Is there such a thing as "dating" anymore?

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  1. Nastia

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    I was just wondering.....since we are in the realm of people "hooking up", is that what we all want nowadays? Singles do it as a way to 'date' and married people who are straying are doing that also............what gives? :eyes
     
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    Interesting question. I grew up in the US but now live in Sweden. In this country it seems like the whole idea of 'dating' as we know it, is kind of strange. This is a much more progressive country, environmentally, socially, sexually, and other ways, and it seems as if people would rather just cut to the chase. A guy might walk up to a girl and instead of asking her out for coffee or a drink, would ask her if she'd be interested in fucking later on. People do end up falling in love and getting married but it they are more realistic and up front about dating and courtship.
     
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    I think it all depends on the person. There are people looking for a long-term relationship, potentially leading to marriage or a permanent partnership, and there are people who just want to hook-up. I think you have to be upfront with people about your goals and make sure that you're aware of the other person's goals from the get-go so there isn't any miscommunication.
     
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    I agree, it depends on the person... a good friend of mine is taking a break from her longterm relationship to get to know herself better and she has actually had some luck with the 'dating' thing... a few coffee dates and a romantic dinner... her quote was "This is so weird, I've never had a bigkid date before!" cuz around here dates are bars and hookups
     
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    Dating is boring.

    There still is such a thing as dating. I have several friends with full time, long term girlfrineds that 'date' & enjoy the experience. Personally, I find dating boring. To me, going out with a girl, having a few drinks, maybe some food and then steamy hot n sexy sex is all I need. The headgames and BS that comes with long term relat's and dating just does not turn my crank.
    Still, dating can be fun for some. Just not me, I get bored easy.
     
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    Ok......so dating is boring to some, expensive to others. I have a divorced, single male friend who would like to get back into the game but sees it as an exhausting "too much work" thing. He has a nice home, a great job, and enjoys just being available IF the opportunity presented itself. I would like for him to be happy (he 'says' he is)......but his actions say otherwise. I think he is being selfish, which is ok, but at what cost?
    Any male thoughts here?
     
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    Dating is BORING .... unless the girl is not.

    I'm no Dr. Phil ... but he might need to get in touch with his fun side again. Get out more do some crazy things. Maybe, for the mean time hire an escort, a lady that is the girl of his dreams. Have some incredible hot n sexy, streamy, sloppy - latex fueled sex. We all need top reset and recharge our batteries. It's a guy thing. For some. If not, then join a local bird watching club and enjoy the outdoors.

    :slong
     
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    Have some incredible hot n sexy, streamy, sloppy - latex fueled sex.

    I think he would be into that.....:bow ...I should suggest it....:brow.
    He is 'nocturnal', an all night gamer sooooooooo...bird watching is definitely out...maybe bat watching!
     
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    Get out there!

    I am happy to hear he has a friend like you who cares. Maybe you could set himup with a surprise date? :phat