Just how "common" is wanting wife to have sex with other men?

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  1. daver

    daver New Member

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    In another thread, the OP starts off with the premise, "the male fantasy of wishing their wife/girlfriend to have sex with another man is fairly common".

    Common? I may be just a babe in the woods, and I do know that the fantasy does exist (there probably isn't any fantasy involving sex that doesn't exist somewhere, in some man's mind) but I never thought of this one as "common". I think I have a reasonably active imagination when it comes to sexual fantasies, but I have to say that this one has never entered my mind. (Now, her having sex with other women... well, don't get me started!)

    In fact, trying right now to imagine my girlfriend having sex with another man, is something I can only describe as dispiriting and depressing. But, to each his own. I'm just wondering how common this fantasy is among men. And for those who do enjoy such a fantasy, is observing the act an essential part of it? Would her doing it behind closed doors, then coming home and dutifully describing the experience to you, be a turn on?
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    I agree with you. I really do not think this is common. I have never had that desire at all. And I know lots of men who would take a guys lights out if that was ever suggested.

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    That male fantasy isn't common with me, but it does seem to go around with some men.
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    I don't think it's "common" at all either.I think some guys may fantasize about it just because they are so visual and like watching porn,so the thought of it might seem sexy.I doubt very highly that many men really follow through with the idea though.
  5. gphine

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    I'm with the PPs - I have zero interest in watching my wife with another man. A woman though? SHAZAM!:)
  6. LovedUp

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    I can't imagine this being a common desire. Surely if it actually came to pass it would only lead to jealousy and problems in relationships? Knowing this it becomes hard to imagine anyone wanting their s/o to have sex with someone other than themselves...
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    then i guess im the odd one here, it is probably my greatest fantasy to see my lady have sex with some one else, i fantasize about walking in her cheating on me the joining in.it is so great that i once had her give another man a bj when i wasnt around,i couldnt stand, i went over and i was turned on so much but we were interupted. another time she actually wanted to try it again with the same guy but this time she gave head to the both of us at the same time, it was so hot and i wanted to see him fuck her so bad but we both came before we ever got to that point. i ask her all the time but she only wants me. i almost always fantasize to it while i am jacking off, i dont wanna fuck another woman but i dont understand why i want my woman with another man.
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    I think it is just one of those things that can really get some one turned on. I dont believe it has anything to do with the status of your relationship although you can surely make it that way. My husband got completely and totally turned on when he saw me with another guy.
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    some guys may fantasize about it but most wouldn't want it to be a reality

    my man and I have both been cheated on in the past.. when we weren't quite so serious, he mentioned he'd love to see me with another girl.. we've gotten more serious now and he has changed his mind - he doesn't like the thought of sharing me with anyone, man OR woman :D which is perfectly fine with me... I wouldn't like to see him with another woman OR a man (though guy on guy turns me on, I don't want MY guy involved ;) )
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    I will add, he would never want me to do anything with another guy or girl without him. He says he doesnt mind sharing me , but will not give me away. i guess I am to much to keep all to himself !!!!!!:naughtydance
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    thats what im always telling my woman she is so great that i wanna share, she makes me feel so good that i want other people to feel the same......but she just wont understand....:mad
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    I could never think of my wife with another guy. I think as lovers she is mine and I don't want any other guy with her. I get mad thinking about it.

    Now call me a hypocrite but a threesome with my wife and another woman is a surious turn on for me. But I guess its different because she wanted to try it also. We actually tried it once and I must say while it was amazing, But me with my wife felt different then with the other woman just cause of the love i have for her.
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    I would love to see my wife with another man, it totally gets me off. I dont have a desire to be with another women but I dont think my wife believes me.
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    I agree. My husband is not jealous, but I just know it is not something we would do. Maybe he fantasizes about it:lol I've not thought about that--I'll ask:lol

    I won't do it--although I have thought about it and thinking about it is a turn on. Maybe I'm also "visual" Actually, I AM visual, not nameless nudity and porn--that is kinda boring.

    I like the idea of two with nobody watching.
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    This isn't a fantasy of mine, but If R wanted to experience two guys at once (me being one of them), I would probably go along with it. I know she wouldn't share me with another woman, though, and I'm alright with that...

    T
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    This is my number one fantasy. I would love to see my wife take two men. I have spoken to her about it and I think she would like to try it because she had only been with two guys before me and I think she feels that she has missed out. She had never received or given oral sex before me because of her culture and I think she would like to try out her newly acquired skills.
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    I think it's common for the guys that are lacking in the weenier department to want to watch GF/wife get pounded by a larger penis.
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    Too_thick is quite right, and I have done this many times (with a wife a few days ago while her husband watched us, and another couple booked for late January). In total, five couples over the past 12 months: three where the husbands watched us and two where the husbands joined in.
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    In answering the OP and my T, this has always been a fantasy to be with two guys...what woman wouldn't want to, at least in fantasy. I however don't think that I would ever really want to make this fantasy come true. The only way that I would want it to come true is if it became a fantasy for T to enjoy the other cock as well or to watch him enjoy it. :)
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    I'd have to disagree with this. Everyones fantasies and turn-ons are different. Some guys like to watch their women be pleasured, some have to help pleasure them. Seeing my wife turned on turns me on. If she just wants me to watch for a little while first, I ok with that. But she better not leave me out of it. Then there is some that only want to hear about their wifes sexual experiences after a night on the town. That's not me. I have to be involved. As long as our experiences are together.