is it even possible for an escort girl to "enjoy" her work

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  1. the_traveler

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    it is seems unlikely. but even some women told me so. still i cannot bring myself to it, (maybe if i'm on stims)
     
  2. Trond

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    Is it possible for porn actresses to enjoy their work? Plenty of them say they do, and I think being a prostitute can be more "fulfilling" than porn given that the girl in question knows how to take care of herself. For instance, she can have kids later on without worrying about them finding one of her naughty tapes from the past.
     
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    I don't see why not. Sex can be/is enjoyable. There's no reason doing it for money would suddenly remove the enjoyable part of it.
     
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    You are male. Why do you care if an escort "girl" can enjoy her work?
     
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    I don't think the question was that odd. People will tell you different things, depending on whom you ask. Try comparing answers from a Scandinavian hard-core feminist and a porn star for instance.:D
     
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    It would be interesting if one took money out of the equation. Would they still enjoy it as much?
     
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    It could be the fact that for some guys, it ruins it if the woman isn't enjoying it. There's a reason guys don't like it when a woman "just lays there".;)
     
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    FM hits the nail right on the head.......:phat
    There are two perspectives here....
    Knowing several people who are involved in this industry (my own daughter being one of them).....
    I can tell you that an escort is far more likely to get repeat business from customers who feel that they (the escort) are also enjoying the experience as opposed to someone who just "lays there"....:eyes
    The same can be said from the escort's view.....when you get a customer who is also sensitive to your needs and is eager to please you.....the job takes on a much more pleasant outlook.....
    Many escorts will just work from a select group of regular customers who they get to know.....it's varied job for sure.....:D

    It's all about those involved, majority of people are put off if the other person is blasie' about it....
     
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    but considering that's 6'3 220 pounds, my looks will most surely get in the way
     
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    What they said!

    If I'm with a woman, be she a prostitute or my wife, I want her to be enjoying it too. I derive pleasure from pleasuring her.
     
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    Yes, but is it simply a question of whether or not she "just lays there"? Certainly a "good" prostitute (good, that is, from a business standpoint) will be aware that the way to get repeat business is by at least going through the motions of enjoying sex, whether or not she really is enjoying it. Any intelligent man would be well aware of the fact that the moans & shrieks emitting from the woman he paid to have sex with may well be "performance art". And yet, it seems that some men have no problem with that.

    Perhaps there are 3 types of men in this regard: those who have no concern for whether the woman's enjoying it, those who need to be absolutely certain that she's enjoying it, and those who want her to enjoy it, yet don't let any doubts about her genuineness trouble them. I sometimes wonder whether that latter group has a certain degree of overlap with those men who enjoy watching professional wrestling - another endeavor where you need to "put aside" your awareness that the people you're paying to see are just putting on an act for your benefit.
     
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    If you think it will, it probably will. Otherwise that's just your imagination, a lot of women like big guys. No reason a big guy isn't just as attractive to women as a smaller guy.
     
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    I have seen escorts as a client, and also had some escorts as my clients when I was an information technology consultant. One escort I saw was one of the rare women who actually did it for the sex, and we both had an amazing time over three hours. Other escorts do get aroused, as you would expect, and while orgasms can be faked, other signs like ejaculation cannot. One who did ejaculate told me later that she was very pleased with what happened, as many times she got aroused but not all the way and had to finish herself with a vibrator after the client left. Another one screamed so loud when she came that they would have heard her in the street, and she said the same thing, the regular cycles of arousal without resolution caused a lot of sexual tension, in a way of apologising for her very noisy orgasm.

    One a more personal note when I was setting up some websites and getting to know some escorts, there is no doubt that the girls like a 'nice' client, especially clients who are married. Married men, apart from being the backbone of their work, know about women and sex better than single men. Regardless of the client, they will give him an enjoyable time for the repeat business; they are in it for the money after all. But they also admit to really enjoying the sex when things are going well, and actually looking forward to seeing certain clients who turn them on.
     
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    but surely the same paramters for arrousal and an enjoyment apply or looks as well as expirience, when they came in, i allready had prepeared the bills layed out tot them, as well gave them a cold flavoured water from fridge (was a hot summer) they said i was cute , but won't mean they will enjoy me.
     
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    I gave a couple of examples of escorts who were aroused as far as orgasm with me, and also of some escorts who admitted to being sexually satisified with some of their clients. Beyond the work and the money, they are women after all, and women have an advantage over us men in that they can be aroused to orgasm, and still go home to their partner and do the same again, as if nothing special happened earlier in the day. But the reality is the majority of escorts aren't aroused or sexually satisfied by the majority of their clients. I honestly don't know what part looks or build play in an escorts level of arousal, and the other problem I have is I can't visualise 220 pounds either (is it big, slim, what?). In my case I am a compact 170cm and about 58kg: so short and slim. Obviously that worked with some of the escorts, or maybe it was more my personality, my sexual talents or even my penis size, or all of the above!

    At the end of it all when I saw an escort there was a reason for doing so, and the sex was always good, at worst it was generally better than most women, and I was always satisified with the outcome, even if it was obvious that she didn't get anything sexual out of it. In some cases the women DID get something sexual out of it, which was more satisfying for me, and after they left me it always made me contemplate the strangeness of what had just happened. But I think if a man sees an escort, it's best to have a reality check about what's likely to happen between you and her (good for you, another client for her).

    To take this one step further, the television series 'Secret Diary of a Call Girl' is very close to the truth, and clearly has had a lot of input by real-life escorts.
     
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    Cbr.....did you ever watch the Australian mini series called "Satisfaction"?...
    A series following the lives of several women working in an upmarket Melbourne establishment....
     
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    Hot Wheels,
    No I didn't watch, but I did get to know some up-market escorts on a personal basis, so I was able to view the reality rather than the personna, which I assume the TV series did as well.