Is it o.k. to want a threesome when u are married

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  1. iceangel802

    iceangel802 New Member

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    I have been married for almost 6 months now and now I am thinking about what it would be like to have a threesome I am kind of scared to ask my husband because i dont want him to think im bi. I also dont know how to approach the subject with him.
     
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    Don't know

    Don't know if it'll help or not, but in my experiences I haven't met a guy yet that didn't want to be a part of and wasn't more than happy to jump on the threesome bandwagon. Of course it could just be the kinda guys I go out with. Most of them when I tell them that I wanna include one of my girlfriends in some stuff are all about it.
     
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    Honestly I think you'll be alright as long as the third party is a woman. Now if it's another man he may not like it too well. My wife and discussed this issue once and told her I would like a threesome with her and another woman but there's no way I would let another man touch her. Then again, he might be up for it either way.
     
  4. Logger

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    Extra Lady along

    Dear Angel,

    My problem with an extra lady along, is that the door is then open for my wife to have an extra partner by herself. Since I am a jealous type of man, then how can I object to my wife banging another guy, if I have been banging another girl? Whether it was her girl friend or not?

    Fantasy and enjoying pronography is different from actual adultery. If you give permission to your husband to play with another woman, then what are your limits? Is it OK with you that he bangs other girls anytime?

    50% of marriages end in divorce. What are you going to tell the judge when you get divorced, and you can't agree on kids or money?

    You are posting annonymously here, but when your marriage is in trouble, secrets often get leaked out. Are you ready for that kind of reputation?

    How often do you enjoy porno videos wtih your husband? Have you made porno videos with your husband? Have you read Kosher Adultgery by Rabbi Boteach?

    One of the things that hapens is that what you may get started, with one limited idea in mind, might mushroom into something that you did not anticipate. What if the girl gets pregnant and decides to ask for child support? What if your husband starts spending more time with your girl friend than with you?

    I knew a guy who was into wife swapping. He could go to a party and pick any married woman, and his wife would arrange the swap, without fail. He said he never knew what his wife said to the woman, or the husband, but he would end up in bed with one beautiful wife after another. The problem for him was that wife swapping was destablizing for him, and he ended up in a mental hosptial, and got divorced.

    I am not trying to rain on your parade, I sometimes fantacize about the idea. I once thought I had an oportunity for an extra girl friend along, but I deliberately nixed it in the early stages. Not because I did not want to, just because I did not feel I could manage the situation. You do not seem to have a number of possibilities thought out of how you would handle various scenarios. I am not saying that a marriage cannot survive with one, several or many threesome encounters, I am suggesting you try something short of encouraging adultery.

    If you get all the boundaries laid out and processes established, post back an let me know how to work out the details and pitfalls.

    You remind me of an opportunity I had to take a young woman on her wedding night. I was just dancing with her at her wedding reception, and she was falling into my arms, and I had to encourage her to stay with her husband. I think 6 months of marriage may be an early stage to intentionally introduce temptation. I admit I have found happiness by trying to adhere to the simple Biblical rules.

    Blessings,

    Logger
     
  5. Logger

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    Happy Valentine's Kendrababy

    Dear Kendrababy,

    I have enjoyed your posts, and I think you are eloquent in your wording and style. I see that my post on this thread did not adequately display the respect and deference your posts deserve. You have added class and insight to the Forum.

    In case you are still inbetween relationships, I will wish you,

    Happy Valentines Day,

    Logger
     
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    Kendrababy New Member

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    Thank you very much logger. I appreciate the thought.
    Never been much on valentines day thought even when I'm with someone, just way too commercial.
     
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    Threesomes

    On Threesomes, BiBiBaby recently under the Gay section:

    "I wouldn't exactly recommend a threesome unless you're REALLY comfortable with your man and trust him to the utmost extent. I thought I did. Would have trusted him with my life. but after we had a 3 some i was so extremely uncomfortable, constantly felt as if he were about to leave me. especially when the other girl was around."

    End of BiBiBaby post.

    I don't know how her realtionshi is now, maybe I will ask.

    Logger
     
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    Try a threesome with your husband and another man,it's great.Having two men play with you at the same time and then having sex with them is heaven.
     
  9. Logger

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    Dear Robin,

    Thank you for adding some fresh approaches to the forum. I have been feeling that I have been allowing my feelings of possesiveness keep me from plesures or advantages that I might be missing. I have never found a guy with whom I felt comfortable sharing my wife. What kind of relationship should a husband have with the extra guy? How can I be sure things won't continue when I am not around? I'm glad it worked out for you. Maybe you can tell us how to make that work with an increased comfort level.

    Blessings
     
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    Threesome


    My husband and I have 3some's all the time. They are a lot of fun :) . I especially like bending over giving one a bj while the other licks my twat and my ass from behind. The feeling is unbelievable. Then when we go to fuck, I get on top of one while the other fucks my ass nice and hard. I have the most awesome orgasms :brow when both of my holes are filled at the same time.
     
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    As far as threesomes go I agree with Logger that it can produce a very sticky situation if the couple is not TOTALLY committed to each other and have the utmost trust in their relationship. With this in mind I would like to offer a different approach that has worked for my wife and I.
    Although we were both interested in a threesome (preferrably with another guy) I was uncomfortable with it being a friend or someone local. Just to much can go wrong and as logger said the possibility of to much temptation for the other party could be a problem. Our solution to the problem was to try it on a long distance basis. We had planned a trip to Orlando Florida back in May and used Adultfriendfinder.com to locate the type of male we were looking for. He was willing to go for it and we made arrangements for a meeting while on vacation. It was the ultimate sexual experience for both of us. My biggest fantasy has always been to watch her with a well hung black male and hers was to have a well hung guy, regardless of color so it worked out well. I got the visual I wanted and she got the most intense sex she ever had. (using totally safe sex at all times) We have not looked back on the experience with any form of regret or jealousy because the guy is so far away from us a casual meeting is not really possible and because of the fact that none of us shared last names, phone numbers or addresses.
    One thing is for sure, we have agreed that this will be a yearly vacation activity. We feel that once a year makes it even more special than doing it all the time and next year will be my turn :brow . Our plan is to try different scenarios each year. With a website like adultfriendfinder.com it's fairly easy to find the type of person you are interested in.
     
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    i have never done anything like these, my wife is not that open like a few of you guys. but i'm willing to try or experiment anything that might put more thrill on our marrige. you could try meeting a couple to share probably might help also since both have to loose in case something bad happen's.
     
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    Why don't you want your husband to think your'e bi? I'm not married myself but I imagine that a trusting and honest relationship would be preferable. Are you a jealous kind of woman generally or pretty relaxed? You could start with pointing out girls and saying that you find them attractive just to test the water and you may be able to guage his reaction. Most men find the idea exciting to have another woman in the bedroom but don't know how to go about suggesting it or what to do, boundries etc, while some men clam up and don't want to know, (not many mind u) try talking about your fantasies, like he tells you one, then you tell him perhaps. You might just find out a bit about each other you had no idea about and some extra fun might cum as a result :D