Just Married - Is it normal?

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  1. raj

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    Dear all members,

    I am 24 years old male and got married 2 months earlier. It is an arrange marriage.

    Firstly, I will also say that I do not have any sex experience earlier to my marriage (though I used to masturbate). I do not even have seen much porn films. Seen only part of a porn film (5 to 10 minutes) when in college. I also do not have much close friends now (as most of my friends are out of town for their jobs).

    My parents have chosen the girl (through advertisement in matrimonial in newspaper) for me and I got married.

    For first few days, we have not got into sex after the marriage. After a week she actually started the initiative. But what I noticed then that she always wants my face & mouth to her vagina. And in most of the time over her panty. She asks me to lick her vagina over her panty hard. First few days it continued and she used to have her orgasm (I believe, because after severe thrust on my tongue & mouth for sometime with moaning, she used to give few final thrust & stopped moaning).

    Then I penetrated her by wearing condom & have my orgasm.

    This continued for an week. Next week, she used to do the same thing, but now after getting licked over her panty for 5 to 10 minutes. She used to get it off and asked me to open my mouth and put her panty inside my mouth. I was surprised, but she insisted. Then she asked me to lay down and then started to rub her vagina & ass on my nose. Her panty is still inside my mouth. She picked up her speed and then having orgasm all over my nose. I was suffering for air a bit (not severe), but she didn't care. I told her afterwards that I was gagging and uncomfortable a bit, but surprisingly she told that she enjoyed very much my situation when she was riding my face. She told it has made her feeling more strong.

    Now a days she does all the above mentioned things, additionally after having orgasm over panty once (or putting the panty inside my mouth & riding my nose), she make me lick her vagina naked and has her another orgasm.

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    I do not have much experience in sex and I do not have very close friends to discuss this. I have searched the internet and found this forum. I thought some of you may be definitely able to help me.

    It is not that I hate to do what she is asking me to do. If it makes her feel happy then I will do it for her. But is it normal? Do I need to consult her to doctor? [Note: I do not know her past sex experience. I do not want to ask also. As it is an arrange marriage, it may hurt her feelings]

    Thanks.
     
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  2. Mittimer

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    Her wanting to ride your face is pretty damn normal. It feels good, it's common and is actually a fetish for some folks in this part of the world.
    There is absolutely NO reason to consult her doctor. There is NOTHING wrong with her medically and all you would be doing is bringing an unnecessary person into your sexual relationship with your wife.

    What she is doing is pleasing herself with you. It's something that you should enjoy. If it makes you uncomfortable, then let her know. Explain to her that you can't breathe well and find another way to please her.

    Try taking her panties off (if that doesn't make you uncomfortable or her) and lick, suck and rub her vagina like that. Use your fingers inside of her while you lick her clit (the very top of the vagina). That will most likely feel good for her but also keep you able to breathe because she wont be able to grind down as hard on your face.
     
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    Thanks Mittimer for your comments. I am feeling much relaxed now hearing that it is normal.

    I have some idea that females get pleasured when we lick their vagina, but I have no idea that my wife will ask me to lick over her panty. And also, I got tensed/very surprised when she get off her panty (after I licked her vagina over panty for 5 to 10 minutes) and put is right inside my mouth and then she rode my face & nose hard.

    I tried to remove her panty and offered to lick, but she always wants to get licked over panty first then naked. But I am still surprised that what does she get by putting her panty inside my mouth & then riding my face. Is it some kind of feeling to see/hear my suffering/gagging sounds makes her happy? At least she told me that she loves to hear my panty gagged (suffering for air) voice while she will ride my face & moan for pleasure. She told - thinking me getting gagged & choked under her vagina, makes her more excited & helps getting a better orgasm. I just wanted to verify that it is normal. Now I am feeling quite relaxed after hearing your reply.

    Thanks again.
     
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    I'm glad that you're relaxed to know it's normal. Her stuffing her knickers in your mouth is a form of control that turns a lot of women on. It's perfectly ok, it just may put you in a bit of momentary discomfort. :)
     
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    As long as you are willing to go along with this, everything is okay. However, does she let you enjoy sex without being dominated? It sounds a little one sided to me.
     
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    I do not have any issue if this pleases her. Though I get gagged (with her panty inside my mouth) and suffer for air a bit but it is not that severe. As mentioned earlier that I do not have any experience in sex before my marriage, so I am currently doing whatever she wants me to do with her.

    After she is satisfied, I enjoy when I penetrate her, but she does not enjoy much at penetration and never got an orgasm in this two months from penetration. But she allows me to penetrate and have my enjoyment.
     
