My wife and I are celebrating our 19th year today in fact. Over the past weekend we had another couple and one single guy over for some group sex. We have played with each of them in the past and there has always been one issue. I am jealous of the single guy. He is a great friend of ours but there has always been an attraction to him from my wife and him to her. Anytime they are drunk it is like to magnets, hard to seperate them. She swears it is safe and she would never dop anything without me yet .. I have caught them several times "just messing around" or "so and so was just here with us". Honestly one night was the worst. It was a normal night no group sex or anything but we were in the spa with another buddy (gay) and she turned the lights off and the bubbles on and was trying to jack him off infront of all of us. I turned the light on and the bubbles off but she did it again. I stood up and left ubruptly. They knew why. She never fessed up or apoogized for it. I am afraid what might happen when I am not there. The last weekend thing was 3 guys and 2 girls. The guys are all straight and one girl is bi from the waist up. LOL My wife is more then happy to go down of vice versa. So there was small play between the girls no other action then kissing and sucking boobs. The other guy (married) was sort of just there... he played with my wife but I didn't see anything major. The single guy and my wife were 98% toghether all night, which I guess I was too with the other wife (since mine was taken) She never kissed me or sucked/ fucked me or even looked at me, once his pants were off. I felt like this was her way of getting what she wanted without straight out cheating. Obviously I know that there is more but she said it is not love or even lust. She also has a hard time facing the truth. While I am honest to the core. I do not want to ruin our group sex fun, but dont think I can have him there ever again for those nights. We have had the "talk" as husband and wife in the past and it does not seem to sink in how much this hurts me. (She doesn't understand how it is ok for other people just not him) My question is what is the best way to not loose a friendship but not tempt them either? (I am at the point where I think it may be best, but I am the jealous one too ....) 1. No drinking when together with him... possible but sort of boring. 2. Honest with him (he will just never call us again) 3. Get over it... she comes home to me everynight 4. Just don't invite him out when I know there will be copious amount of booze. 5. Punch him in his dick?