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Discussion in 'Ask a Guy/Girl' started by 7orca2000, Jan 20, 2012.
Cuz my sex partner always says something that I could have done better but idk what to do... help!!!
the fact that youre asking how you can make sex better is good enough,
keep up the good work
Ask him to explain exactly what he means.
Ask him for specific graphic details. Make him feel comfortable, and you cannot become offended or take it personal if you want him to be completely honest.
I think that you have hooked onto a very controlling and demeaning man. He's trying to keep you down, subservient. He won't change so get rid of the fool and look for someone who will appreciate you.
You may not feel like telling in detail here but HE needs to be more specific, or to be specific. "I could have done better " is vague.
As long as there is communication and willingness, respect and fairness from both sides, you are on the right track.
Every man has his own sexual style, and we have no idea what your husband is wanting out of sex. I have my preferences, other men have their preferences. Your husband needs to be more specific.
It would probably be more pleasurable if he would stop thinking about and telling you things you could have done better. :-/ I agree that you need to talk about what he means more specifically.
Generically speaking, Nina Hartley's videos always have something educational anyone can use.
As others mentioned, specifics would be helpful.
If you're going to go down the video or DVD route, I prefer the Sinclair Institute DVDs myself. The Hartley one I saw was a bit porn-star-ish, but the Sinclair Institute ones we watched were more mainstream but spicy (and had the desired effect on my wife).
Men like it when u talk dirty and tease. very erotic stuff.
That's a hell of a leap, you got all that from her one paragraph?
I agree with most of the other advice. Then if he continues to be vague, maybe it is a control thing. I hate to assume the worst about a person without giving them a chance first.
Y'all realize she hasn't returned since she's posted that, right?
Actually she returned a month after she posted it, just didn't respond. It's now been a month since she last returned
Sorry, I dislike posters who amble in and take up bandwidth asking for advice and not even respond a simple "thanks".
I'm cranky today I guess
It's ok, I get ticked when people do it too
Ask him what he needs, or what he's craving. Maybe change up the sex positions, role play with him, have fun! Don't hold back during sex.
On the positive side, such threads could open up useful discussions among the rest of us.