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    As long as you both are happy, everything is fine then. :)
     
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    Thanks Dragon_Fire & Mittimer both of you. I will keep you posted (in this thread) if I feel any more uncomfortness which I feel odd.

    BTW: I forgot to mention one point. Once I asked her to wear fresh panty before we start the sex, but she wants to get licked over her day long wear sweaty panty & also wants to put her day long used sweaty panty in my mouth (not a fresh one). It stinks slightly, but as this pleases her, so I did not bother too much.
     
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    Raj, consider yourself a very lucky man indeed.
    An arranged marriage and you scored a hottie; boy oh boy you are one lucky dude alright!
    Next time you be the man and rip off those bloody panties and get stuck right in!
    No holds barred dude and would I love to swap places with you can is all I can say!
     
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    Thanks lbushwalker. I am sure that I will learn a lot from this forum. Before this post I was really in doubt. But after Mittimer, Dragon_Fire & Your's comment I am starting to learn/know new things.

    I learn that - "Getting gagged & choked (suffering for air) with a whole day used stinky sweaty panty inside my mouth, but still keep on pleasing my wife, while she is humping on my face, till she has her orgasm all over my face & nose" - is considered to be lucky in sex.

    As I have very less sex experience, so you can get more dumb questions like this from me in future. I am really feeling sorry to think that I was thinking visiting doctor for this...Nooooo ...it's my mistake...

    Thanks again...
     
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    I don't know if I would call it lucky but I would consider it her fetish
    One thing I do wanna say is don't let her take advantage of your inexperience it goes both ways. She's rides your face but have you been in her mouth?
     
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    Dear faceman,

    No, She hasn't offered/told me anything like that. I have never been sucked by anyone before. I don't know how it will feel. Though I discussed this once just by saying "Will you like to like to kiss it or take it in you lips?", but she seems to be not interested in that act. For me, I am ok not to get sucked by her, if she doesn't like (As I have never done it before it does not matter much to me. So why to insist it, which she doesn't like).
     
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    But she seems to be forcing you to give her oral pleasure in a way that is uncomfortable for you. I understand you wanna please your wife but you should never do anything that is uncomfortable for you. At least not as often as he ask you to. That's like anal with my So. I love it but she can't always take it. So the compromise is I get it rarely but I am happy when I do get it
     
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    She mentioned that she likes to hear my gagging/uncomfortable sounds while she will be pleasuring herself on my face. It makes her orgasms stronger. Initially I was more uncomfortable and it was painful too, but as Mittimer mentioned correctly, with time that uncomfortableness has reduced a lot.
     
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    Well if you can live with it That's what counts but please don't think things must be done no matter what just because you are married.
     
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    If you do not like it make it known. Unless it's something you think you can learn to like. If that makes any sense
     
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    As I expressed earlier, I was concerned that it was one-sided but Raj seems to feel pleasing his wife the way she likes compensates for her not feeling much from penis-in-vagina sex. It is only two months, blow jobs might happen later (hopefully).

    Raj, I think Bushwalker didn't really mean that making you gag on her underwear made your wife a hottie, but rather, that she's an active partner who knows what pleases her and isn't afraid to ask for it. Many women of all cultures and circumstances are inhibited in bed and don't even know what makes them happy sexually.
     
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    Thanks. Now it is making much sense to me.
     
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    Dear Mittimer, Dragon_Fire, IBushwalker, faceman,

    Just to keep you updated.

    After getting your opinions, I got much relaxed & also got some confidence to talk with my wife regarding more on sex, today for sometime.

    Couple of discovery I made.


    I asked more about her choices/needs. She mentioned that she had a lot of fantasies from her teenage, which she wants to fulfill with me. And whatever she is doing is few of her fantasies. She also asked me that do I have any fantasy or not. Unfortunately I had not fantasized much regarding sex previously, so naturally I was not able to comment much on this.

    She told me few more strange fantasies and she wants to do all those with me someday sometime. I am not sure I will be able to participate in her those very strange fantasies or not.

    She has an elder cousin sister, who used to be best friend at teenage. She is also married now and in USA with her husband. Me wife also told that, her sister told her about some religious prophecy which she has heard from their family saint (called Guru-ma) about sexual act for the women in the family. But I did not have time today to discuss that. Things are complicated than I thought. The fantasy part I can understand, but this seems to be different. My wife still has regular connection with her sister via mail, phone etc. Within this two months, even her sister has sent her a gift from USA.
     
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    Good luck on all your upcoming adventures and keep us updated