I'm young... just turned 18 and i've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. The problem is that I have never reached orgasm with him during sex or heavy petting or by myself. I don't even think I've come close. Part of the reason I think is because I focus too much on either getting one or what is happening around me to get one. I have a vibrator I bought from Spencers as something to try when i was younger and it didn't ever do anything for me. I'd get good sensations which I normally get for about 2 seconds and they go away... and this generally happens when I'm alone masterbating. Is that an orgasm? ...because if so, that's dissapointing. I soon get tired after I hit that little peak though. ...but again, that's only happened when I've been by myself. My boyfriend has told me he sees a difference in my lubrication after he's fingered me for a while. He has told me it has the consistancy of ejaculate even though I don't feel as though I have come. What's happening here and what can I do to help?