Issue with GF

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  1. Adramalech

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    Well, we have been together for 2 years and sex has never really been an issue. We have broken up a once due to misunderstandings or having to hit the brakes because things were moving too fast IE: Moving in with each other very early on. And now things are "normal" in terms of we live on our own and space out when we see each other. But now when we have sex, I can never bring myself to an orgasm. I will get her going 2-3+ times and she kinda gets upset because i'm not reaching climax. It's nothing she is doing wrong, and i've been able to climax before our last "mending", but now it's like, I just can't for some reason. I know it's mental, I just have no idea how to go about this. And she thinks its something she is doing wrong even though i'm telling her it's not. Any insight? :bow
     
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    I wonder what light therapy is, Think I will google it.
    This could be it but it is something to think about

    You didn't say how long you have been having the problems
    Has anything else changed drastically in the last year, eating or sleeping habits.
    does She still kiss you goodbye and hello every day. Lust a thought.

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    Light Boxes Bring Sunshine to Every Day

    If you just don’t feel like yourself during the fall and winter months, you may be like many other Americans and suffer from seasonal depression. Seasonal depression, also known as Seasonal Affective Disorder, or S.A.D., is a real problem for those who are susceptible to the effects of reduced natural sunlight, and can cause lethargy, weight gain and other real effects. And for years, most people who suffered from seasonal depression couldn’t do anything about it. Until now.

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    Can you reach orgasm by masturbating? Maybe you have something physically wrong with you that has just popped up (terrible wording, that, sorry) since you two have gotten back together and it's just a coincidence. Dunno, just a thought.
     
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    I actually thrive during the winter months best so I don't think it's that. And it was right after the last break up so to speak. After we got back together and talked everything out, it started happening. We have been back together for about 3 months now and it is quite annoying. In terms of other things changing...My diet is pretty much awesome right now. I have much more happiness then ever before due to my new diet and the gym, and taking supplements, etc...I have been losing weight and yet building muscle so she has been really enjoying that IE :drool hehe. She still kisses me and if anything, she has been even more affectionate ever since we started being more open with each other.

    In terms of masturbation, yes I can reach orgasm by myself, and she has giving me handjobs that sent me over the edge. It's mainly intercourse.

    My schedule is as follows:

    Mon-Fri:
    Work
    Gym

    Cardio on thursdays

    Sat:
    Gym

    Sun:
    Rest

    I eat roughly 5 times a day and I have a ton of water intake so I don't think it's diet related. And I slowly switched into this diet from my old one which was crap so it wasnt a cold turkey shock when I went from fatty to healthy foods over 3 months.

    Supplements:
    Flax oil 3-4 times a day
    Amino acids 3-4 times a day
    Protein shakes 3-4 times a day
    200mg shots of Caffeine 3 times a day
    81mg Bayer 3 times a day
    500mg Maca root 6 times a day
    Ginkgo Biloba 2 times a day
    Echinacea 4 times a day
    Yohimbe 3 times a day
    And a milti-vit every other day.

    Diet is mainly water, chicken, salmon, peanut butter, oats, salad, and red potatoes.

    And it's not that i'm running out of energy, it's almost like i'm afraid. She's on the pill and I keep it wrapped so I know chances are very slim, but I don't know...it's like walking on the high wire even though you have a safety net below and you're attached to a harness. I guess that's my best guess anyways. Thank you. :eek:
     
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    You are not allowing yourself to let go fully with her.....

    Something is scaring you maybe...

    pm me if you wish......dont wanna get flamed for my views AGAIN!!
     
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    Post your views. Screw what others think. After all, that's what makes you unique right? :D
     
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    Cheers Ad.....

    Well I pmd you anyway....

    But I agree with thriving in the winter months.....Scorpio people like the "dark" dont they?

    Make good vampires.....:)

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    YEAH! WE WANNA SEE BLOOD!!

    :lol - Where did the "Seasonal Affective disorder" stuff come from? someone must have deleted their post :shrug

    Anyway, the guy lives iin Central California, for gawd's sake!!! - Doesn't sound health related.... definitely a mystery. Unless, you have emotionally moved on? - And don't know it - or don't want to admit it to yourself? Sometimes, making a big (and good) change in your health and ultimate appearance can make you desire newer experiences as well.

    Just a thought.
     
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    Rose.....

    Just a BRILLIANT thought.......

    And i dont know where the heck the SAD thing fits in if the man lives in California....either???

    :)
     
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    Scorp, that pic reminds me of a band called Blutengel. And we get some pretty crazy weather here also, just because it's cali doesnt mean i'm immune to mother nature. I love the rain and I love driving in it. Driving sideways around the mountains is fun. :D
     
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    Sexy this is a message board,and you are supposed to say what and how you feel about things.No matter what you say,someone is not going to agree with you.If we all had the same opinion
    about things there would be no need for a forum.Say what you feel.
     
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    *Looks at avatar* I SEE BOOBS! There. I said what I saw. :lol
     
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    Hey

    Thanks barbie.......i will say what I feel........

    :)
     
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    Oh my goodness,he said Boobs.:D
     
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    The funny thing is, she LOVES it when I bite her neck.
     
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    You mentioned that your girlfriend is using the pill and you still use condoms. I'm not going to tell you not to do that, but keep in mind that apart from abstinence, the pill is the most effective form of birth control there is. Condoms on the other hand, have a comparatively high failure rate. The extra protection afforded from using a condom in addition to the pill is minuscule.

    My suggestion is that you are so afraid (paranoid?) about her getting pregnant (as evidenced by the amount of protection you're using) that you are psyching yourself out, as it were. Therefore, you simply won't allow yourself to finish inside her. It's the classic mental block.

    However, I don't have any suggestions for you as to how to get past it. You should tell your girlfriend that it's definitely you, and not her.
     
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    Interesting view you got there Puss in Boots. And well, I have to agree with you. Because we used to not use condoms, she used to just use the pill, but then after we got back together, we started to use the condoms as well and I think that's where a lot of it came in. I think also, in the back of my head I feel that she might not trust me the same way I trust her.
     
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    The experts talk about the women's mind and orgasm being related.

    While most of the time. us men are just machines, our mind can really fuck us over.

    I have thoughts on two things.

    1. Is it possible, you are no longer confident in where your role is in this relationship? Is she now independant, and could that be eating at you? Has her personality become less attractive?

    2. Do you speed time looking at porn.. Porn will desensitize you in a heartbeat.


    Maybe you need to set some goals in the relationship, and see if she is in tune with that.

    Good Luck.
     
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    Her personality has some quarks I admit, but nothing out of the norm for her. In fact she has become a bit more open minded to things. And in reference to porn, I honestly don't look at it all that often. My time is occupied with my businesses which give me little free time, and that free time I do have I spend with my GF or hobbies.