 3, i have done that a few times, but going that many times is over rated some times.. I usually wait about 15 minutes between attempts, if i try to go after 5 minutes im fully hard and ready to go, but i can never finish well, its NOT easy takes alot of effort and by that time my hearts racing and im hot and tired and no longer have an interest in finishing.. I dont last super long, 30minutes or so on the first run.. but im not ashamed to say i need atleast 15 min to recoupe before going again.. i usually only go for 2 rounds average.. but when im really in the mood il go for a 3rd
     
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    Mt T you do not give your age and that can be a hugh
    factor, I am 42 and it is going down hill.
    At 21 I had a permanent hard on and if I took my time and did it
    right 5 would be the normal, But I'm talking about an all night session.
    Today I can handle the all night sessions but 3 times would be luck.
    And i sure don't sport a hard on 24/7 like I did in my younger days.

    Hike
     
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    Post your age would help us all. In my early twenties, I was ready to go again after half-an-hour. At 49, such things are rare (but not impossible). In my early twenties, I never lasted less than several minutes, sometimes longer. My first time ever seemed to take forever, but I'd guess it was somewhere between five to ten minutes.

    I think you need to research on how to last longer than a couple of minutes rather than considering PDE-5 tablets. Sometimes I get really horny, especially if I haven't had sex for a few days, and I feel like I am going to come after a minute. But there are ways of controlling that sensation, riding through it, and lasting a decent length of time. There are a few threads about this subject on this forum, and research on the world wide web will also be of benefit. The stop-start technique for masturbation is very effective practice. Personally, when I am having sex and getting aroused too fast, I slow down and use energy recirculation to dampen things. Both of these techniques are easily researched.

    As for tablets, I have minor nerve damage which requires me to take Cialis to get an erection. Very good for those who need it, but also dangerous. These tables lower blood pressure, and can cause sudden blindness. For me the risk is worth it, because I couldn't have sex otherwise. For you, I suggest you improve your technique, because it really is the easier option.
     
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    thanks!, Iam 39. I've always been a minute man, but could recover and go again after several minutes.
    I still get a hard on when the wind blow, morning wood and that stuff especially if it been awhile.

    doesn't the stop/start keep her from getting the rythum to get off
     
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    If your partner is satisfied and its not affecting your sex life, I don't see a problem. I'm sure we'd all like to have the energy we had when we were younger, but its not happening. Enjoy what you've got.
     
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    thats the problem, it may be effecting our sex life, Iam searching for the problem.

    if she enjoyed it wouldn't she want it more than a few times ayear.
     
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    Have you asked her if your performance is, as you put it, "why she only wants it a few times a year"?
     
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    I get the "your great I get off every time with you honey"
     
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    It seems if your partner is happy with you sexualy, then the problem seems to be with you.

    Meaning are you happy with your performances, are you wanting more ?
     
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    Mr Tongue,
    At 39 it is very unlikely you will be able to perform again, and the usage of viagra or cialis isn't going to change things much either.

    My experience with intercourse is that few women are able to orgasm from intercourse at all, and those who do usually require clitoral stimulation by themselves or their partners at the same time as their man is inside. For me, partner orgasm without clitoral stimulation has happened less than half a dozen times, if that.

    My script is oral on my wife to her orgasm, followed by intercourse for several minutes, usually about ten. As I posted, if I am getting aroused too quickly I slow the pace down to almost but not quite stop thrusting. I didn't post that I use this time to connect with my wife, kissing her and caressing her and telling her how much I love her while thrusting very, very, very slowly. This alone slows sexual response like you wouldn't believe. After thirty seconds or so of that, I am good to go again.

    Such a script may interrupt her rhythm to orgasm, but if I came after a couple of minutes then there isn't any rhythm at all! My take is that such a method when it is needed is much better than coming too fast. The second thing is that you don't actually stop, you slow down and draw the sexual energy away. There are different ways of drawing energy away, but the talking and kissing is as good as any. The third thing is that with practice you can train your sexual response without needing to slow down; for me I only employ such a method rarely.

    I think you should go back to basics and masturabation, and practice extending your duration to about 20 minutes. From there, you should re-teach yourself to go beyond a minute.
     
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    You know what they say about assumptions... A woman's libido is excrutiatingly sensitive to a variety of factors, the most common being relationship problems. You have to rule out physical factors first: Could she be taking a medication, or birth control, that affects libido/have a hormonal imbalance? Once you've ruled out potential physiological culprits, then you have look to psychological ones: Is she stressed-out/depressed/unhappy with your relationship? If the two of you have had your fair share of tiffs and annoying the hell out of one another, she may be harboring resentment, and women have to feel emotionally connected to their partner to really want to have sex with them. Things like resentment and feeling rejected, unloved, etc. are going to severely dampen libido.

    The best way to keep a woman excited in the bedroom is to excite her heart--find ways to make her feel cherished and beautiful. That means...become a better communicator, make an effort to be more romantic, find ways to let her know that you're paying attention to her needs and that they're important to you. Have you given her any reason to feel that you don't respect her needs? I know you mentioned that one incident in which you called her "your bitch". Um, you have made serious amends for that, yeah?
     
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    i like to tease myself and her stopping just before climax and useing my tongue and fingers then getting it back in this way you can get all the build up of an orgasm and sometimes you can have a orgasm without cumming and it drives the girl mad