I've been with my hubby for a long time, and started sleeping with someone else recently. It's over, I wish I hadn't, blah blah blah. I've just found out he gave me herpes. I've confessed to everything, hubby is being really great about it all. Much better than I deserve I know. I really feel like I've hit rock bottom. I can't believe how depressed I feel about it. I don't mean to point the finger as I know I should have been smarter but I'm so angry at him (the other guy). I know he didn't infect me on purpose, but I genuinely feel like shit. I feel like a dirty piece of scum, a stupid, diseased little brat. We've discussed it, hubby and I will be using condoms from now on. I've stopped taking the pill to make sure we always use condoms, before we'd give up, not liking the feeling and whip them off. No one seems to be able to give me a 100% certain answer to when I'll be contageous and when I'm not. Won't really be a big deal as we only had sex once or twice a month before. Anyone have any advice for living with this? When am I likely to pass it on etc?