Ok, so I posted a similar thread earlier about this subject but never really came back to it til now. I want to elaborate a little better about Wifey and I and our situation so I can get some good feedback. I will check back frequently to read some responses and answer any questions that come up. Here goes, we have been married for 15 yrs I was 23 and she was 22. I'm the only guy shes been with and I've only slept with 2 girls before we were married. So we basically grew up learning sex from each other and for the 1st 10-12 yrs of our marriage it was pretty vanilla. Then after we had our 3 kids I started to push for some more risque things in the bedroom and it led to some good stuff like toys and bondage until I tried talking to her about a FMF like every other guy eventually does. For like 3-5 yrs our sex life definitely got better but the FMF never went anywhere, just idle chit chat every once in a while until finally I started to get the picture that that probably wasn't going to happen. So I continued to do more online research and that's where I learned about swinging and MFM threesomes and hotwifing and after awhile I realized the idea was surprisingly turning me on. So I started watching porn where guys share their wives or watch their wives get fucked and it turned me on even more, until one day I innocently brought the idea up to Wifey. Now here's where my questions come in. Cuz ever since I brought up the MFM it was like the complete opposite effect than the FMF had on her. We openly talked about it all the time. We went online and watched that kinda porn together. We would even go online and send each other videos of what we thought was hot while I was working and she was home. Finally we moved on to role playing and talking about other men while we have sex and used "toys" to help. After about 6 months of all that my best friend needed a place to stay. Hes been my best friend for 25 yrs and they've known each other ever since her and I first met, 20 yrs. So I asked her if we could help him out and let him stay with us for a couple months and she was ok with it. Now Wifey has loved massages for as long as I've known her and my best friend loves to give massages and speaking from first hand knowledge hes dam good at it and my wife knows that. So ever the opportunist I decided to see if she'd be willing to allow him to rub her shoulders one night while we all watched tv. To my pleasant surprise she said yes. So with that I set it up. The next night my wife and I got the kids to bed early because we had planned to ask him to rub her that night. TO BE CONTINUED... There is a lot more I promise...just want to cut it off now so its not too much to take in all at once. (sorry) I'd really love all general feedback about any and everything from everyone especially pertaining to what Wifey's feelings could be. Also, just so everyone is clear, up to this point the thought of him rubbing her was really turning me on.