Just Oral?

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  1. Flame

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    Do you ever just go down on your man or woman and do nothing else that evening? What I mean is, do you give oral sex to your partner (no kissing, no foreplay and nothing afterward) and then you both roll over and go to sleep?

    I find it frustrating, as for me oral sex gets me hot and makes me want more. If a man goes down on me and makes me come, I then want to feel him inside me. Plus, if he has just made me come and seen me orgasm, wouldn't he be so turned on that he really wanted sex?

    If I give a man a blow job, I know that it may take him a while to get hard again, but I am all excited then and I really want and need an orgasm too. I find it really frustrating to be ignored even if I then say that I need to finish myself off.

    I guess I just like to do lots of things when having sex rather than a "you do me this time" sort of attitude. So I wondered if that's what others do too...
     
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    My wife and I do just that every once in a while, like when she is getting ready for work I will just sit on the bathroom floor while she does her make up. I love making her knees buckle, getting up and leaving for my job. Gives both of us something to think about all day and the night is really good. She also loves to give random blowies as we call them.

    My favorite just because blow jobs were during the final four last year. Hence the name Dukefan, nothing like having that done while you're watching your favorite team win it all
     
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    i agree it can be frustrating. but, sometimes as the duke fan points out, frustrating is a good thing. ;) typically, my ex would make sure i was attended to first, then i'd start him on oral and we'd finish up with penetration. that said, we did try to mix it up. sometimes just oral. sometimes just hands. whatever.
     
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    i've given plenty of blowjobs and nothing else. sometimes that's all the guy needs/wants and i'm more than happy to give it
     
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    You are sweet. I hope those guys took care of you when you needed it.
     
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    My wife gives me hand job when she's not in the mood s. Sometimes it includes sucking my dick too.
     
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    pffft not in the way you mean, but giving takes care of me too :D
     
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    Yep. Sometimes I am willing to do that. Other times I want more like tonight! :yell My ex came (no pun intended) over for a blow job and back rub but not enough time to give me any. Thankfully I am going to his place this weekend since his parents are going away. So he better FUCKING give me some!!:D
     
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    I'm always in the mood and I always want more! That's the problem!!!
     
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    My ex use to give me head often and we do nothing else, usually while driving or at her parents house. I have gone down on my fiance and ended with that because shethought she was punishing me but I love eating pussy so much that it does not bother me.
     
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    My wife does this at times. She will just want to suck me, and is perfectly happy to just do that. More oftern she'll suck me and masturbate, or will start out wanting to just suck me, but gets too excited, and her "compromise" is for us to 60, or to fuck but then switch back to sucking me when I'm ready to come.

    Her humorous attitude is that I have given her so many multiple orgasms when I have only had one, so she is way ahead of me in that department, and sucking me off at times and nothing else is her way of making it up to me. But if it gets her to excited to purely do that, I do not complain. She'll just owe me something for the future. :)

    It works both ways for us, there are also times I'll eat her pussy to give her multiple orgasms and be happy with that. I get aroused, but I can wait. I will admit it is fun to see her wasted like that. Plus, in a "evil" way, this "delay" on my part makes her even more willing for my "creative ideas" the next time we do have sex. :D
     
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    Oral, more often than not, leads to sex for hubby & I, I can't think of the last time we just had oral then stopped. Hubby doesn't cum from BJs, has only ever done it twice in his life but I'm sure if he did, things would change.
     
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    It reassures me that it's normal and not my man being selfish!!! I used to be very happy with any sexual activity especially giving BJs ... until I met my ex. We had sex almost every day and he always made me come. He wouldn't stop until I came; he would insist on it so I got spoiled (and also the more orgasms I had the more quickly and frequently I came). We split up (not because of the sex!!!) but after years of having a nightly orgasm with a man I really miss it if it's not there now.
     
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    Seems like usually we end up taking turns. I usually get the ball rolling with foreplay and oral, and get her off, then go from there. It works for us.
     
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    Short answer: Yes, we've done that.

    Long answer. After I've gone down, sometimes she feels satiated, but sometimes she'll want more. When she wants more, we usually continue.

    Sometimes, though, especially if it's late, and it's been a long day, she'll have a couple of quick ones, and then we'll both go to sleep. I'm more of a morning person, and she's more of a night owl, so the situation you described works great for us every now and again. I like to feel her cum, and it makes me feel close to her as we fall asleep.

    We have one of those signs over our bed that reads "Always kiss me goodnight." (Yes, that's an intentional double-meaning.)

    Sometimes it's appropriate - but it wouldn't be, if she felt unsatisfied, as you described. Does that make sense?
     
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    Yeah normally when it's the time of the month and Mr Bunny is randy :)
     
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    i enjoy a teaser...i'm not the kind of guy that needs to end with an orgasm. there have been many mornings i've 'slipped it in' for a few minutes then been forced to get dressed and go to work. i tell ya, it's tough that first hour or two when you can still feel her juices drying on your cock and she calls you to ask you if you're "working hard". HA! fuck yeah, i am!
     
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    I take what I can get these days. My wife is occasionally happy to give a blow-job, so I don't protest. I am also fond of giving oral sex, but I do agree that it's nice to have a little normal intercourse in the mix.

    OK Flame, I thought I had taken care of things today, but then I read this and now I'm horny...again. "Sigh":)
     
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    *giggles* Sorry about that!
     
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    That's a good one. I might have to remember it for the next time my fiancee sends me pictures of her masturbating while I'm at work.:lol

    And yes, every once in a while, I go down on her, the she returns the favor, and that's as far as it goes for the night. Other times, we intend to just do that, and end up having a 4 hour long wild and crazy fuck fest.