When I met my husband, 11 years ago, he was in the middle of a divorce and had been jolted pretty hard. (His wife left him for a woman.) We had quite a bit of sex, as is normal in a new relationship, but it was not particularly good. He came very quickly, and I attributed it to the fact that he might be overly excited to be with a woman that liked dick. About two years after we met, we had a baby. (oops) During the pregnancy, and the first year after the baby was born, I gained a total of 110#. I had sunk into a deep depression, and that, combined with the weight, made me not want to have sex. When we had sex, he came very quickly. I figured it was because he almost never got any. Last year, I made some major life changes and lost 60#. I was working out, had gone off all of my medications, (I had a lot of issues associated with being morbidly obese.) and was feeling like my old self again........horny, horny, horny. My husband and I had more sex, but had the same issue, he came too fast. BUT, a new issue had popped up, he has lost interest in sex, it seemed. In the past several months he has done a lot of things to sabotage my continued weight loss and exercise program and has given me nothing but excuses in the bedroom. I want sex all the time now, and I am lucky if I get it once every couple of weeks. What am I doing wrong? I am trying so hard to look better, and turn him on, but he does not want me. When he does oral on me, he pressures me to come quickly, I do, and he hops on and it's over in less than 10 strokes. He will not make any effort to get me to come again, and I am often left alone in the bedroom, with my vibe, as he sits in the living room watching sports. I find myself not even wanting him any more, because I know the sex feels loveless, rushed and unfulfilling. I try to expel some of my sexual energy with cyber nookie and lots of "self love", but it's not enough. I feel like I am loosing it. What the heck am I doing wrong? Oh, I forgot to mention, after 3 years of having issues with ED, he finally, just 2 years ago, went on pills to help with that. The pills do get him hard, but do nothing for the PE, or lack of libido.