Is this threesome considered a relationship??

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  1. Tommy B

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    Well, hello guys, it's been a month or so, almost 2 months i guess since we first had our mfm threesome, we all are straight!! the other guy is a close friend of mine and the girl is someone we just used to know and have seen her like 5 times only but since then we are very close the three of us. it's just not the 3way sex, we also like to spend time together, go for food, drinks, movies, trips and we do too many things the 3 of us. Since our first time that we had the 3some none of us had sex with other people and never lets say me and the girl without my male friend or the other way, it's always the 3 of us together and we really like it. We have never express our feelings, there are no feelings i assume (well i mean we care for each other), we just enjoy the whole thing.

    So what exactly is this? a threesome relationship (if something like that can happen)? or just a friends with benefits thing? What are your thoughts and opinions?
     
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    I don't think you need to label it. You are all having fun, so just enjoy and don't worry about what it is for now.
     
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    yeah i agree, i'm just wondering though...
     
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    Liked sweet said, don't sweat it. Sounds like everyone is happy and its working out pretty good. Don't over think it long as you all are having fun. Call it what ever you want. :)
     
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    Only the three of you can decide what it really is.
     
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    the good thing is that we all 3 are on the same page and we dont want to change it
     
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    It is a good relationship, just not the usual kind but why worry about giving it a label?
    You get on well as a threesome and like being together not just for sex so all power to you three and may I hint at a little envy!
     
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    maybe cause its the first time that i'm in to something like this and i'm a little confused where this is going, also it's a secret (i guess) and i dont even know how to behave in front of other people
     
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    I've never been in that situation; I've been questioned but never took anyone up on it. My guess is that one is there for the emotional side of the relationship and the other is brought in to enhance the sexual experience. Tread lightly and don't outstep your boundaries.
     
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    I just want to peep in here and say that "I'm very happy for you 3" :):):)

    And enjoy it while it's happening, something like this doesn't happen everyday. If you need to "label" it, look up the word "Polyamory". There are several variations of it. I don't know if you guys fit into one of those categories or not but the word just popped in my mind as I read thru your thread.

    As far as "Other people".....None of us can advise you how to proceed in front of your family (or friends) because we don't know them. But to the Outside World, just Be Yourselves with each other - however that is between you 3. :)

    For Fun - go to Café Press and look at some of the T-shirts/clothes they have. I have some T-shirts that say "I'm with Them" and it has an arrow pointing toward each guy. ;) :D

    Best of Luck to you three Tommy.
    xoxo
     
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    Couldn't have said it better. The only people who worry about labels are the people who aren't part of what they are labelling ;)

    Just enjoy your mutual friendship with the benefits that brings as life is too short not to make the most of it. :)
     
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    thanks guys for all your response, we will keep it that way... yes in front of family or friends we keep it casual (just friends) but these last days when we are somewhere with people who we dont even know e.g. i like kissing her neck while she is touching our other male friend and similar stuff like that, but we try to keep it cool when others are around
     
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    Yes!
    Lol
     
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    Is there any sexual interaction between you and the other male?
     
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    I agree with the other responders, you don't need to put a label on it. Since there are no deep feelings for each other, it's not Polyamory. It's similar to people who get together regularly for tennis, bowling, golf, etc., except that for you guys it's to fuck! Keep at it, and enjoy.
     
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  16. Tommy B

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    nope, we both love to please the girl
     
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    i agree that labels could ruin this but as i said i was just wondering what is this? or if there is a general name for it. we see it as just spending time together doing things that we all 3 like
     
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    Yes and we have
     
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    you have done something similar??
     
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    That is a shame, you all might be able to double your pleasure ;)