Hello all, I realize it's hard for you to judge since you don't know all the details, but here goes anyway I hate not having a clue on what women want and think. There is this new colleague at work and it feels like she's hitting on me, but I'm not sure. And I have no idea how to react on this. Basically, we have this chat system at work (that doesn't record any logs) and she always initiates the conversation in the morning. Throughout the day, we chat . Last week she asked about where I live, if I smoke and what my hobbies are. Nothing special eh? Yeah. We also chitchatted about what how we think about relationships in general. Still no big deal. But today, she said things and I have no idea if these are hints or not. I might be seeing things that aren't there, or I might be totally oblivious as usual. I think she's not interested and that I'm simply to clueless to be sure about it. Anyway, we started talking about relationships again and she said she thinks it's ok to have "casual sex". Meaning she thinks one-night-stands are fine. A bit later I said I was single and that it probably was because I had a weird personallity. She answered "I wouldn't be so sure about that. I'll tell you once I found out myself" and added a smilie. Some time later, I casually said how I liked women who are sportive (knowing she's into cycling big time) and replied "Is your fantasy going wild " Now the conversation is starting to get more awkward to me... Much later she jokingly asked if I was "dry". In Dutch, "being dry" means you're not sexually active at the moment. I replied that yes, since I'm single, I am "dry" indeed. She said that being single also has it's advantages. Later, we started talking about sleeping in the spoon position (no we were not talking about the sex position, just the sleeping position) I jokingly said that the spoon position for a man is not that ideal since the result is a sleeping arm and hair in your face. She replied "pfff. My hair smells good". She also said (probably in a joking manner too) that me not liking the spoon position to sleep might be a reason I'm single. I said "What? That's the only problem you find?" she replied "I'm still testing the rest of you " Ok so... now I totally confused. What the hell does this all mean? Is she giving hints and am I too oblivious to pick them up? Or am I seeing things that aren't there. I have absolutely NO idea on how to react to this... argh I wish I could understand women better.