This is my first post after visiting for sometime. My problem seems to be very common, so more than anything I'm just venting a little in a place where I can. Happily married for 13 yrs to a woman I love very much. I consider her my best friend, I've never strayed nor has she that I'm aware of, and I don't care to do so outside of fantasy. In any case the problem is her low libido and of course my high libido. We both live stressful lives workwise and I know this a problem for her and she has a hormonal imbalance as well per the doc. Don't get me wrong, we do have sex typically once a week and we both enjoy being very open with each other and have never been afraid to explore each other's desires to see what fits us. Like she describes her sex drive "it's like trying to jump start a 747, but once it gets going it's going to fly." She enjoys sex, we watch porn together, she has toys, and she does orgasm and occasionally multiple times when she lets me take her the "distance". it's really good sex imo when we have it. I know part of the problem is me, I sometimes find myself obsessing about sex, I love it. I could have sex everday and typically take care of myself at least once a day. Heck, after we have sex I might take care of myself several times the next day just thinking about it. We've talked about it quite a bit, but nothing seems to change no matter how I treat her or we go about our lives. She once tried testosterone patches & creams, but (this pisses me off) quit using them after just a week for some reason. Our typical encounter is after a few drinks. That's fine, and I imagine she relaxes a bit and forgets about work & our kid for a little while with a little buzz going. Like I said, I'm just venting a little. I know I should be happy to have the relationship we do and be happy with the sex we do have being something I crave. But, I am frustrated a bit so chime in with any comments you may have on the subject.