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  1. xbearkatx

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    hiya im 20 ive been in a relantionship for a year and 2months and in the begining to half the relationship my bf told me who he'd wanked over and it made me feel physically sick and now i wont let him watch these people which i think is fair enough because when i told him who i'd done it over he kicked of when there was a documentry on them but i only said it bacuase he'd said it sort of getting him back but i wouldn't of said it otherwise i constantly think of it and it knocks me sick sometimes i think i'm going to finish him over it and then i think im being stupid i really hav a problem with it i defianatly dont want him waching porn he watches it with me if it isnt with me then hes finished how do i stop feeling like this?
    thanks :)
     
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    holy run on sentence batman :lol

    okay first off.. I don't see the need of being jealous of him wanking over people he's never going to meet (or him being jealous over you doing it)

    almost ALL men masturbate - unless he's got a porn addiction, let the man have his pleasures when he's not with you - as long as you still have a healthy active sex life together, there's really not a problem, right?

    men don't have to be horny to go jack off. my man does it out of habit, stress, and boredom. there are some days he's done it more times than my body would have been capable of comfortably having sex..

    IMO, I think you're being jealous over something so minute that I wouldn't end a relationship over it. If it is a serious problem to you, suggest relationship counselling and if he won't go, then you go and maybe a therapist can help you understand why you have a problem with it and help you get through it
     
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    Jealousy destroys trust and relationships and feeds a vicious circle.
     
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    I really have a problem over him jacking off over anyone but me i know this is wrong but i cant help it it really makes me ill when i think of him doing it over any one else
    also i didnt mention we do have a un healthy relationship well i think so but its weird because my ex i wasnt bothered what he done over anyone but the lad im with now i do and seriosuly it makes me cry my eyes out thinking of him having a wank over people even before he met me i dont know whats wrong
     
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    When guys need a physical release, they almost never even imagine an emotional or romantic connection with the images they use to stimulate their masturbation.
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    Not intending to minimize your question, xbearkatx, but as a moderator note; please try to punctuate enough to make your sentences embrace a single thought, or maybe two. Reading those run-ons is a real head splitter.
    Thanks.
     
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    thats how my wifey is... in the beginning she hated it but i stll did, thn i our love and relationship grew i stopped watching it, i used to have almost every tori lane video, until she asked and pretty much begged me to stop, i got to the point to were i loved her and respected her as a beautiful woman that i did and i asked her to stop hanging out with two bad friends she had and she did.like alwaysleraningsex said jealousy destroys trusts and relationships maybe hes just stubborn or he doesnt have enough love or respect for you to stop, but your relationship will definitely will not last if this jealousy isnt resolved....
     
  7. lbushwalker

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    xbearkatx you got to get it into your pretty head that guys will wank at the thought of almost anything and everything including his real or imagined sports car.
    That does not take anything away from you nor make it competition.....well on second thought the car or bike might ;)
    Nah, your guy is behaving perfectly normal it would seem.
     
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    Maybe look at yourself. I know that jealousy can stem from a lack of self esteem. You don't think you are good enough or that he is showing his feelings towards you strong enough, that you feel challenged by him getting off from porn or anything else.

    I'm anti-jealous usually. I kinda wish i had a bit of jealousy :)
     
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    Can't you read?
    What did Rocker say in the post immediately before yours?.....
    The way you and the OP write posts....jeeesus, it makes your stuff hard to read!!
    Is it any wonder why some members on this forum aren't taken seriously because they lack the ability to spell or even put a basic sentence together!
    end rant.

    Now....back on topic....with regard to the OP.....
    This thread has got immaturity written all over it....
    Your seriously thinking about splitting with somebody because they were honest enough to tell you that they had fantasised about someone else while they were masturbating??
    IMO....get a grip and grow up FFS's.....:eyes
     
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    Masturbation is perfectly normal, especially in men. It seems to me that you are mistaking sex and love. There is nothing to be jealous of, he is simply taking care of his urges, which is healthy. It should only be a problem if porn becomes an addiction whereby he is loosing focus on his relationship with you. Equally you should have a healthy fantasy life - after all there is nothing wrong with pretending he is Brad Pitt is there?

    He chooses to be with you, and that should be enough. As others have said - jeolousy can be down to poor self esteem and until you address that your relationship can't develope and evolve as all relationships need to.
     
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    To the OP, weren't you the one that said she made and sold "extreme" kinky videos? Yeah, it was you, I'm sure of it.

    So, it's ok for you to make videos for other people to whack off to but, you can't handle your b/f watching porn? That's really fucked up, methinks.

    I think maturity IS the issue here.
     
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    Immaturity and insecurity, maybe you need to be single for a while. You're very young and it sounds like you need to work on yourself as a person, and your own issues.

    I can't understand how such a short relationship can be so messed up, I know at that stage in my current relationship it was all sex, flowers & fun.

    I think it's time to call it a day, take time out for you and try to sort yourself out.
     
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    I was thinking the EXACT same thing. I just upon waking up didnt feel like writing it all out. lol

    Now that I have breakfast in me, I can say "Yeah, what she said!"
     
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    When I first saw this thread I wondered how long it would be before someone picked up on this. :p
     
  15. Texas_Red

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    Well, seeing what has been brought up in the past few posts makes what i was going to say almost moot, but I'll say it anyway.

    A little jealousy is healthy, I think. You should want to be the only object of desire in your partners mind. But jealousy at this level reeks of self confidence issues, and is destructive.

    In the words of Ice Cube: chickity-check yo self before you wreck yo self
     
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    AGREED!
    I think I you're seriously saying that THaTs why you wanna break up, your jut looking for an excuse. You're insecure about your relationship. Probably worry about your man comparing other ladies to you. And we all worry about it t one point or another. You'll learn that you are you. End of it. You can't change, neither can they. You can't handle it, move on