judge me all you want..

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  1. ashflirts

    ashflirts New Member

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    I absolutely love humping pillows...
    It feels so good against my clit.
    I watch porn as I do this...I can be done in two minutes or can drag it out if I want.
    I've had ex boyfriends who do this also..they could get me off dry humping
    But I've never orgasmed during sex (all 4 guys couldn't last more then ten minutes)
    I'm afraid to tell my current bf I hump and don't finger..
    And I'm also afraid ill never like sex more then dry humping..(I like his hard dick out of his boxers while doing this)
    Any advice? Or have I just been with the wrong men?
    Heeeeeelllp!
     
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    it just might be your more sensative to clit stimulation have you ever tried a vibrator on your clit while having sex? if it its fun thats the way i do it my gf is the same way she gets off better if her clit is stimulated
     
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    I am afraid to talk to my partner about it.
    He is very controlling and I think he would be mad If he thought he couldn't satisfy me.
     
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    I'd say you're with the wrong guys, I'm just getting warmed up after 10min. Have you tried various positions?
     
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    Doggy style...bottom and top :p suggestions??
     
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    seeing your pic was right on my hunch...im straying from the point

    exploring and finding what you like so...clit stimulation it is! not an issue of not liking sex or being with the wrong men. think more of what you did and/or best things should have done to encompass that sensation you love by humping the pillow. gearhead had one option of using a vibrator as a help..but who are we kidding...vibrators arent always handy and who has time to load up the energizer batteries when thing are getting hot? :p try positions that stimulate your clit. whether it is missionary with him flattening your clit with each thrust full weight of his body behind it....or maybe the sudden rhytmic pulsing on your clit doesnt do it for you and you need more continuous simulation to build excitement. then maybe cowgirl with him inside you and your rubbing just like you do on the pillow but instead on his pubic bone, pressing down on it and gyrating yourself...try a few see what you like...either way you shouldnt have any reservations after a few tries :p
     
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    as backcheck said, 10 minutes is nowhere near long enough especially if your not warmed up
     
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    I wouldn't worry too much about it. I thought my sexual life was a bit out the ordinary and after a few months of sifting through posts here I find that things of this sort are very minor to many other people's sexual desires, lol. To each their own... pillows it is.

    You're body is acquired to that type of stimulation. I really think it's a matter of being penetrated enough to being used to getting off that way. Maybe you've dry humped more than intercourse. Me for instance before I used to be sexually active on a consistent basis used to do it the hard way(dick in hand:eyes) It took me some time to get used to getting off in a pussy. Same concept I'm sure:D
     
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    What doo you mean my pic was right at your hunch?
    Thank you and I seriously appreciate all your opinions...
    We jus started officially dating two weeks ago so we have not had sex...
    I jus want to enoy it this time.
    But about pillow humping..don't knock it till you try it! ;)
     
  10. Mira

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    If that is truly the case then IMO it's the wrong guy. You need a sexual partner who you can communicate with. Does he think you are having orgasms? If so, why, are you faking or telling him that you did? If so, I would stop.

    Maybe start by just rubbing yourself while having sex, if he doesn't object keep going.
     
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    I was typing while you posted this so some of what I just posted doesn't apply. Big thing is communication, letting him know what gets you off so that he can use that to his (and your) advantage.

    As for the pillow humping, I don't think anyone will judge you. I don't see how it is any more "strange" than a shower head, or an electric toothbrush, or toy specifically designed for that purpose. If it works for you that is all that matters.:)
     
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    Haha you're cute..Mira.
    Thank you for not judging...your right about that.
    If I wasn't babysitting id be on a pillow right now haha
    I will try talking to him... but it will be hard to admitt this fetish of mine.
    Wish I could find a guy who'd hump with me...now that would be hot presex. ;)
    Wish I could type more but I'm on my droid and its quite annoying...it also logs me of the site everytime I stray to a different forum..
     
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    if he cant endulge the fetish with you then hes not worth it, id try anything mySO wanted to try to make her happy
     
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    Awww that's adorable! But I really like this guy. I'm goin to college in the same town and I'm goin down there a month early to be with him...
    But I also don't wanna rush into sex. But with him being nine years older I'm guaranteed to have to fuck him soon...waaah
     
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    dont treat the age difference as its such a big deal, its only a big deal if you make it one
     
  16. Mira

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    Something you may try while not rushing into sex is watch each other masturbate. Ask him to masturbate for you 'how he does it while alone' and then reciprocate. An easy way to let him know. Honestly I think that most guys would enjoy watching a woman hump anything while enjoying themselves.
     
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    Don't feel obligated to have sex with someone all due to age. I had a younger gf at one time and she made me hold out even though it drove me insane:lol
     
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    Its a big deal yo society tho..
     
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    Yeah, you should never feel obligated to have sex with someone for any reason.
     
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    only if your like 16 once your 18 who really cares..and too many people put too much emphasis on society who the hell cares what they think, your trying to be happy with yourself not be happy with them..sorry half of a vent