[Ask a Girl] Just Curious ?

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  1. policescanner1

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    I was just wondering why do some women just refuse to to give oral sex?
    My soon to be Ex Wife refused any shape, form or fashion of giving me a blow job. When I pressed her for an answer as to why she just said it was not for her. Now I'm sympathetic to anyone who has a sinsitive gag reflex. Also I understand the thought behind now wanting the guy to cum in your mouth. But what is the reson behind refusal for oral sex ?:ugh
     
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    Don't have a clue, I've never been turned down for oral.
     
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    Sorry. I don't have an answer. I think in life there are things that we like and things that we don't like. The only way to know is to ask and even then, she may not be able to articulate it. My wife used to love it. She would devour me. I could go on and on. But now she just doesn't like it. We have talked about it and she gets frustrated because she just isn't able to put it into words. I've learned to live with it. There are too many other reasons that I love her to let it get in the way.

    There are different objections and they overlap to some extent. There are obvious soltions to some of them but it may not be convincing. In no particular order: cleanliness, odor, taste, visual (face it cocks and sacs are usually ugly) mess, social stigma, prudence, fear of disease, dislike of the subserviant nature of it. Self consciousness of being watched, discomfort in the common positions required by oral, aversion to the "porn" aspect of it, the effectof social mores that define "sodomy". Control issues, vulnerability, even selfishness. I guess what I'm saying is that even if sexual desire is pretty much universal, specific sex acts are not. Think about it: if sexual pleasure was the same for all people, then homosexuality (which is a minority) wouldn't exist.

    All of that being said, I always found that the best time to ask for a blowjob was when my partner was in the afterglow of an earthshattering orgasm brought on by my tongue.

    At that. Moment all those reasons not to blow, just don't seem as important.
     
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    women are fickle? i dunno. i don't flat out refuse to give head, but if he hasn't bathed since the last time we had sex, i'm not going down there. i've also refused until he took a weedwacker to his bush, but for the most part, bjs are par for the course.
     
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    Thanks Everyone for the insight
     
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    Dunno either, wife would never do all but GFs can't get enough.
    Moral of the story here; don't marry!
     
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    I don't know I love giving head....but not everyone likes the same things.
     
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    Dude I once dated a girl (SHORTLY) who thought oral sex was immoral. ??? Okay, we weren't married, but still, I didn't want someone who thought that. I figured if things went on, I didn't want a wife who thought that.
     
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    some girls don't, some girls do...

    But don't give them oral back :p
     
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    Oddly enough my wife is the opposite. She would rather give a BJ than do anything else.
     
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    nothing better then a bj :)
     
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    My wife does not like to give them because she will orgasm while giving and would rather go with me in her pussy. I know its weird but its the truth.
     
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    now that's pretty fng hot, mrsbiker:rose likes to cum when she's going down on me but usually uses a vibe when that happens. i can often cum when o go down on her, too.