is it supposed to hurt?

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  1. sexual_entity

    sexual_entity New Member

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    hey, i'm john and this is my first post, so hey everyone.

    I really enjoy my sex life, just as much with my hand or with a girl. honestly, it never really mattered to me which. i mean it does, girl over hand, but you know what i'm saying. any ways, i masturbate a few times a day ranging from 0 to 6 times, depending on the amount of free time i have. lately, some times I'll spend hours browsing porn. not exactly for a solid few hours, but my problem is this: i really like porn, and it causes me no extra strains in life, the only time i ever do this for hours at a time are most likely when i get home from work and i have the day off tomorrow. my only problem is that some times, even if i'm not masturbating the entire time i watch porn, my genitals hurt in a weird way. but the next day i'm able to walk it off, and it goes away. my question is, is it okay to do this as long as it goes away the following day?
     
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    I really think that more than a couple times a day is overdoing it. You say you enjoy masturbation about as much as sex with a partner, and imho, that's not a good situation, especially if you want a solid relationship with someone. Supposedly, too much masturbation can do that to men. (Women too, I suppose.) Your penis gets used to a certain grip (tight, fast or whatever), and a woman's vagina can't duplicate it.

    As for hurting, other than the long-term effect of desensitizing your penis, I don't think you have to worry. If you rub any part of your body excessively, it will become raw from the friction, and your genitals are no different (other than being more sensitive than most parts of your body),
     
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    I'm not sure about excessive pain, but soreness will be normal. Can you elaborate on the "weird way" that it hurts?
     
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    I think I would spend some of that time going out
    to the mall or park and look at real women, Maybe you will learn to
    appreciate that 3rd dimension, Not just what you see in porn.
    Don't get me wrong, Their is nothing wrong with porn. But when it
    starts taking the place of the real thing its time to cut it back.

    Hiker
     
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    Yeah, what Hiker said.
     
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    I'll 3rd what BH said. Spending a few hours every day browsing porn isn't healthy, hon. You shouldn't have that much free time to devote to sexual pursuits on a daily basis. It sounds like the porn/masturbating has become a substitute for more meaningful activities, and not necessarily dating, interacting with people in a non-sexual context, too. Do you have friends? Do you have hobbies? Would you say you're a happy, fulfilled person? I think you'd do well to spend a little time reflecting on the overall quality of your life and whether or not you're really happy with your life as it is at this moment. Best wishes to you :)

    P.S. Any inexplicable pain should be checked out by a doctor, FYI.
     
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    this is really hard for me to admit, but despite what my profile says, i lack a lot of things in life. i wasn't ever really social, and as i got olderi noticed how disconnected and self-motivated my family is.i would really love to turn myself around, but to be dead honest with you, we all fool ourselves into thinking we're better than we really are. i think the ability to socialize freely to any broad extent is the -- or /a/ key to happiness. we act on tasks in life as though they have to be done, rather than really focusing and enjoying it. that sounds easy, but porn addiction or no addiction, the life i see through these eyes is and always was null and void. i don't know how to change it, so one day i gave up.
     
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    ahh, that doesn't have really have anything to do with sexuality. please excuse my off-topic rant.
     
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    No need to apologize...I think it has everything to do with sexuality, as it's certainly had a huge impact on yours. I won't insult you with platitudes about not giving up because you deserve better, blah, blah blah. I've struggled my entire life with depression, so I understand better than many what it feels like to slip into apathy and surrender to the status quo. If ever you want to talk about things, feel free to PM me.
     
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    Yeah man, If you have a real problem, everyone is very nice here we like to help.

    Ah, yes depression, I had a fair share of that in my days, me and Bluesy have talked about it a bit.

    If you ever get tired of pm-ing a beautiful women then you can pm me and I can talked to me as well

    Hope you are feeling better, take care
     
  11. bsydemyself

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    maybe try and cut down a tad and see if it still happens?