[Ask a Guy] Is there anything that can make sex more pleasurable?

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  1. 7orca2000

    7orca2000 New Member

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    Cuz my sex partner always says something that I could have done better but idk what to do... help!!!
     
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    the fact that youre asking how you can make sex better is good enough,
     
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    keep up the good work
     
  4. Dragon_Fire

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    Ask him to explain exactly what he means.
     
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    Ask him for specific graphic details. Make him feel comfortable, and you cannot become offended or take it personal if you want him to be completely honest.
     
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    I think that you have hooked onto a very controlling and demeaning man. He's trying to keep you down, subservient. He won't change so get rid of the fool and look for someone who will appreciate you.
     
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    You may not feel like telling in detail here but HE needs to be more specific, or to be specific. "I could have done better " is vague.
    As long as there is communication and willingness, respect and fairness from both sides, you are on the right track.
     
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    Every man has his own sexual style, and we have no idea what your husband is wanting out of sex. I have my preferences, other men have their preferences. Your husband needs to be more specific.
     
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    It would probably be more pleasurable if he would stop thinking about and telling you things you could have done better. :-/ I agree that you need to talk about what he means more specifically.
     
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    Generically speaking, Nina Hartley's videos always have something educational anyone can use.

    As others mentioned, specifics would be helpful.
     
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    If you're going to go down the video or DVD route, I prefer the Sinclair Institute DVDs myself. The Hartley one I saw was a bit porn-star-ish, but the Sinclair Institute ones we watched were more mainstream but spicy (and had the desired effect on my wife).
     
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    Men like it when u talk dirty and tease. very erotic stuff.
     
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    That's a hell of a leap, you got all that from her one paragraph?

    I agree with most of the other advice. Then if he continues to be vague, maybe it is a control thing. I hate to assume the worst about a person without giving them a chance first.
     
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    Y'all realize she hasn't returned since she's posted that, right?
     
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    Actually she returned a month after she posted it, just didn't respond. It's now been a month since she last returned :p
     
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    Sorry, I dislike posters who amble in and take up bandwidth asking for advice and not even respond a simple "thanks".

    I'm cranky today I guess
     
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    It's ok, I get ticked when people do it too :)
     
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    A woman........?? :p
     
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    Ask him what he needs, or what he's craving. :) Maybe change up the sex positions, role play with him, have fun! Don't hold back during sex.
     
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    On the positive side, such threads could open up useful discussions among the rest of us.:)